I met Bo in Sept 05 after I had a break up trying to hold on thing with my ex. I was honest & told although my ex and I weren't together I still cared. I ended ex thing in Oct 05. In Feb 06, Bo and I became bf/gf & broke up the first week of May. He relocated for the summer yet claimed he still wanted to be w/ me. I believed Bo so I tried to keep it going. At the end of summer he grew distant, I gave up and started meeting new people. Then 2 days before he came back, he said he didnt want to be w/ me. Then he came back oh so in love. By then my guard was up. I had friends but w/ no benefits. He accused me of everything. I began having headaches. talked 2 friends who encouraged me to leave. In Nov Ty invited me to stay at his home while he was gone for peace. Bo begged me not to. I needed to get away. went for the wkend. Jan. I slept w/ Ty after I left Bo for good. got w/ Bo 2 days later. told him. he cant let it go, no trust. learned he slpt w 5 ppl prior to me&Ty. y cant I let him go
2007-08-07 03:50:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to cut him off completely. He don't know what he wants and you shouldn't suffer in the meantime.
2007-08-07 03:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is I don't know why people stay in relationships that are hurtful. I do know that you and everybody else needs some time to adjust and figure out what you really want. (we won't even speak to the point that possible the males in your life are playing a game with you or that you might be playing one as well - although you don't sound like it).
But if you truly want a solution (and it's not the only solution) that will work, I have an answer. Stop seeing/sleeping with/talking to/or otherwise engaging any of these people until you have had time to firmly decide what you want to do. Then tell them. If that one your choose rejects you, leave it alone and, here's a novel idea - one that few follow through with because we get too entangled with the 'physical' closeness implicit in the coming together of the body - man/woman.
So here's the idea - MOVE ON - no matter how the other might change it's mind. Otherwise you can count on nothing for the rest of your life but hurt and pain and hurt and pain and hurt and pain and.....
Is that the way you want to live the rest of your life? Do this now and even though it will be hard, you can teach yourself self-discipline about your relationships. Believe me, it will be worth it for the rest of your life.
So I guess I'm saying - Resolve - Be Firm - God bless!
2007-08-07 11:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by Goodmomma1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hurts you because he can. He has control over you, and he enjoys that power. Then, when you threaten to leave, he manipulates you by the begging and such. It is a classic example of an abusive personality. Absolutely classic.
But I'll tell you one thing: sleeping with other people isn't going to solve the problem. You need to wean yourself off of men for awhile and learn to love and respect yourself.
Your two friends are right. You need to get out of this relationship. You deserve better than this. If you need help, get some information from the websites below, or talk to your doctor about seeing a counselor. It will make a really big difference. Good luck!
2007-08-07 10:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard to let go, but have you ever thought that he is either jealous or hurting himself? Try talking to him, and if worse comes to worse, you just need to tell him to get over the past and look at the future, whether you are together or not. When I broke up with my bf, it took me ages to get the courage to talk to him again, and now we are like best friends... maybe your story could have a happy ending too! good luck!!!
2007-08-07 10:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it sounds like he's messing with your head. Get away from him. Don't answer his calls or his texts or his emails, just take some time away. I think you will realize that he is NOT the person you want to be with once you start to get to know yourself a little better. I hope this helps.
2007-08-07 10:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by elizatash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you WANT to be with? Does he WANT to be with you - if so go get him and to hell with the consequences. If not, move on - dont let Bo or Ty tie you down from moving on.
2007-08-07 10:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by Maya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is to think let go your ex if u really love bo
2007-08-07 10:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by amira y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he did it before you with 5 girls if anybody should have trust issues is you with him. u need to let him go and find somebody who's more mature one day he tells u he is through with u and the next day he tells u he loves u. get rid of him and play hard to get with the new guy he will treat u like royalty dump him before he dumps u for good he will trust me
2007-08-07 11:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and just let it go. You can't be happy with someone you can't trust and can't trust you back either. He is not good for you. You need someone who will be there for you through thick and thin and not when he wants to be.
2007-08-07 10:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by BlueStarr82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are going threw i jus got out of a bad relationship but you are sprung just still in love there is nothing wrong with that baby keep your head up
2007-08-07 10:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by Latasha S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋