Am I crazy?

Question

I started talking to this guy on the internet, we were supposed to go on a date, but I pulled out at the last minute. He's continued to pursue me, not heavily, but does seem rather keen. I've just agreed to meet him after work, am I crazy? It's just we seemed to get along quite well over e-mail and I just though, sod it, might as well...

I'm 3 months out of a messy break-up and not looking for a man, I'm finally feeling happy with myself and happy to be single. But am a big believer in fate, and thought it could be a new friend, perhaps something more... Or I can just excuse myself after a drink can't I?

Please someone tell me I'm not mad... Arrrghhh!!

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with meeting the guy, after all, it will satisfy your curiosity if nothing else. Make sure you don't give off any signals that can be mis-interpreted on the first date and yep.....you have the right to just walk out whenever you like.

But if you do..make sure he knows his place eh?

Be sure Be safe

Answer 2

You're meeting in a well lit, public place and you have a friend or two who will sit at another table and keep an eye on you, maybe walk you to your car?

If you take precautions, then yes, you can excuse yourself after a drink. Just be very very careful and do not trust him. Anyone can pretend to be anything on the internet. Since most predatory individuals are masters at manipulating people face to face, it becomes so much easier for them when they have the buffer of the internet to keep alert people from reading their facial ques.

I have a friend whose tagline reads: The internet: where the men are men, the women are men and the little girls are FBI agents.

All that being said, he could be a genuinely nice guy. I don't know the odds of that though and I tend to err on the side of caution.

Answer 3

No thats totally fine, I've met a ton of guys from the internet. Just play it safe, go somewhere where YOU are familiar with, and people are familiar with you... and go from there. Tell him you dont know how long you can stay out, but you do have time for a drink or two.

If you feel uncomfortable, look at him openly and tell him you need to go. But throw all the internet stuff out the window and try to get to know him. I'm friends with EVERYONE ive met from the net. All is well.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You're not mad. Think of it as satiating a hankering for a drink rather than going on a date. If you're concerned, arrange to have a friend ring you about a half hour after you meet this guy and if things are going poorly you've got an easy out.

In any case, I hope you have a nice time.

Answer 5

Hi,

Gosh hun it just a drink! He not proposing marriage! And lets say he does want to pursue a relationship and you do find him attractive, you don't have to move it all at 10 paces.

Just take it all slowly to ease pressure off yourselves and just date.

It may be you meet up and decide you better off as friends or it could be love of your life.

You don't know unless you go for drink but stop panicking!

Do stay in well-lit places though and don't go anywhere alone with him just yet!

Lx

Answer 6

I'm not saying he's not entirely truthful with you,but how do you know all is as it seems,he seems like he really wants to meet you,do you even know what he looks like?how long have you even been talking to him for, and where did you "find" him..If you do decide to see him then at least tell someone where your going,stay where you know,or call a friend a while before your preparing to go so they know about your where abouts,and can even pick you up if necessary.

Answer 7

In this day and age, it is not unusual to meet someone over the net. Just make it clear to him that you are not looking for anything heavy and may only want to be friends and tell someone where you are going and where you meet matters, make it a very public place. Ask someone to ring you and hour into the meeting to see how you are and no matter how tempted, do not follow him to somewhere private!! (not saying you are easy! lol!) x

Answer 8

It depends where you met him on the internet? If it was a dating site, thats perfectly fine. If it was something like myspace, run crazy run! Ha, sorry I couldn't resist. You might just be slightly crazy to be honestly with you, but thats okay I'm crazy, in a good way... I think. Yup. Good luck with everything and I hope you find the right guy!

Answer 9

No i dont think you are crazy at all, but be very carefull. stay somewhere in public view, tell someone to phone you after say 10 mins after the meet has started then you can make an excuse to leave if you want to. above all take care.

Answer 10

Don't give out personal information and meet him in a safe place. I would initially bring someoen with you. If I was a woman I would want to see the guy on my webcam before agreeing to meet him.