am i too fat to be attractive?

Question

I think im huge, and too fat to be attractive my friends tell me im not, i don't believe them. I want to know the truth! Be honest

Im 14 years old
140 lb(10 stone, 64 kg)
5'4
Wear a size Uk 12(US 8)
I have a medium-large frame
pear shaped

Also how much weight would you recommend me to lose to have a nice figure, not too fat, not too thin.

Answer 1

Size is not the only determining factor in being attractive. I prefer petite women myself, but I would be lying if I said that I have not known a few overweight women that where DAMN HOT.

If weight is your concern, try eating smaller portions and make it a lifestyle change, not just a quick diet. Cut all softdrinks out and drink a lot of water.

You don't seem to be "HUGE" as you put it, but what is more important is your health, both physically and mentally.

Do what is going to make you feel your best. You will see, there are many guys out there that will love ya to death.



EDIT: Why the thumb downs? I thought I gave good advice?

Answer 2

is dependent upon how fats. if its the "i've rolls while im status up" sort of fats, then in my opinion I dont uncover them beautiful, but when everythings in percentage, then they are able to appear rather well. As a aspect notice, that is my private prefrence. I do nonetheless consider that faces on any individual, fatt or thin, have same probabilities at being lovely.

Answer 3

I think you're perfect. Attractiveness does not rely on weight. You will be someone's type no matter what you weight. Attractiveness is the way you take care of yourself and carry yourself. PLus, you are only 14, your body will change and you aren't done acquiring your natural shape.

I think your weight is great right now, but if you want weight loss info: The only variable you can really control is exercise. Find a method exercise that you enjoy and do it every day. Build muscle. Eat what you want when you are actually hungry and stop before you are stuffed full. Try to eat a balanced diet, but don't limit yourself with a bunch or rules and diets. Diets don't work and are unhealthy in the long run. Only do things that are healthy and that you can do forever, for the rest of your life, like cutting fast food forever. 95 percent of dieters gain it all back in one year and 99 percent do in two years. Dieting is associated with weight gain over a long period of time. You need at least 1200 to 1600 calories every day just to perform basic bodily functions.

If women like you learned to love their bodies, a billion dollar industry that cashes in on insecurities and making people feel like they are not good enough would collapse. Quite frankly, being a little fat isn't as unhealthy as being thin. Anybody who thinks diets or restricting food types is a good idea is uneducated about the human body. Short cuts do not work. Most of the weight you lose is water weight. For health, eat a balanced diet and exercise for the health and endorphins and forget about an ideal shape. The average age a girl starts dieting is 8. 1/3 women are on a diet at any given time. 4/5 US women are unsatisfied with their appearance.
Your body has a set point weight that it wants to be. If you starve yourself, the body will fight back by lowering the metabolism to maintain it's ideal weight.
Limit your tv viewing. 1/4 TV commercials send out a message about attractiveness in this brainwashed society that has been seeing images of beautiful skinny women and mocking chubby people. It's worse for women: look at the number of average or uglier guys on tv and in movies versus the number of women. 30 percent of women in a study rated their ideal shape and it turned out to be 20 percent underweight. Julia Roberts and Cameron Diaz meet the clinical requirements for anorexia, and so do 25% of playboy centerfolds. If the flippin mannequins became real women, they wouln't be able to menstruate. Women finally get some rights, but we limit ourselves like this and our bodies are reduced to objects we inspect and criticise. Men decide to only value women for their looks and a thin, attractive wife symbolizes social status for them. Girls call each other fat as the greatest insult they can muster. When did fat become worse than cruel, stupid, dishonest, lazy or cowardly. When did "chubby" start to mean the last four of those things?
We are killing our daughters and wasting our lives trying to meet an ideal that blows. I wish women would get together and fight it instead of letting others control us like this. Unless you are considered obese, or have a BMI of over 25, don't worry about it. Love your body and your confidence will light up the room and give other women permission to love themselves too.

Answer 4

Honey....please don't believe all these pervs that may come out of the woodwork.....you have to have faith in yourself and love yourself....if your self esteem is low you cant feel good about yourself.....you are not huge and being as young as your are you still have a way to go....please don't let things like this spoil your teenage years...you cant get them back when they are gone...have fun and live life now and stop worrying about what others think...when the time comes you will find someone who loves you for you not your size.....if that is all people see then maybe you need to find better friends....

take care

and yes this is coming from a big woman herself who has been there and doesnt let life stop because of her size

Answer 5

1. Papa Smurf ought to be horsewhipped for suggesting such a thing.

2. Whether or not you are overweight is best answered by your doctor, but a US size 8 didn't used to be considered big. If it is now, I blame the media for promoting all these size 0 and 2 women as the standard.

3. You just eat healthy and exercise as needed, and your body will know what to do.

Answer 6

no its not that bad...but i do weigh the same and im 5'9 ... So maybe you wanna loose about 10 lbs... Im sure your a very pretty young lady and a lot of that fat might still be baby fat... You will eventually loose it... And many guys like girls with a little meat on them, you dont wanna be super skinny that looks awful theres nothing like having curves :-)

Answer 7

i dont think your fat at all...its better than being anerexic like girls today. im 14, about 5'3 or 5'4 and im 114 pounds. the doctor said im good for my height and i bet you are too. dont worry about your weight unless your gaining alot. just eat healthy and drink lots and lots of water (your supposed to drink half your body weight in ounces - so you would have 70 ounces of water) each day to help clean you out of body wastes. i hope this helped. good luck!

Answer 8

its just your hormones that are shifting right now
once you've gone through the whole "puberty" thing you'll lose weight
i also have a quote from the wise Sir Mix-A-Lot

" So cosmo says you're fat, Well I ain't down with that, 'Cause your waist is small and and your curves are kickin..." and so on.

men like curves more than flat

Answer 9

You are only 14, you should not worry. It doesn't sound like you are unhealthily overweight, and you probably look great the way you are. Don't worry, just be the person you are and that is what should make you attractive.

Answer 10

There are plenty of guys out there who like women your size.