i would like to have baby for someone who cant have one ......... i love it the birth and everything ..... would it be wrong of me to do that ...................... i dont want any money out of just to make someone fill the way i do with babies .......... and how could i give up something that is a part of me ........
what to yall think about this
2007-08-07 08:31:25 · 16 answers · asked by Coley S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
Awesome!
You would, however, need to settle the "giving up" part of it. You'd be carrying the baby until birth and then the biological/adoptive/whatever parents would be taking things from there. You'd need to be ready to grieve and allow yourself that time and that latitude to do so. If you don't grieve, it sounds like it wouldn't be a healthy thing for you.
I think it's a beautiful thing you want to do. Check out this site:
http://www.surromomsonline.com/
and see where your research takes you.
My guess is that you could contact a fertility clinic and see if they know of resources to point you to so you can get started on this journey.
I absolutely adored being pregnant with my boys. The birth part of things I could have done without (had a hard time & ended up with a c-section both times), LOL...but it'd be pretty uncomfortable still carrying them in my womb some decade & a half later...
2007-08-08 06:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you're talking about is being a surrogate mother (a woman who carries and gives birth to a baby for infertile couples). It depends a lot on where you live as to how you would go about doing this, different countries and states have very different laws. I would suggest doing some research (type surrogacy, _______(your state) into a search engine), and see what you find, you should at least find a point of contact.
There are so many different considerations to think about going in to something like surrogacy, I know I couldn't do it, so I admire anyone who could give it some serious thought. You would need psychological testing and counselling, and would need to discuss it with your partner (if you have one), any children you may have, etc, but ultimately only you can make that decision for yourself.
Also, I do know that there are different ways of conceiving the child, eg, using your eggs, or the other mothers eggs, egg donation, etc. That is also something you could look in to.
For my own opinion, I think that's a very admirable and caring thing to do, or even think about, it's a huge undertaking, and if you decide to go ahead, I wish you the best of luck!
2007-08-08 00:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥Mum to Superkids Baby on board♥♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is one of the best gifts you could ever give someone. My husband and I just found out we can not have children. There is no medical help, except to use a sperm donor. I was born to be a mother. I know it with every fiber of my being and there is no way to describe the feeling of not being able to fill your purpose. The problem right now is that to get a healthy baby in America the waiting list is long and it is expensive. So I am sure you would make one couples life worth living.
You would just need to be sure that you would be ble to do it. It is not fair to get a couple's hope up and then have to tell them they don't have a baby to take home. I think it is a great thing if you can do it, and if not then you are no worse of a person. Just for wanting to help you already stand out!
2007-08-07 19:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by Rin 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a very nice thing but it takes a very strong person to carry a child and then give it up to someone even knowing that this is what there intension are from the beginning. My friend decided to do this for some she knows and she had no medical insurance so the only thing she saked for was for them to pay her medical bills and she became very attached to the child of course she did give her baby up because that is what she said that she would do but it broke her heart and my opion she has not gotten over it yet and it has been about 4 years. Just think about this very strongly so you don't get hurt
2007-08-07 15:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by skyler 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is something you really have to think about!! Im due in almost 2weeks and I find it hard to give up my baby for someone else!! Im not being selfish but after going through 9months with that little person, its very hard, but its a choice and if you are willing to do that, find a good family/couple that needs that baby, also make sure that they can afford to pay for your expenses, not because of the money, but its not going to be cheap!! Please think about it before you do it, once you sign papers there is no turning back!!
2007-08-08 04:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it really takes a SPECIAL person to be a surrogate!
I know that I would have done it for my sister (though I don't need to). After giving birth to 3 beautiful children I know that even if it was a surrogate I couldn't give it up... that's even if it WASN'T my egg!!! I LOVE babies too much! I see friends with babies now and think that I could raise them myself! I'm BAD!!!
Just growing inside me, feeling the baby, feeling the happiness of the pregnancy...
I think you need to take a deep look into yourself to see if you could let it go that easy? You said it yourself... "How could I give something up that is a part of me?"!!
Right there to me seems it would be too hard for you to let go.
2007-08-08 01:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by Susan Goodknight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First how old are you? Can you provide for the baby? Generally people wanting a baby are going to give the child the best care. Whereas face it if you are a teen you'll be living off others and you'll still have growing up to do. Go to a place like ProParents or Planned Parenthood, for more information.
2007-08-07 23:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by netirie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I 've heard of this, someone having a baby for someone that can't have one or maybe have lost a child( like me) and i saw a show were a daughter had a baby for her mom cause her mom couldn't have anymore kids and wanted a baby and her mom had lost a child so she helped her own mom!! her mom was older in her fortys i think too, but this was soo wonderful of her to do that to give such a wonderful gift to someone but for her it was her MOM !!! it was good!! but i say a very rare thing!!! I think its how you feel about, if you would love rreally helping someone and would enjoy giving them a wonderful wonderful gift a gift of life!!! Thats takes a Special Person in my book !! Thats a gift from god!! As far as giving it up, you would have to be sure, some women look it like , they can have children of there own later on and this person can't! one woman i saw on a show had her own children and she had another baby for someone else too ! cause they couldn't have one, but i'm sure they stayed in touch and sent them pictures of the baby and stuff like that,so she was still known to the child when it grew up!!! I read chicken soup for the soul books also and, you find storys like that in those books!! were people will sacrafice for someone else!! its all up to you and how you feel about, I think it takes a special person to do that though!! I don't think bad of them either, I think there very special !
2007-08-08 01:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think thats is a very nice thing to do for someone who can not have one for there self but you have to understand that when it is time to give the baby up you have to if not you will end up hurting the other person so think a bout it be for you do anything think if you would be able to give the baby up be cause it feels nice to have one and when you have the baby you will fall in love so think a bout it
2007-08-07 15:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by Diomeris C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are centers that will buy your eggs or help you do surrogacy. They will put you through some psychological testing to see if this is something that you can really do. Fertility clinic can put you in touch with where you need to go to find out more. Good luck
2007-08-07 17:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by Done 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋