The party is being held at a public restaurant, and everyone is expected to buy their own meal. Then theres a club excursion. All invitees are expected to pay a cover charge to get into the club.
I don't have anytihng all white to wear, and I'd feel more comforable in other colors. I'd like to come to the party, but I've been told that I'd better wear all white or don't come at all. Is the inviter being selfish here? I mean, I'm not being served dinner, or getting a free pass into the club. I'm getting the 'privelge' to wish this person a happy birthday. Why should I have to do all this extra crap and spend a ton of money?
2007-08-07 03:43:29 · 9 answers · asked by Mabel 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I know I have the option of no going. That is not me question. My question is, am I wrong? Is it proper etiquette to invite someone to a party, and ask them to adhere to a rediculous dress code when it will be held at a public place, at the invitees own expense?
2007-08-07 03:54:12 · update #1
Your feelings about this preposterous invitation are absolutely valid. The dress code is very odd and I myself would have the hardest time finding an appropriate outfit. The host can naturally reserve the right to ask for formal wear and such, but uniform color is a bit much. But to top everything, the guests are even responsible for their own meal, cover charge and likely for buying their own drinks! Naturally you will be expected to bring a gift as well, and a cheerful attitude despite going through all these expenses and troubles for your cheap and inconsiderate host! What, then, is in it for you as a guest? I would simply pass on the "pleasure" of attending.
2007-08-07 04:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by goosefraba224 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Not at all, they are asking for alot. I'd have a difficult time putting a white outfit together - and I live in a hot climate (southern Florida). For a Hawaian theme- most everyone has a floral shirt or something tropical, but there's no way to "fake" a white dress code. They could express their desire that people honor their request, but not forbid anyone from attending if they don't comply. What is the concept of white (purity for a wedding or something?)
2007-08-07 04:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The better question may be: Why do you feel obligated to go?
What kind of person has a party where all the guests are expected to pay for everything? TACKY! Let me guess in addition to all that - they also want a gift from you too - right?
I personally wouldn't go. I would send my regrets, along with a small gift and leave it at that. Or perhaps tell them that you're unable to make it on that date and invite the person out to lunch another time. (Where there is no dress code or after party).
2007-08-07 03:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
From what you've described, I'd sooner stay home and scrub floors.
Edit:
If you really wish to attend but feel put upon by the dress code, then wear what you like. Something in a very pale colour.
2007-08-07 04:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by jewel_mayhew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong. It all sounds very rude to me. Even if everything were paid for it would be rude to demand certain things of the guests.
2007-08-07 04:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by Coop's Wife 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's not your party, you don't have to go. If you don't like the theme then don't go.
2007-08-07 04:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can any feelings about anything you want.....it's a free world.
So if it really bothers you....again don't go.
It's really not a big decision.
2007-08-07 04:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, they are being selfish. If I were you, I won't attend.
2007-08-07 04:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
DONT GO IF U DONT LIKE THE THEME! SIMPLE AS THAT.
2007-08-07 03:47:32 · answer #9 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋