My sister, who is in her early 20s still lives at home with our parents. Over this past weekend, she and her boyfriend were in her bedroom doing things that no one would want their parents to ever see! LOL They WERE dressed, by the way, but obviously, thought they were alone when my parents returned home from dinner and walked by her room. My mother said the door was half opened and they didn't "sneak" into the house. Evidently, my sister and her boyfriend were oblivious and do not know what my parents saw. My parents have had some trust issues with him in the past, un-related to anything sexually, but have just overcome those issues, and now this. They are quite old-fashioned and conservative and my dad wanted to wring his neck upon seeing this! LOL They haven't said a word to either of them. Should they say anything and keep going on as if they didn't see this or how should they approach and handle this very awkward situation? My mother and I are very close as are my sister and I...
2007-08-07 08:15:49 · 7 answers · asked by blessed1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know some may say that this is none of my business, but, my mother confided in me about this and I didn't know what to tell her as far as how to handle it. Thanks!
2007-08-07 08:16:33 · update #1
Your parents have every right to say something.
Their house, their rules. If your sister cannot follow those rules, regardless of her age, then she needs to move out.
I would have not only wrung the boyfriends neck, but I would have buried hsi body with a bag of lime so the coyotes wouldn't dig up the carcass.
Your aprents have teh right to be able to walk into their home without fear of seeing their daughter 'doing something'.
The epitome of disrespect
2007-08-07 11:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mom with a 22 yr old son, a 20 yr old daughter and an 18 yr old son. I am a Christian. Here is how I have handled 'house rules'..... I have had discussions with my kids about what is and what is not allowed in my house. I expect them to honor my 'rules' in this house and if they feel they cannot, then I would understand if they wanted to leave. they have parties with their friends all the time... with a list of rules: no alcohol no drugs no smoking no sex no swearing and i have never.... and i honestly mean NEVER... had a problem with any of the kids or their friends.... and we have a houseload of kids here 3-4 nites a week. They ALL know the rules and abide by them... Your parents need to sit down with your sister (and you could be there too to 'moderate' if need be) and tell her that they were offended by what was goin on in that room, and that they have to set some ground rules for their home and your sister needs to agree to them or find a place of her own. harsh? maybe to some, but this is your parents HOME! and they deserve to be treated with honor and respect in that way! I don't think your parents are 'old fashioned' as much as they have morals they wish to uphold in their home. Good luck!
2016-05-21 00:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents NEED to say something. Your sister will not ever change her behavior if she doesn't know what she did caused an issue.
Have your parents keep calm in the conversation. Lay out the rules simply and calmly and mention that as long as your sister lives there, she must follow the rules.
2007-08-07 08:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother should talk to your sister alone, calmy, and let her know what they saw and they would prefer for this to happen somewhere else, or to at least keep her door closed all the way. These things are going to happen but your sister still needs to respect your parents wishes.
2007-08-07 08:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by comeundone4162 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say something to her. If nothing gets said, then the little sister and the BF will just get bolder.
Why is she still living at home? Either go to college or move out and get a job like normal people. If she wants to act like a kid, treat her like a kid.
2007-08-07 08:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents need to make it clear that this sort of behavior is not allowed in their home and that they are very disappointed (not mad) about the decisions she and her boyfriend made. Obviously there should also be a discussion held about safe sex and birth control
2007-08-07 08:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm.....the only thing I could think of to tell your mom is to say listen I know you are an adult but you live under my roof and as long as you are living under my room lets respect each other privacy and keep doors shut.
2007-08-07 09:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋