in christianity, if you get married to your partner and take on the vowel "In sickness and in health" and your partner sonn aftrer becomes ill with alcolholisim, is it acceptable all of a sudden to go back on your word ?
2007-08-07 03:21:40 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
with alcoholisim comes abuse
so you have to put up with that too?
2007-08-07 03:35:19 · update #1
No, it isn't.
Stick with your vow.
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2007-08-07 03:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by Char 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The practice of sin disqualifies any Christian from being a Christian and leaves them damned for eternity.
The point about abuse particularly applies. Why? Because once the person loses his "Christian status" and is again an unbeliever, Paul's counsel about marriage begins operating!
Paul counseled the ones married to an unbeliever to stay with such ones if these were willing to remain with the believer. Willingness is indicated by that persons behavior. Thus physical abuse is counter-indicating willingness.
My conscience would permit me to divorce such a person for scriptural reasons. The scriptures are the basis by which we guide our lives, not church dogma.
2007-08-07 04:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Fuzzy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholism? Is that contagious?
Anyways, that choice is up to you. I personally don''t believe that that is a illness, Breast cancer & prostate cancer are illnesses. Picking up a glass of fermented crap & chemicals and drinking it is not an illness. That is a choice. If you are on an island with no alchol, no matter how much your parents dranked, you will not have alcholisim....However you can still get cancer. Period.
I'm all about working on your marraige. But if my spouse wants to cheat on me with the bottle of rum, then that is what i would consider an affair & abuse. And a danger to myself and my family
2007-08-07 03:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a great question.
I am not welcome in the Catholic Church anymore because I chose to divorce a man who was not only a heroin addict, but cheated on me and abused me and my son. Sorry, but taking my children away from this situation was not a sin. Staying there and making them grow up that way would have been the real sin.
And this is one of the many reasons I have given up on god and religion.
2007-08-07 05:28:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is something that needs to be dealt with. Being drunk is a sin, while having a drink is not. When it becomes obsessive, then it becomes a problem. You can get into the whole issue of being unequally yoked in this question as well
2007-08-07 03:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, and it has nothing to do with being Christian. It has to do with being an honest and honorable person. I assume you married this person because you love them and want the best for them, so you should want to help them overcome their problems. You need to support and help your partner but not at the risk of harming yourself. If your partner is violent or dangerous because of the disease then you may need to leave. If they are unwilling to help themselves then it may not be possible to help them. Seek the assistance of family and friends.
2007-08-07 03:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by jautomatic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
And believe it or not, drinking alcohol is a...behavior!
Yes, that's right. It is a behavior, a choice. A conscious decision. It is NOT a "disease" like AA claims.
NO disease ever forced someone to put a bottle to their mouth.
What the "alcoholic" struggles with is a physical addiction, and their life is or can be hell.
It wouldn't be very loving to dump her or him.
It isn't very loving on their part either to not fight against the addiction.
A vow is a vow. Made not only to the spouse, but to GOD.
2007-08-07 03:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jed 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
That would depend on the situation. Society is so messed up calling people who drink sick instead of addicts. They are taking the blame away from the person who made bad choices.
2007-08-07 03:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you go back on your word, then your word doesn't mean too much. Also, marriage is much more than a "word" - it is a covenant bond. "the two become one" - and what happens if you cut "one" in half? Do you get 2 ? No, you only get a half.
To "smartnsassy": What you say is true, but complicated, and it should only be your last choice. (...and, aldultery won't get you a decree of nullity.)
2007-08-07 03:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You stick with them unless they commit adultery, or your heart has become hard.
I would help my partner quit drinking, I would still love her and care for her. the thought of leaving her because of that wouldn't even cross my mind.
you make it sound like it's an excuse to leave someone, but it's more then that when there's LOVE involved.
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2007-08-07 03:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by the shiz 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You really need to try to stick with him. Try to get him in counseling ASAP.
PS - How did he "all of a sudden" come down with alcoholism? Its hardly something you do overnight.
2007-08-07 03:26:14 · answer #11 · answered by sierraskyesmom 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋