how do I get over my cat dieing ?

Answer 1

Get another kitten.

Answer 2

For all those saying "get over it, it's just a cat," you are heartless. Maybe it's just a cat to you but to millions of people in this world, pets are family and just because you are incapable of loving animals in that way, does not mean you should belittle others for loving their pet.

Now to the original poster. I recently lost a cat myself and it's very painful. A lot of people recommended that I get another cat. I didn't think it would help but actually, it did. It made me feel better that I could give another cat a home and lots of love. Don't rush into getting another cat right away if you don't think you are ready but once you realize you miss having a cat around, that is a good time to get another one. I still think about the cat I lost, of course. You never forget your pets. You could make a memorial of some sort for your kitty. I had a photo book made so I can look back on her life whenever I want to.

Answer 3

Know that you are not alone, and for many it is the loss of a dear companion, almost like a member of the family.

Look back at all the good times that made you smile. Sometimes, getting another cat will help. However, do not go looking for a cat as a replacement; only as another friend with four feet. Sometimes a cat will select you when you are looking.

I have posted a link to a site that some find comforting.

If you are sad, that is common. If that sadness prevents you from going about your daily needs, then seek out a support group. There are many out there.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, there's no quick fix in "getting over" your cat passing away, especially if you were close and attached. You have to give yourself time to grieve and heal - losing a pet, any pet, is traumatic. I lost my beloved dog whom I've had for 10 years last November, I'm still not completely over it.

But to help ease the pain, if you have a myspace, go to the myspace groups and search for pet loss or something like that, the support you get there is amazing. No one can support you like fellow animal lovers and people who have been in your shoes because sadly, a lot of people just don't understand why some of us take it so hard when a pet dies. You need to talk about it, talk about your cat, talk about the good times, talk about your "story" with your cat. The things he/she would do, the things you'd do together. How you felt about him/her.

Eventually, the pain will ease and things will get better. You'll always remember your beloved kitty, but you'll be able to look back without the horrible pain of the loss. Once you're ready, maybe you can think about getting another cat?

But whatever you do, don't get another one until you're absolutely sure you're ready for it. I was offered a puppy 3 months after my baby passed away and almost did it but I just couldn't, I wasn't ready.

I'm sorry for your loss and rest assured that it will get better.

Answer 5

I agree with Indija about the cruel responses of "get over it". its just a cat!
What I am wondering ..if you people feel that way, why are you hanging around a site for cats!!.. I'd say all the people on this site are cat lovers so why are you here?
Ignore those jerks...and mourn your cat...he was part of your life. Honor him by adopting another who needs a home, but give yourself time to heal first. You wont be just replacing him then, you will be ready to love another.
I too just lost mine and know how you feel. I will be following my own advice.
Good luck to you and know you are not alone in mourning.

Answer 6

Whatever you do, don't get another pet until you can appreciate it on its own terms. It will not be another (in my case) Xena.

Each animal has its own personality. When I lost my Xena, I had to wait until it didn't hurt so bad and I realized I missed having a cat.

Even so, I waited eight weeks for the newborn kittens to be weaned. Then I took the whole litter of three, because I knew it would take at least two to replace Xena.

I've never regretted it, and that's been five years. However, although I love my kitties with all my heart, and I believe they love me in return, I still get teary when I think about Xena.

Answer 7

It takes time, everyone says that but it's true. If you have pictures of your cat, put together a scrapbook. That would be a great way for you to remind yourself of happy memories. Also, there's a book called Cat Heaven by Cynthia Rylant. It's a children's picture book, but don't let that keep you from reading it. I was in my late 30's when my cat died, and that book was so comforting. Heck, I still get teary when I read it.

Answer 8

how about getting a kitten similar in breed and colour to your lost loved cat? Taking care of a new cat will bring a new ray of light in your life and maybe in time this new kittie will cheer you up. It takes time to get over your cat as it feels like loosing a family member. good luck.

Answer 9

Don't misunderstand me when I say that I am very glad you feel so bad about your cat dying. What I see from that is that you must be a very good, caring person who loves animals, and really cared about your cat. I am much older, and in my life I have had to say many many goodbyes. It helps me to remember that all my loved ones had a wonderful life with me, and both received from me, and gave back much joy and happiness. I hope you will have another animal friend soon, because I am sure you will be a good guardian and bring that pet a lot of happiness too.

Answer 10

I know where you're coming from. I've had many cats over the years and I've always been attached to them. They die. So do we. Try to reflect on the things you loved about your pet. Don't think about it as a loss but as a natural progression. I had 1 cat that lived 22 years and when he died he looked at me and put his paw on my arm and breathed his last breath. I understood he new he was done and I miss him but I've got a new Kitty. I hope she lives as long.

Answer 11

Really get another one!! It will make a difference. Keep in mind that you gave your Cat a good Home and you loved it Im sure he/she had a good life, getting another will help you and you will be able to give another one a good life and love.
It will make it easier then having nothing.