ive told lies that get me in trouble then i tell more lies to keep other ones going!! im starting fresh at a new school! so what can i do to make sure this doesnt happen again???
2007-08-07 04:27:24 · 8 answers · asked by Hanni 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
How do we know you're not lying now?
2007-08-07 04:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Nick V 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Good question. Probably the best answer would come from someone who has had experience helping people in this type of situation who could also get to know your particular circumstances. A counselor is a good start.
Meanwhile, here are a few things to consider:
1.) You mention you lie to keep other lies going. Do you have an idea about how come you lie in the first place?
2.) The situation is obviously causing you some distress. You would probably not have asked about this if it did not. Can you give yourself some credit for acknowledging the problem? Such credit is actually a way to be truthful with yourself- something people who lie often find very difficult to do.
3.) Is there another area of turbulence or distress in your life? People who lie often struggle with substance abuse, family problems, or other concerns. Don't overlook mentioning these when you seek help.
4.) Watch out for hesitation in getting help. Sometimes, when people hesitate to see a counselor they are ambivalent (i.e. they feel they need help and feel they do not need help all at the same time). Ambivalence is not usually such a bad thing.
However, for people who lie, hesitation in seeking therapy is not ambivalence. It is doing the problem. If you want to change, doing the problem will not get you where you want to go. Contact a qualified therapist.
Good luck.
2007-08-07 04:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by Nebish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the perfect time in your life to make a fresh start. And, as you have heard, the first step in making a change in your life's habits is admitting you have a problem. Now that you've done that, try this:
Before you join into a conversation, count to ten and think about what you are about to say. You have to teach your brain not to automatically respond with lies. You can overcome this bad habit of lying but the first thing is to be truthful with yourself. Think first and then speak -- it will really be a good first step in your effort to stop lying to people. Good luck with your new life!
2007-08-07 05:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are too hard on yourself. This is a way you have of hiding the life of an outcast. If you were more accepted you would not feel the need to make up stories. You know there is something missing. Try to find an outsider like yourself and learn the social rules for greeting and social interface. Therapy won't help you unless you can ask the therapist to tell you the social rules. If you didn't use this lying method for coping you would feel depressed. Once you have more realistic expectations for life everything will be easier .
2007-08-07 05:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
feels like your being placed right into a very undesirable corner. consult from a buddy or one among your father and mom, see what they say approximately it. Ask your college counselor if all else fails. You gotta calm down and in case you are able to in a roundabout way wiggle your way out of this relationship together with her. even in the journey that your close to to her, she's been mendacity realllllly badly. She'll in simple terms reason extra worry.
2016-10-09 10:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is a pathological liar - he thinks people don't know. But people do know. . . .and no one likes a liar.
It's like any bad habit - you have to stop on your own. But first of all you have to stop doing things that you think you have to lie about. If you are not ashamed of something - there is no reason to lie about it.
Many lies come from people wanting to fit in - find another way. Make it a joke. When you want to lie about something - instead say to people "if I was a liar - I'd say ______ but the truth is _______". You will feel better about yourself! And when you are happy with yourself - you won't feel the need to lie to people to make them like you.
2007-08-07 04:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
speak to your school counselor, and be completely honest and forthcoming with your past issues with lying.
Admitting you have the problem and wanting help is a great start.
2007-08-07 04:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by nephthys76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray and stop lying to yourself.Just stop it now and keep it real.trust you ll stop soon.you would need to before someone call you out or you or someone you know get hurt by your lies.Oh and lying aint cute boo.
2007-08-07 04:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋