I moved into my dad's home last summer as he is in the last stages of emphesema. The kicker is he is a drug addict and very difficult to live with. What is the best way to tell him his behavior, the emotional abuse, guilt trips, and violent mood swings, are making me want to leave him to die alone. It is getting to the point where I am ready to let him die by himself. I hate that he has got me to this point but I am now getting sick due to his sickness.
2007-08-07 03:28:42 · 6 answers · asked by vaccad76 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The worst part of all this is that he will die soon, within six months, yet his drug addict behavior is making me sick. I am so mad at him that I pray for his death. It makes no sense to me to needlessly suffer and be a miserable prick to those around you. I know it's his addiction but it doesn't make it any easier when he's acting like a reall ***. Kit Kat I know I can't change him. Ive dealt with this my whole life. It's a hard decision to make to leave a parent to die alone or stay with them and take the ****. Probably the toughest decision I've ever had to make so far. I can say one thing though if he keeps treating me the way he's been treating me I'll have no problem letting him die alone. I put my life on hold to come help him and this is the thanks I get. Drug addiction is such a wonderful thing. lol
2007-08-07 04:05:24 · update #1
You are in a very hard place and your Dad is obviously suffering too he's biting at the nearest person who he feels safe to do so. The question is can you take it without being completely destroyed yourself? Give yourself the space to think things through, if the answer's yes then steel yourself, you dont have to accept his behaviour, calmly tell him when things are not acceptable and walk away for a while, but I suspect he won't change. If no then do what is right for you and seek help later, you will do the guilt thing at some point. Try getting some counselling to help you decide.
2007-08-07 03:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your dad is terminal then he is likely in dire need of those drugs and who is to say he's wrong? he is dieing. I suspect he is very angry that he is dieing and that is the behavior you are seeing, not his drug use. You might do well to get him some help, he might benefit from end of life counselling, and often hospice organizations will provide this. I suggest you calm yourself, pick a calm moment and have a talk with your dad. In an un-accusing manner, tell him how his behavior makes you feel, tell him also that you love him and want to help him, but you can't help him if he won't help himself. Don't expect him to get off the drugs, he is dieing and likely needs them, but talk about getting hospice involved and some home health care would probably be in order. End of life issues are not easy to deal with, but with the right support you can help your dad get past this life with some dignity and then have the satisfaction of knowing you did your best.
2007-08-07 11:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Contact the local chapter of Narc-anon, who are a support group for families who have to deal with an addicted family member and they will give proper guidance and direction.
2007-08-07 10:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you find a support group in your area and attend one of their meetings. They are made up of people experiencing the same things that you are going through. Organizations like Nar-Anon, Al-Anon, Al-Ateen. ...Good Luck...
2007-08-07 10:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Ret68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my moms a drug addict i just moved out and into my best friends house
2007-08-07 10:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, nothing you can do will change his behavior. You will need to find a new place to live.
2007-08-07 10:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋