I found out that my boyfriend does weed...I can cope with his other bad habits...but i cant believe that he's into pot. I feel hurt and confused because i have this feeling that he's not the one that im used to dating. We've been together for 6 years and he's into weed for at least a year or two even though he knew that i don't like it.
I used to work ith troubled teens and inmates, helping them and talking them out of doing drugs. And found out that my own boyfriend is doing it.
I've talked to him about it and he promised to stop. But I still feel down and disappointed....Does anyone know how i feel? What do you think about this? Am i overreacting?
2007-08-07 04:59:51 · 13 answers · asked by pretty asian 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Its only me !!" It's just about the weed, it about the respect in a relationship, if he loves me and respect my beliefs and standard, he will stop. You sound like a guy that doesn't respect in a relationship.
2007-08-07
05:29:47 ·
update #1
elurle, I have supected many time, but i wasnt sure about it so i didnt bring it up to him. I wanted to get my informations straight before accusing him of doing anything. again elurle, its not about just the weed, its about him respecting my beliefs. I know exactly what effects weed and alcohol can cause you, i worked with drugs abusers.
John S- anything type of drugs that is used excessively can be addictive psychologically/mentally, or physically.
zillionbabe1- i think it is reasonable to at least give him a chance, if he still wont drop IT, i will drop him.
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Stephaniea- I talked to him for the first time about it in a calm and caring way. I told him that i want him to stop because i care for him, if i dont love him, the things he does doesn't affect me right?
I told him that i look doen on ppl that does drugs, and i dont want to feel that ways towards HIM.
2007-08-07 05:34:33 · update #2
If he knows it means that much to you for him to stop---if he cares about you he will stop. Just try to support him too, dont be super harsh and tell him that you will leave him. Just tell him, "babe I really need to be with someone that doesnt use drugs. It would mean the world to me if you would stop or only do it when I am not around." It really is no worse than drinking
2007-08-07 05:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting at all. If weed makes you feel uncomfortable than its not for you. If you've decided that its not for you then it has no place in your life. I worry that you feel some type of responsibility towards "saving" your boyfriend like the way you helped to save those troubled teens. The teens you helped were open to help - and your boyfriend clearly is not. Instead of helping others - I suggest its time to help yourself. Get away from this guy so you can concentrate on bettering your own life and future. Good luck.
2007-08-07 05:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he was doing it a couple of years and you didn't even know it. Sounds like it didn't have much of an affect on him his life, you or the relationship.
I think you're way over reacting. Frankly alcohol is worse than marijuana and I suspect if he were drinking a few beer at times you wouldn't care at all.
However you sound like someone who has bought into the hype and lies so you should probably move on.
2007-08-07 05:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel 100%. I actually broke up with an ex, because she wouldn't avoid doing weed, and I hated it.
I gave her many, many chances, but she just kept going off and toking up.
It sounds to me tyhat the allure from weed is overpowering his consideration for you, and at that point, it's time to go.
I am so sorry you have to be in the same situation I was in. But I'm sure you will do fine.
2007-08-07 05:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-09 10:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're over reacting. There is pretty much NO health problems from smoking weed, (despite DEA propaganda which is distorted to make it look like there is). He is in some danger legally, but with some basic precautions it is unlikely that he'll get caught.
2007-08-07 05:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No youre not overreacting, thats a serious problem. While studys show not everyone gets addicted, many people can and do. It sucks that this happened, and I feel sorry for ya.
2007-08-07 05:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not overreacting and he's not going to just stop after 2 years of doing it behind your back. So you have a decision to make.
2007-08-07 05:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I stopped smoking weed becasue a chick asked me too. That was over 7 years ago and we are now married with a son.
FYI....he is the cutest kid in the world!....really.....no joke!!!
2007-08-07 05:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of him. #1 he's a drug user #2 he apparently lies #3 he apparently has no respect for you and your beliefs.
2007-08-07 05:03:26 · answer #10 · answered by Dawn Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋