Ever since my girlfriend( and fiance as of January) of 4 years broke up with me in June because she needed to find herself, it has been so strange talking on the phone to her. I loved her so much and now when I speak to her its like she is someone I don't even know. Instead of talking a few times a day we now speak maybe every two weeks. She calls me by my first name( which she never did) and instead of saying " I love you" she tells me " God Bless " or "Peace", is this normal for her to act so official and cold to me???
2007-08-07 06:04:55 · 18 answers · asked by Jennaba9048 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to say this but I think she has moved on... I think she is keeping you around if she doesn't find what she is looking for or gets lonely. This isn't fair to you and I think you need to talk to her about this. Personally I think you should get out and meet girls... let her know that you are going out on dates.... this will do one of two things either comfirm that she doesn't want you and won't care or she will realize she does still care about you and doesn't want to lose you. I'm sorry you are going through this... good luck and I hope things work out for you!
2007-08-07 06:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's pretty normal. She's trying not to give you any indication that would lead you to believe that she is still in love with you. Basically, she wants to make sure you won't come back and tell her that she was flirting with you although you two still call each other.
It's good that you remained friends. Although it seems like you've not moved on and she has.
At your own terms, you should start reminding yourself that she broke up with you and might not be coming back. It will make it easier to talk to her.
A word of caution: If you have moved on and no longer in love with her and she then decides that you were the one, remind her that she was the one who broke up with you and broke your heart. Never get back together out of guilt, it will be pointless in the end. Tears will be shed, but at least you're guilt-free.
Good luck.
2007-08-07 06:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are having a difficult time accepting the break up. All these things you mention are par for the course when you are no longer together. There is no reason for her to talk with you a few times a day or tell you she loves you, you are no longer an item. I don't mean to sound harsh, but this is the reality of your situation.
Move on. Give your love to someone who feels mutually for you.
2007-08-07 06:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is an ugly Business. Usually when people break up it leaves unresolved issues and attachments. You have to decide your choice. It is unlikely that your partner is going to detach from his ex. He kinda wants the best off both worlds. You have to make a choice accept the situation or leave. That's pretty blunt. you can mess around for years with a councilor and still the issues remain.You know what to do its just the result ain't gonna be what you really want. accept the situation or leave. Its that simple.
2016-05-20 23:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its abnormal, but people change when they break up, not to say that its because you broke up, but it can be because she met other people, and maybe she's like easily influenced. Maybe the love you had is not the same for her now, get yourself a new girl and start a new page in your life, don't wait for this women to find herself, she maybe already did, and I think your wasting your time if you wait for her. I know you loved her but don't let her get to you, there's plenty of fish in the see..
2007-08-07 06:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by **AnGeLbOy** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, yes. She is not finding herself, she is finding a new life, without you.
Although she may still love you, those feelings will not come out over the phone. It can only be rekindled (if at all possible) in person.
2007-08-07 06:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by bedbye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your ex-finance found Jesus Christ to be her savior? Were you both devout Christians before? If not, maybe she broke up with you because she does not see you as a Christian and she is growing in Christ. Don't take it personally, but if she has found Jesus she cannot be unequally yolked with an unbeliever or a person who is not on the same devotional level as her.
2007-08-07 06:09:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jino D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are broke up, so its time to move on. You are no longer her sweetheart of her honey. You are Jack or Mike. And why are you calling her. Let her go. Its time to move on, Looks like she gave you 4 years to get the job done, and well, you lost. She is someone else, she is not your girlfriend any more.
2007-08-07 06:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My opinion, she's either found someone else or she's converted and become a born again.
Why are you still expecting to talk to her on the phone all the time? You guys broke up. You need to start the process of moving on.
2007-08-07 06:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just let her do her own thing.....she needs to find herself and needs to find true happiness. Her being official is probably a wall that she was put up in order to not let herself get too close to you. give her as much space as she needs....but dont let her run your life....you can message me if you want to tlak.
2007-08-07 06:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by U1S2K3O4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋