they think i will regret it. and dont really love my boyfriend enough.
they dont know what goes on through my head, because if they did they would see that im ready and that i love him so so much. i just cant tell them how much i do because i will sound "cheesy" to them.
i mean isnt it my descision? but i think what if they are right.
but at this moment i know im ready.
they tell me they will "tell my mom..." if i do.
ha.
what should i do?
2007-08-07 09:17:55 · 36 answers · asked by Elana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do what you want to do! If you want to have sex, then have sex! Make sure you use protection though. (I really hope you're not 13!)
2007-08-07 09:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by alli8188 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to have sex make sure you protect yourself. You may think you love this guy and he loves you but what if you get pregnant is he going to be there to help you raise the child or leave so you have to do it on your own. I don't know how old you are but having a kid in high school is not cool because you miss out on being a kid yourself. Take time and make sure that both of you know the true consequences of having sex and not just your mom finding out either. Think STDS and pregnancy. Are you ready for either if they happen to you? Then you will really have to have a serious heart to heart with your mom.
2007-08-07 09:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you like sweetheart, just be careful. I know you're a smitten kitten right now, but don't do anything you might regret later. Use protection, get birth control, and you know what, tell your mom first.
"This is the man I love, and I think that entitles me to having a mature relationship."
That way you're off the hook. But, take what your friends say to heart, take a look at the man in your life, is he a good person, have you overlooked his bad qualities for the sake of the relationship? Your friends think they're helping, and maybe they really are.
Or a good old standby, flip a coin.
2007-08-07 09:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by Zee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly think you are completely ready, don't listen to them. They want what's best for you, but sometimes friends just dont undestand, especially if they havent had the experience. Just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons, and it sounds like you are. Friends sometimes dont know what they are talking about. It's none of their business if you are having sex or not. It's your life. IF they tell your parents, you have every right to be mad because they have no right to do that. Tell them you appreciate their advice but the ultimate decision is up to you.
2007-08-07 09:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by katie :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you don't sound ready... Adults do not kiss and tell. The intimacies in the bedroom are not to be discussed except between the two people participating in the act. Just the fact that you would tell a friend means that you may not be mature enough to handle this type of intimacy. (Just my humble opinion.)
2007-08-07 10:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not old enough to make this decision on your own then most likely please refrain from having sex. We all have been there where we think we are in love. Come to find out later in life you could have waited or not the right person. If you think this is the one. Even waiting more to make sure would not hurt. Why rush? If it is love, just like the last answer wait till marriage.
2007-08-07 09:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by cw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it, you only live life once, enjoy it as much as possible while you still can. Yes if you didn't do it by the time you were married you'd look back and be happy you didn't do it, but theres also a 50/50 chance that even that relationship won't work out... so don't think about it too much. If sex makes you happy then do it.
2007-08-07 09:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I assume your under 18 because you care about them telling your mom, second do it if you want and don't tell any one. Just be careful once you start you can NEVER stop, and WHEN you and your boyfriend break up you will then have sex with any guy you can so you don't feel all alone. You will then have the reputation of a slut.
2007-08-07 09:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by Scratchy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ready? I can only tell you this one thing to "really" think about.
Ready or not, your virginity is the most special gift you can ever give away and you can only do it one time. Do you want to give it to someone you more than likely will not end up being married to? How cool would it be on your wedding night to give that one special gift to the man you are going to spend the rest of your life with?
Ready has nothing to do with it. Please just think about it.
be cool...
2007-08-07 09:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they just care about you and don't want to see you make a mistake. Give them the benefit of the doubt, and ask them to give you more of a reason why you shouldn't than: "You'll regret it"...maybe they see something you can't see. It doesn't seem to me like they are the type of friends that will just tell you no to be mean. Give them a chance.
2007-08-07 09:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by Shay_Shay03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I had sex the second week that I dated my boyfriend and we have been together for 1yr and a month the ninth. My friends told me I wood regret it and don't they're just jealous that you love someone and are that mature to go into a sexual relation ship.
2007-08-07 09:32:53 · answer #11 · answered by Textin 365! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋