My boyfriend held hands with another girl named Crystal. He said that he just did it because she wanted to make a guy that she liked jealous. I found out this information from Crystal two months after it happened. She said that my boyfriend made her swear not to tell me. I talkled to him about it and he said that he didnt feel any romantic feelings when they held hands and that he was so sorry that he did it. Should i forgive him or kick him to the curb?
2007-08-07 09:00:38 · 25 answers · asked by Julie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him
2007-08-07 09:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by EW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you ask that question looking for an honest answer ? ? Well i think you already know what to do the question is will you follow through with what your head or heart tells you to do? I guess I have a question to ask you. . . why would you give your love or even want to be with someone who doesn't love you? looking at the facts which you ur self stated about this boy, I have gathered that he clearly cares nothing for you nor does he hold any regret about what he has done and if he has confessed that he has love for another it's a pretty good indication that some time in the near future he will either cheat again or leave you behind for that girl!! and the fact that he tells you that he will not give up talking to his ex's is not only a slap in the face but further proof that he is a pretender !!!! For future advice I think ur best bet is to bite the bullet and show him the door, trust me you deserve better then that. . . well good luck!!!
2016-05-21 00:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by esperanza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's a good guy, but for some reason he thought you wouldn't understand and make it all out to be more dramatic than it should have been if you found out about the hand holding thing in the first place.
It was just holding hands, and it was two months ago, I think I am starting to understand why he wouldn't want you to know.
2007-08-07 09:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like the incident was really that big of a deal to them. But they did realize that you wouldn't like it. You do have a right to be miffed, I'd tell the boyfriend that keeping a secret like that is hurtful. He should have told you about it right away and explained that he was helping Crystal out, not helping himself to Crystal.
2007-08-07 09:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by real_kiss_fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you kidding me? he held hands with a girl as an act of jealousy to her boyfriend. this is jr. high stuff. and i think this is silly. you are pandering the leaving or staying just for a friend helping out a friend? ithink you should wait a lil while to have another boyfriend. you already not trust this guy for just holding this girls hand. i assume he cannot have girlfriends or female friends. you are insecure and should get help. good luck.
2007-08-07 09:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly didnt have any feelings for this girl then why would he hold her hand for? Just to make someone else jealous seems to be a lame excuse and then to swear her to secrecy? Smells like a rat....
2007-08-07 09:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by Rev. Morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big pimpin says stop trippin. It aint like they had sex, kissed, or she's pregnant. He held her hand. I'm sure you hold hands with yo GF's. That's not romantic. So chill, and go give him a BJ for the drama you put him thru.
2007-08-07 09:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by mrbiggz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's holding hands. I hold hands with my friends that I have no romantic interest in. Personally, I wouldn't even blink an eye at something like that. But if you feel uncomfortable with it, do what you will.
2007-08-07 09:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was harmless and in order to help the girl out. There was no reason for him to keep it from you .
You dump him because he wasn't upfront and honest with you . Thats more important than who's hand he was holding
2007-08-07 09:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok that they held hands if they are just friends, but if you feel you don't feel the same trust then you should probably end everything now.
2007-08-07 09:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by ADRIANA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a good healthy relatioship, then talk to him again and tell him not to do anything like that again. Tell him how it makes you feel. Then forgive him. Tell him you wanna trust him and tell him everything but he has to do the same. and tell him that if you feel you cant trust him then you'll have to dump him...
2007-08-07 09:05:27 · answer #11 · answered by chocopink92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋