I'm suppose to be the Maid of Honor at my friends wedding in November. Unfortunately, my friend is a bridezilla from hell and I can't stand her anymore. Is it effed up to back out of the wedding and will she forgive me?
2007-08-07 05:24:07 · 16 answers · asked by Sweet Tooth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would like detail to everyone the extent of the bridezilla madness, but honestly, there is just not enough time and room. Basically, it is so bad that I am the only one in her wedding party. Yep, only one MOH and no bridesmaids - hopefully that puts things into perspective. There seems to be a general consensus that it is effed up to back out and I will take that into consideration. But I'd put money on it that if you had to deal what I've been dealing with you'd back out in a heartbeat. Thanks for all your input.
2007-08-07 05:58:42 · update #1
well, if she was your close friend before, she won't be afterwards. weddings seem to do crazy things to people. i would talk to her first, let her know things she is doing bother her. she might be unaware of them. leaving the girl with no one to stand with her would be so sad.
2007-08-07 06:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are the Maid-of-Honor, you are probably her best friend and possibly irreplaceable for the wedding. Also, November is pretty close - do you have your dress and everything?
If you two were truly good friends, and she is a nice, fun person otherwise, just grin and bear it. I personally don't understand why some women go into bridezilla mode, but do your best to remain her friend. If you back out, I think she will not forgive you. Would you forgive a good friend who backed out on one of the biggest events of your life?
2007-08-07 05:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by DSL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why is I was the perfect bride to my wedding party, very easy going and very calm. I feel bad for one of my friends (who did the ceremony for us) who's been in two weddings with a Bridezilla (one being her sister who she is MOH for..... making all the girls pay $500-$600 each for shoes, hair, makeup, nails, all of which is mandatory.) Bridzillas dont understand that the day is not ALL about them, and that their behaviors push away those who would otherwise be thrilled to be a part of your day.
With that said, no it isnt too late to back out, and yes you will lose a friendship, but maybe you should just suck it up and let her know she needs to stop being such a bridezilla.
2007-08-07 05:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should talk to her and tell her that you don't appreciate being abused. Just because someone is getting married doesn't give them license to turn into total b****. It would be extremely rude at this point to back out of the wedding and no she wouldn't forgive you. Like I said talk to her. Maybe she doesn't realize she's being a bridezilla.
2007-08-07 05:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can...just be prepared for the friendship to be over at that point.
Seriously, if the friendship means anything at all to you, try talking to her first. Don't be beligerant or angry, but let her know you're unhappy with the way she's behaving and see if you can get to the root of it together.
If you back out now and call her Bridezilla, though, you can pretty much kiss the friendship goodbye. Is it really worth that price to you?
Only you can make that choice. Choose wisely.
2007-08-07 05:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by gileswench 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she's a bridezilla and you cannot stand her, you should not worry about if she will forgive you or not.
Back out now, that way she can find a replacement.
How is she being a bridezilla?
Talk to her again.
2007-08-07 05:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a very good friend if you punish someone for bad behavior without giving her a chance to make good. She may not realize that she's being a raving bee-yotch. Sit her down (privately, of course) and tell her that you can't go on like this - that you realize it's her "Special Day" but that the feelings of others are still important. If she is unrepentant, then tell her you'd like to be released from your weddingly duties with your apologies. Tell her you would still like to be there as a guest but that you'd rather not be her whipping post up to the day of.
2007-08-07 05:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes probably just being a bridezilla because there's a lot of planning to do and she wants her wedding day to be special. don't back out she needs your help. if you do she most likely won't forgive you.
2007-08-07 05:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by Beachblonde B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your "job" as Maid of Honor is to help her plan the wedding in order to keep her from becoming a bridezilla. Ask her what help she needs and then do it. She didn't ask you because she just needs someone to straighten out her train and hold her flowers during the ceremony. She asked you because she thought she could count on you and trust you to be there to support her. (Bride magazines have lists of jobs that the maid of honor can be involved with -- check it out. )
Now, go do your job and support your friend the best way you can!
2007-08-07 05:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
She will never forgive you and especially because the wedding is only 4 months away, its too late. You ae just going to have to suck it up. She will return to normal the day after her wedding. And you can take this as a lesson for when you get married to know that you will never behave the way that you feel she has behaved.
2007-08-07 05:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you don't mind losing the friendship, I would say get out.....
If you can talk to her and get her to be reasonable then it might be worth going through with.
Does anybody else feel the same way as you??? Perhaps getting together with the rest of them and confronting her might work to calm her down.
It is a very hard decision, but if you can't take it, walk away....you should not be taking any flack from her , it is not right and you need to tell her why you are bowing out.
She should not take avantage of people or treat them terribly... you do not deserve this....
2007-08-07 05:44:39 · answer #11 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋