My mom said that guys dont really like strong opinionated women?

Question

because they are bossy and threaten their manhood and she also seemed to think it had something to do with being a good christian. is this true?

Answer 1

Men of quality are never threatened by women for equality.

Answer 2

Your mom is quite funny, unfortunately, too much womens think that way, and it only fit the macho male stereotype.

Parents are mostly good to listen too, but you have to use your personal judgment too.

You have to ask you about theses scenarios and figure which one fits your type :

Do you feel that the women should do all the cooking, cleaning, babies and kids matter, all the time ?

Would you accept the following scenario : Someone comes to propose to your husband to quit his job and start a business with him. As they start talking about mortgaging the house, you start getting interested to join the discussion and ask some questions. Your husband turn to you and say : Honey... you know you don´t understand these things ... why don´t you go take care of the kids... And please bring us a beer !

This was scenario one.

Scenario two:

You decide your things together, both have a job, the best they can have, maybe you would both be partner in your own business.

Both you and your partner accept to have divergences, and expect to have sometime strong discussions.

You accept the fact to go vote for a different president in the same election and your husband too.

Task and duties are shared in the household.

If your mother is Christian, maybe she think about the part of the bible that says that a women should be submissive to his husband. Then refresh her memory and tell her that the bible also say that a man who is married to a women who can lead, that spouse is a gem for him. I personally don´t abide by the submission principle, but still agree it have some sense in a timeless time (ex. at the time the bible was written).

What your mother is saying would equal to these in business and politics :

In business, a president would chose a vice president who his without opinion, some guy who is not too interested about what is going around. The president thinks he´s right about it : I´m the boss here, its pointless to have another leader to work with me since I´m the only one in charge !

In politics, it would mean communism or monarchy. Why be democratic if you can have a government that decide everything for you, feed you but not too much so you won´t get over-weighted, you will save all the time and hassle related to think and talk about politics, since it will be prohibited ! You will even not have to decide about your career since the government will decide that for you ! Wow, what a wonderful system, all that time saving.

I am a bit sarcastic about it, but I will never understand why on earth some people have these beliefs ! There is so much goals to realize when you are both true partners !

But even if I don´t understand it, I accept it. As well there is some people who tolerate mediocrity in their work, and communism still have some suporters in China and Cuba.

Answer 3

No. That is completely false. I am strong opinionated woman. I am not bossy nor do I threaten my husband's manhood. I think that is a scare tactic to make women submissive. It has nothing to do with being a good Christian. You can be a good Christian and speak your mind. Please do not listen to that warped idea that woman have to be subservient to men and that we cannot have opinions of our own and that if we do that men will not like us. Look at me. I have a wonderful husband, who loves & respects me physically, mentally and emotionally.

Answer 4

Well I hang out with quite a few women who are not afraid to speak their mind and as long as they aren't obnoxious or overbearing I really don't see a problem with women who have strong opinions.

I've dealt with more than my share of bossy women having taught at a local college for some 20 odd years and my manhood is never threatened and there is no correlation between opinions and being a good Christian.

Just don't say anything stupid.

Answer 5

Generally speaking, men are often put off by assertive women. Since we live in a patriarchal society, men are conditioned to dominated and assumed to have superior qualities to women. Some men feel challenged by their partner, say, if she makes more money or has more status than he does.

However, I find it hard to relate with these guys. I prefer women with brains and backbones, not immediate obedience.

Some people believe that a woman should submit to her husband's will without protest or hesitation. Yet, in these relationships, it's easy for the woman to be used, manipulated, and so on. Nonetheless, some women, and men too, like to conform to their partner completely. It simply comes down to a matter of personal taste.

In my humble opinion, guys who feel threatened by a woman's intelligence and/or assertiveness should reexamine what they want out of a relationship: a submissive doll or a compatible equal.

Answer 6

The world is filled with people who all have their own opinions. I happen to like strong willed women who are able to think for themselves and have interests beyond fashion, beauty aids and pregnancy. I imagine a typical Christian man would want an old fashioned woman who will submit to his domination. Promoting paternalism and the subjugation of women is a major theme in all three Abrahamic faiths. The whole point of ancient monotheistic religion was to discredit even older pagan faiths which were invariably dualistic, having a male god and a female goddess. Monotheistic religion has always sought to subordinate women and thus deny them their rightful place as half of human civilization.

Do you doubt me? Consider the consequences of Eve's disobedience. Not only did God punish Adam and Eve, as recorded by Moses in the book of Genesis, but St. Augustine (about 390 AD) invented the concept of original sin so that all women would forever be punished for Eve's misdeed. This led to the medieval persecution of midwives and caused countless thousands of needless female deaths by torture and burning at the stake. It became an ecclesiastical crime to aid a women in childbirth because Catholic dogma decreed that all women were intended to suffer great agony during labor and delivery as punishment for Eve's original sin. Even administering a back massage or providing a warm bath to ease a woman's labor pains was once a capital crime, because it was considered thwarting God's will. The traditional exclusion of men from the birthing chamber was originally designed to keep husbands ignorant of what the midwife did during the delivery, thus protecting the midwife from the zeal of the local parish priest. Thanks to the Church, childbirth (without a midwife) was the leading cause of death during much of the middle ages (except during times of plague).

I have never understood why modern women imagine Christianity is anything but an evil oppressor. If I were an educated woman, I wouldn't marry a fundamentalist Christian, if he were the last man on Earth.

Answer 7

Not from my point of view!!! While nobody wants anybody who is bossy or threatening, I think everybody likes people who have a strong personal conviction, and those who aren't afraid to stand up for themselves. I don't know what she means by "being a good Christian", unless she is talking about "being subservient to your man" like many fundamentalists think we are "suppose to be". But that just ain't so in this day and age......a marriage is a partnership and both partners are on the same "level".

Answer 8

Women like this, do make some men cringe. Then there's the other guys who love these kind of women...

It's okay to have an opinion and to be strong, in fact, it's great! Just don't mistaken that for being overbearing!

Answer 9

I don't know what it has to do with being Christian, so I can't answer that bit.

I personally find Strong willed intelligent women far more attractive in the long term. If they are a threat to my manhood, I need to work on self improvement that simple.

Answer 10

No, your mom is wrong. Some men may be threatened by strong women, but they are just insecure about their own manhood. Any man who is secure in his masculinity doesn't need a timid little wifey type to make him feel macho.

As for being a good christian, idk? Maybe she is referring to traditional male/female roles, in which males are the breadwinner and females take care of the kids at home. These are usually considered "christian" family roles.

Anyways, your mom is from a different time, it is the 21st century now.

Answer 11

Strong, opinionated, independent women are wonderful.

Bossy, ball-busting, domineering women are not.

Some women can't tell the difference between the two, but then again, neither can some men.

It's called a mating *dance* for a reason . . . one leads, one follows. If the one leading is doing the job correctly, it's unobtrusive and gentle and oriented toward making the other look fantastic . . . if the one following is doing their job correctly, things flow gracefully and smoothly and creatively. If both try to lead all the time, a lot of toes get stepped on. :-)

You can be strong, and still be gracious and kind. Men do it all the time.