I am 19 and I have sex with my boyfriend about 2 or 3 times a week. We have been having sex since 2 years ago. We had a problem about this but then it was solved in 1 month. almost a total of 2 years passed and we had no problems but now, my boy friend doesn't act the same when we have sex. We used start out with oral sex and then we move on to penetrative sex and then to stop we move to oral again. But now it's diferent. In the begining of oral sex, he just moves right on to penetrative sex. And we seem, to never have oral sex now. twice in 1 week he had to masturbate to calm him down a bit which I thought was weird and unusuall for him. Any ideas whats going on??? also, any of you know what guys look for in oral and penetrative sex?
2007-08-07 05:58:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It all sounds a little suspect, eh? I don't even know what the cryptic "problem" you experienced prior that was solved "in 1 month". I'm not even sure I understand what you mean by "he had to masturbate to calm him down a bit"! You're being really vague.
Perhaps after 2 years, your sex life has become routine. Perhaps he's having some sort of sexual dysfunction. Why don't you just ask him? Or better yet, tell him what you want in a sexual relationship with him. If you miss the oral, let him know. If you don't want him stampeding to the V, let him know that, too.
Sometimes men forget that women aren't just as immediately responsive to penetrative sex as they are--you have to TALK TO HIM. It sure beats asking a bunch of strangers about a sex life you're having that YOU don't even seem too sure about. I mean, really--how would I know what your dude expects in oral and penetrative sex unless I was doing him?
2007-08-07 06:07:52 · answer #1 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you have hit a lull. It happens to most relationships. The both of you need to talk about what's going on and start over again. Face it if he went from F'ing you 3 x's a week to J'ing Off twice a week there is a definate problem.
You have to talk it out, or just call it quits and put it on your list of sh*t you've done.
2007-08-07 06:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe hes getting tired of the same old rutine. Try mixing up things. Try different positions, and sequences of things. Men like sex to be something new to experience. Also dont be afraid to ask him why he doesnt prefer oral at the begining. Be nice about it, not like your mad, you are just wondering. Hope this helps!
2007-08-07 06:04:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about you bring in 1 or 2 of your girlfriends in the mix. That should bring a change to the sex scene. It is a guaranteed pick me up for him.
2007-08-07 06:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess the easy answer is talk to him. Tell him that you enjoyed it most when you two did such and such.
In the beginning he might have been very interested in pleasing you and now things have gotten routine. Even you what describe sounds ...reallllly good....doing it exactly the same might get monotonous. So, spice it up.
2007-08-07 06:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of asking him what he wants, let him know what you want. I think guys like when women take control when it comes down to it.
2007-08-07 06:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by sammie1222 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explore other otions, Role play, Dress-up give him some excitment
2007-08-07 06:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by JayJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, he is a guy. If he has thumbs, he is going to masterbate. It's just natural.
2007-08-07 06:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by khanofali 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont be shy just ask him what u asked on yahoo answers he will tell u te answer!
2007-08-07 06:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone dose it most lie about it
2007-08-07 06:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋