His family has a beach cottage, i cannot stay up there tonight so he is going alone. i know, his family, how can that be bad?? well his cousins, girls, who are our age, bring friends. when i went up there the other day he talks to them and plays around as if they are his friends. it makes me upset because i like the attention to be on ME and i almost felt like he was flirting but i didnt say a word. should i just let this go? we have been together for 2 years, he is 19 i am 18, and i have no reason to doubt our relationship......any advice?? thank you.
2007-08-07 06:52:24 · 11 answers · asked by Ash 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Duh. Everyone flirts. And everyone has friends outside of their romantic relationships. If you trust him, why are you questioning the situation? I mean, if he's friendly to his cousin's female friends, that simply may mean he's a cool enough dude not to feel like a dork being friendly with his cousin and her friends. Unless you catch him in the tool shed with one of them, what's the issue?
You're going to have to develop a bit of philosophical attitude about love. Your dude is probably going to flirt, as you will. He's gonna eyeball other girls. You're gonna think a dude or two is hot. Whether or not you trust each other, and are monogomous, should dictate how these other "distractions" are going to play out in your relationship over time. You two are young; you may end up each other's true love, or you may move on to other relationships. Either way, you have to learn that you can't suffocate your partner with your own insecurities because that's the fastest track to making all of them a reality. Learn to read the truth in his actions and words. And to trust completely, no matter the emotional risk, because there's no point being with someone if you aren't.
2007-08-07 07:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trying to be the "lion/ eagle girlfriend" will drive him away.
Everyone deserves some space. Going into a relationship does have to end ones happiness or fun in life. You will remain an important part of his life,but give him some space.
You must understand that in relationships, the word "ME" does not work. You want your emotions to be satisfied so does he. You want all the attention,yet he took a lil bit of the attn and you're jealous.
Give him some space.
2007-08-07 07:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by Zicci 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not overprotective you're insecure. If you're this jealous when he is around his cousins what are you going to do in the real world?
There is a point where it's reasonable to feel some jealousy and a point where it's not. I think you've crossed over into 'not'.
2007-08-07 06:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're confusing overprotectivness w/insecurity. If you've got no reason to assume he'll cheat on you, then don't invent one. He's just being friendly. If you've been together for 2 yrs. then he would've pulled something by now. I wouldn't worry about it. Just watch what happens after this.
2007-08-07 09:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this is the best way to handle it but I would call him while he is up there and say something nice like something only you 2 would know or send him a beach necklace or something he has to wear so he'll ALWAYS REMEMBER YOU : )
Good Luck!!!
2007-08-07 06:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by Trina_F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are confusing overprotective with jealousy. If you have to watch someone to make sure they are being true to you, then you have a great deal of problems with insecurity and immaturity. Grow up alittle.
2007-08-07 06:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you obviously don't trust him. if you did his playing around with other people wouldn't bother you. As far as all his attention being on you, perhaps you need to take a look around & see that the world aint revolving around you.
2007-08-07 06:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO let him be...he is with you for a reason...give him some space..its hard but this will tell you...evenif he is here...he should call you and sound like he misses you...if he does not call you and shows no interest...your womanly instincts will tell you...tell him you felt that way..and go with the flow..follow your instincts..
2007-08-07 06:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by SSK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh girl....i havent ever had to deal with this but im telling you...this might sound selfish but i would try to get him not to go...this kind of thing causes so many problems.....makes u wry etc.....i wouldnt wry to much, but i would confront him about the girls....if he is flirting and u tell him u are concerned and he loves u, he will reassure u he loves u and wont care about those little girls.
2007-08-07 06:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by lysendon20 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats screwed up. im sorry. just dont put up with it nip it in the bud now!! if its ok for him to flirt then you can too.
2007-08-07 07:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by L.A. WOMAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋