Is This Going Anywhere..Or am I just Dreaming(over 21 plz)?

Question

Okay so Im in in the same situation with the same guy. We've been "friends" for 1 year now. Recently I finally got frustrated and told him that I can no longer do this(sex). We didnt speak for 4 weeks and finally he sends me that lame send a rose text to everyone you care about text and another one stating "Isnt it ironic how we ignore those that adore us,adore the ones that ignore us, hurt the ones who love us and love the ones that hurt us"text. What is he trying to say. He tells his mother about our arguements, she adores me. He asks my sister if Im seeing anyone. Recently, I went to a wedding and he wanted to know if I was going with anyone because he would be jealous. But he never tells me his intentions with me. He pops in and out of my life every two weeks. Im so in love with him, I love everything about him. I think we would be perfert for each other.He only said he cares about me, and that Im a good woman. Please can any man or woman give me some sort of input. Im miserable

In a heated arguement I told him that I love him and his respones was yeah right. He also talks candidly about the pain of his past relationship. He tried everything, even bought this woman a car and engagement ring, and she told him that she no longer loves him and to move on, which was almost two years ago. Maybe this still hurts him. We even purchased cars together, (White Trucks) same week. He told me that we would always be "friends" even in the nursing home..(what's that about) He also has a child from this previous relationship that I just adore, and he said that he would never have any other woman around his child other than me..Im so confused guys. Ive never been in a relationship before.

Answer 1

If you want to be with him but don't want to be used just tell him that you still care for him and want to be together. The only stipulation is that you want to take it slow and not have sex with him. If he cares about you, he wont care. Plus you'll fiture out what matters most to him: sex or you.

Answer 2

Well, that's a tough situation. Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too.
Have you told him that you love him or feel this strongly about him? ...and all he can give you is that you're a good woman? Yikes. Honestly, I'd find someone new. I know that will be hard after all the time you've spend together but it just doesn't sound like he wants anything more serious than what you have going on. He can be jealous and concerned when it's convenient for HIM, but no other time. That's not fair to you!
Good luck.