Well im 13. i know im still young. but trust me i grew up fast. i skipped 2 grades and i already have a job to help support my mom and sisi. iv been dating scence i was 10. and 4 weeks ago i meet this guy. he is 15. iv never had this kind of fealing befor. he is verry respectfull of my age and wants to take things slow. we have been together for 3and a half weeks. iv meet him befor but we never realy knew each other. we live about a 10 hour drive from each other. we see each other over the summer. and one night we were talking over the phone and we were just asking random ?. like fav. color. then he asked have you had sex befor? i said no. u? he said yes. im not too woried about it kuz the next time i will see him im gunna be 14. and i think he should be my first. im just. how could i prepare for this.?
2007-08-07 07:02:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
srry about my spelling. i was in a hurry.
2007-08-07 07:06:00 · update #1
thanx to all the guys who answerd this qustoin. i was just talking to him and i had asked him wat he thot about waiting 3 or 4 years. and he said " dont think that thats what i want you for. we dont have to have sex. you make me happy and thats why im with you. and i think its verry cool that you are a virgin. so i wana wait at least untill we have been together 4 a few years. k''
2007-08-07 08:07:33 · update #2
You may think he should be your first, but remember that you can only have that 'first' experience once. If he is the right guy for you, he will understand if you want to wait. If he doesn't want to wait, it means that he only wants you for one thing: sex.
Don't let him pressure you. It is always better to wait. If you don't, one day you may wish you did.
Trust me. I'm a guy and I was 15 once. I know what guys are like and I know what they want. With many guys, the way they talk to you will be different than the way they talk about you to their guy friends. They can say they love you, but really they just want sex.
Glad to hear that he's willing to wait! Have fun!
2007-08-07 07:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by gam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I REALLY don't think that you should have sex with this guy. Firstly, you guys live so far apart, if you get pregnant, or std's or anything like that, what happens then? And it's only been three weeks and you're way too young for that kind of trouble.
I would suggest waiting for a more stable relationship and take things slow.
Concentrate on your studies because NOTHING is more important than your education. He may very well be a really nice guy, but he's just as young and also doesn't need the stress if he gets you pregnant or infected.
I imagine you must be going through a roller coaster of emotions about this, but take it from someone who is thinking outside the box, in the long run, it's worth it to wait until you're older, wiser and a lot more stable. Don't screw up your life when you're this young.
I hope you give this some serious, responsible thought.
Good Luck
2007-08-07 14:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by 3rd LIFE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you feel that you have "grown up fast" you still have so much more growing to do. You might feel that you've never had this feeling before, is probably because you are so young. Believe me, you will feel like this many more times in your life, trust me. Holding off on sex is one of the smartest things a young girl can do. You've only known this guy for a few weeks and already you think he deserves your virginity? I don't know why you feel that you are ready for such a big step. If I can give you any advice it will be to wait a few years, giving yourself to someone is a big step in life and once it's over it's over, no turning back. Wait for that special one for a few more years, you have so much ahead of you, that you shouldn't feel that 13, 14, 15 is a good age to begin having sex. You have so much at risk, disease, pregnancy, why are you in such a rush? I know several of my friends who had sex at a really young age and let me tell you alot of them said they would have waited as that first time was with someone who was very unexperienced and it wasn't what they thought it would be. So hold off and wait, that is the best advice I can give you. Good luck and I hope this helped.
2007-08-07 14:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by staffy_lvr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even tho you had to take on a lot of responsibility young doesn't mean that you have "grown up". Actually the fact that you have asked this question in this type of forum shows that you still have some maturing to take on. IF you have only really known each other for less than a month you do not know each other well enough to make the type of emotional commitment that the female mind and body is wired to make physical relationships are formed,
Thank your lucky stars that he is not pushing you - and don't push yourself. You will only have one first time. Make sure that it is with someone that you can grow with and have a long term commitment.
2007-08-15 13:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by keezy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have been smitten more by puppy
love and infatuation.Not only are you immature in age but also in thought,deed etc.While it is
refreshing to note that you have a job and that you help support your mom and sis,it would have been more responsible on your part had you not skipped two grades.Tell your boy friend
who,by his own admission has already had sex
(God knows with how many partners), to wait till you both come of legal age before you venture in to start a family.Meanwhile,go back to school and graduate so that you have a brighter and better chance in life.You should even contemplate going to college to improve your opportunities in life.If your boyfriend is
prepared to wait through all this then you can rest assured that he is the right one for you.
Best of luck and Vaya Con Dios.
2007-08-15 14:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by ramchandra b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, you will regret it. I'm not saying save yourself for marriage but you want to make sure it's for real not just because you want too or should you. I don't care if your 10, 13, 15 or 19 it's not something to just do or down the road it can't be fun and you'll never have that 1st time ever again. Do it with someone you care so much for that they mean the world to you, not just a person you meet every summer for a week or so. Your way too young to have a "opps" and then have a baby to take care of.
2007-08-07 14:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Carol 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a responsible young person with a head on her shoulders.
Before you make your decision talk to a trusted elder, someone you can be frank with. Listen, hear and then do what you think is best for you.
Love is wonderful, sex is glorious, and experimenting with it is what makes life come to terms with itself.
Its a gut feeling. Do it to realise yourself. If it turns out to be regrettable ,your world is not going to break. Life is not an errorless journey.
This only happens once, never again. Know that its what you want and don't think about the rights and wrongs of it. Be certain, that its what you really want at this moment in time. That's all.
2007-08-15 04:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by virtrava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it is nice that you are taking things slow me for one is i have a boy friend that makes me feel complete and i like him for that he really Sweet and he really hasn't asked me to do any thing and i really prefer it this way plus i wanna wait whose knows what the next few years hold .so i think that you guys relationship is off to a great start and i wish you too luck.
2007-08-15 13:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by sexy mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you prepare for it? My suggestion would be that you should be more concerned about being prepared for the kids you're going to have by the time you're twenty and how YOU are going to support them.
2007-08-15 13:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it's O.K. to have him as boyfriend, but i don't think he should be your first for now.
I mean, look at you, you are smart because you skipped 2 grades, and you have a job, so...i think you should still work on your eduction first...
but, don't let your "boyfriend" taking over your eduction...
2007-08-15 10:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by Susan N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋