I am 15 yr. old. and 2 months ago I let my ex-bf come over to my house w/o my parent permission (he is 15 too)ans my mother came home early from work and found him over here while we was here. My brother was here too. (he is 6). I am a good girl. I am not dumb or easy girl. I will let a guy pressure me to do something that isnt safe or that will hurt me now and the future.I am a virgin.While he was here, we didnt do anything but hang out and chill. He waas playing w/ my lil bro the whole time. but what could u really do in front of a 6 yr. old. He would tell on me anyways. But now my family treats me differently.& I am like on punishment for ever. Like it wasnt worth it. I just let him come over b/c it was summer time and i wouldnt never see him anyways. Like why dot they treat me like this. Like I am soo kind of slut of something. Would ou act this way if ur kids did this.
2007-08-07 08:13:52 · 9 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
also, i know alot of parents and people at my school who let the opposite sex come over my house. Why can't I just hang out with my male friend. Like we just cant just hang out at the house and play the playstation and watch t.v why do they have to think something so sexual or something...And plus I am going to 18 in like 2 and half years. and they will not be able to control me then. They can't control who come over my house. And when I talk to my dad about this he want to joke around. And be like yeah you just want them there to be fast and stuff.
2007-08-07 08:17:13 · update #1
As a former "good girl", I can empathize with you.
But your parents rules are your parents rules. And yeah, that sucks the big one and there's not much you can do about it.
I would try to talk to your parents. Let them know that you understand you have to follow their rules. Then see if you can have your boyfriend over while they're home too.
Good luck!
2007-08-07 08:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by Vanessa P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well honey ur only 15 so in that case instead of inviting him on ur own u should have at least called up ur parents and asked dem for there permission 2 let your ex in the house. Now in days kids your age are having sex and doing things that shouldnt be done so of course they are going 2 look at u different as in (yea she is having sex) so next time u confirm ur parents and get a yes r if they say no u just let him know what the deal is and also u have a 6 yr old brother so they where probably looking at the aspect of that also so u want 2 be careful when u do things like that or better yet just dont do it period just talk to ur bf on the phone and when ur parents are home then maybe it would be cool if he could come over in you 2 may sit on the porch are whatever u2 may do sweetie.
2007-08-07 15:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by sade_williams23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good girl and many many Good girls make one ----just one little slip and end up pregnant and or getting a bad reputation.
You are too old now to have your "little' friends over -No sarcasm meant - I'm trying to make the point that you are not a little girl any longer -and that you didn't grow up over night either . Errrr
what an aggravating age to be -agreed !
You ARE a good girl -keep it that way and be smart about all this stuff -you won't be a teen forever -I pro mise.
One day you and a guy friend will be just spending some quality time together ,and the feelings and emotions (hormones) will wash over you .
They are such strong feelings that you will be soooo tempted to "go all the way "
That is how those feelings were designed so that we would make babies and populate the world.
Oh sweetheart your world would change forever and your mom and dad know all about those feelings -well you know that's how you got here -right !?
Show Mom and Dad (or at least some adult that you trust )
this page in ANSWERS and use it as a conversation starter OK !
2007-08-07 15:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bemo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are the child. Period.
You did something without your parents permission. ALso, with all these young *** fast *** little girls giving your parents the steretype they may be scared that you maybe the same way or influenced by these girls.
However, you have a case. Tell your parents in a RESPECTIBLE WAY how you feel. Write them a letter and read it to them. Watch the Cosby Show. That show is a great depiction on the communication skills between parents and children.
next time, ask, dont do what you know your parents wont approve of and you will be straight.
Good luck baby girl and keep that chasity belt on (your virginity)
2007-08-07 15:43:15 · answer #4 · answered by darcanjle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You live in your parents home and should live by their rules. You broke a rule and should be punished for it. Like you said...you will be 18 and then you can get your own home and have your own rules. Til then you should respect their rules in their house. Now is the time to be thinking of the job you are working at and the money you are saving to pay the rent and all the bills that come with it.
2007-08-11 03:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your parents' rule? If it was clear that you couldn't have people over at hour house if they weren't there, or even if there was a specific rule that there were to be no male friends over, then it may be more that you broke the rules than that they thought you might be doing something.
Also, you refer to this person as your ex-bf. Usually, when people break up, they tell people around them all the negatives about the ex. If you told your parents negative things about him, they may be more concerned about your vulnerability to this bad person than they are that you would have chosen to do something sleazy. I often found that to be the case even with girlfriends; if I was mad at them and told my parents about anything negative they had done or said, my parents were really upset whenever these people came over. They were more protective of me than anything else. It can be annoying, but it happens.
2007-08-07 15:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by neniaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing would of been to tell your parents. Like you said your lil bro was there and he would tell on you quick status. Parents are weird like that, its different when its a female and female than when its the opposite sex. They just assume the works.
2007-08-07 15:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by misslilprincess33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents trusted you to follow the rules and you didn't. You are being a whiner because you got caught and are now paying the consequences. Grow up, follow your parents rules, do your punishment and don't do it again!! Your parents have to learn to trust you on the little things if they are going to trust you on the bigger things (driving, going out on dates, etc.)>
2007-08-07 15:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
probably..........work on the trust again and next time have him over when ur parents r there......
2007-08-07 15:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by nan0272002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋