I am throwing a bridal shower. The groom's aunt is a lesbian -- both she and her partner are invited to the wedding. Do I invite both of them to the shower? I would think "yes", but I just wanted to know what other people think...
thanks :)
2007-08-07 08:28:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For the people who thought I was being ignorant for "doubting" my original gut reaction to invite them both...it was not a matter of them being gay that I was concerned about.
The only reason I was questioning whether to invite them both is because neither of them know the bride. The aunt has never met her, let alone the aunt's partner.
2007-08-07 08:36:43 · update #1
Invite them both and let them choose whether to come or not. I would think the reason you are unsure is because you do not want to seem like you are inviting everyone and anyone to pile up the gifts - which can happen when lots of people who don't know the bride are invited. I don't think you seem ignorant or rude. Since they are invited to the wedding, invite them both and ease your mind.
2007-08-07 09:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A bridal shower is for those closest to the bride. If they are not close enough to be invited to the wedding, then they are definitely not close enough for the shower. Showers are usually no more than 20 - 30 guests. Proper etiquette is only those invited to the wedding are invited to any pre-wedding events. This includes the bachelorette party. A guest list of 100 is not a small wedding. A small wedding would be about 50 or less.
2016-04-01 04:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely invite both of them to the shower.
Edit: It's okay that they haven't met the bride, they should both be invited because they are close female relatives of the groom. Immediate female relatives of both the bride and the groom and close female friends of the bride make up a common guest list for bridal showers. Go with your gut, your instinct is correct!
2007-08-07 08:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by tnk3181979 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes definitely! I don't think that it would be very fair of you not to invite her partner. That would cause some hard feelings potentially. We need to remember that whatever orientation (or preference) is that we should treat everyone with the same respect and dignity that we would expect for ourselves. I think it's different in this respect of inviting the partner to the shower ( in regards to a heterosexual relationship), they're both women and I am sure they would enjoy coming to the shower. The same might not be said about my husband being invited or other women's husbands. Hope this helps!
2007-08-07 08:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as neither aunt knowing the bride, that is the point of the bridal shower, for the groom's family to meet the bride.
2007-08-07 09:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes
2007-08-07 08:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the Bride or groom... I would think it's okay to invite them.
2007-08-07 08:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by always_sweet_b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should consult with the bride as to whom should be on the guest list. They should be women who will also be invited to the wedding.
2007-08-07 09:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Invite them both!
2007-08-07 08:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should invite them both.
2007-08-07 08:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by NYCLady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋