I don't really know about this guy I heard her talking to her friend,Taylor and saying she hopes that she can have sex and get her first kiss on the date.She is almost 16 years old,she will be 16 in 1 week.I mean I want my daughter to be happy and all but I mean sex?Should I stop her from going on the date or should I lay back and relax?I don't know what I should do so what do you think?
2007-08-07 04:58:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont stop her from going on the date but dont lay back and relax.
I think its obvious your daughter has some self essteem issues, i mean shes 16 years old and shes only just going on her first date? then at the same time she gets ehr first kiss she wants to have sex. This is not right.
You need to openly talk to her about her self esteem and respect and educate her about sex. Tell her that if she has sex with this boy, especially on the first date, then she will regret it, as some one has already said, it could give her a bad reputation at teh very least, and at the worst could further her esteem issues and leave her emotionally damaged i mean she is still very young. Tell her to have more respect for herself and that you would be dissapointed in her and that ultimatly she will be dissapointed with herself is she hassex with this boy on the first date. point out that if this boy even agrees to have sex with her he obviously doesnt care for her and there would be no point having sex with a guy like that. If she likes this guy, then explain that by having sex with him on the first date, that it is unlikly she will have another date with him. Try explaining how young she is and that she has lots of time in the future for sex, but right now she should be enjoying herself. She may feel pressured in to having sex, in which case u MUST explain that sex is something you need to feel ready to do on your own judgemnt and not by anyone elses. if girls are pressuring her then its because they dont want to feel like (excuse my language) whores and if everybodies doing it then they wont (- just and explaination to give to you daughter, not sure if thats actually true.) If boys are pressuring her then tell ehr to stay away from these boys and that they do not love her and are not worth having sex with if they are pressuring her. She needs to know understand the consequences of her actions!
Im sure she will find you very understanding as your still letting her out on the date but i realli wud make sure that you have more talks with ehr in future to monitor not only her sexual activity - which i help is zilch - but her happiness and self esteem. Also, at 16 years of age, she should be properly educated about sex, so i would make sure that she is.
and make sure the boi comes to the house early to pick her up and explain to him what the deal is. Make sure they are going on a proper date were it is unlikly that they will have sex - like the cinema or ice skating - and not going to the bois house
i really ope this helps xx
2007-08-07 05:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap her! Lol...I know my mom would if she heard me saying that. Anyways, tell her what you heard and talk to her about "sex", even though she gets mad. She has no business having sex right now. If it's her first date with the boy, then she should absolutely not be having sex with him. She should be with him for at least a year before doing that. The boy could be planning to take her virginity and leave her. Who knows? When you talk to her, tell her that she is too young and all that stuff. If she "thinks" she's ready for it, tell her that she better make sure he has a condom and is very sure that she is ready. A lot of girls get pregnant by a guy who takes their virginity and then leaves them.
I know I would slap my daughter if I heard her saying that. Just talk to her.
2007-08-07 05:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoaaaaaaaaaaaaa. If she were my daughter I would tell her that you were not eavesdropping but did hear the conversation. Be cool and right upfront. No yelling. Ask her what she knows about safe sex, birth control and that you know kids want to do all these grown up things alot earlier than we did BUT does she want to be labelled as EASY? Ask her how she would feel if she doesn't see him again on a date but has to face him at school. Remind her about peer pressure and that she does not have to give herself to every guy. If she insists I would definately make sure she is on the pill because she can tell you the Mom Ok I won't but who knows.
2007-08-07 05:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by lighthousecastle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a PARENT you realy need to talk to your daughter about the difference between love and sex. And NO you should not just relax and NO I would not let my daughter go on the date.
2007-08-07 05:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by suzi q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should have the sex talk with her and talk about safe sex and boys and birth control. If you stop her now, she will do it at another time. I would just remind her of the consequences of having sex as well. Good Luck to you!
2007-08-07 05:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There comes a time when you have to trust that you have taught her appropriate behavior. With that sais its not out of line for you to sit your girl down and explain what YOUR expectations are. In a polite way you have to explain that there are evil boys out there that only want sex and nothing else. Then tell her that children that handle responsibility well are rewarded with greater lattitude in the future.
2007-08-07 05:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess this would be the best time to have that "talk" with her if u already haven't.if you have i would hoped she would have at least listened but best thing to do is to set a curfew and know where are they going and what are they doing and you should at least call and check up on her every now and then on the date not to be over protective but to make sure she doesn do anything stupid and of course to make sure she is ok..
2007-08-07 05:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anarchy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have educated your daughter better about not sleeping with guys on the first date because normally that does not lead to a 2nd date and it gets her reputation ruined.
2007-08-07 05:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ugh! I feel for you. Maybe you should just tell her that you overheard her talking about it. Have that sex talk again. Ask her if she thinks she needs to be on the pill. At some point it's just going to happen...
2007-08-07 05:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about what will go on during the date. Come out and ask her if she wants sex and explain why it is not right
2007-08-07 05:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by jessicas127 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋