i just started anew job in a small office. this one woman is always spreading rumors and talking trash. and i cant ignore it...i have severe anxiety and im freaking out.how do i deal with this
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2007-08-07 02:57:13 · 9 answers · asked by animalicia 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
As you indicate the office is small and you are the new person and the management has elected to keep her for whatever reason to date, find another job. Life is too short to stay in a toxic situation and if you stir the pot and complain to management, it is likely you will be the one let go anyway.
In the meantime, try your best to stay off the radar screen and neutral, totally professional, do the best work that you can and never talk about anything personal or do any personal business on company time as she will use it against you.
2007-08-07 03:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough situation. If you find it hard to ignore, you could confront......at least she knows where you stand and it may put a stop to some of the crap?? on the other hand, given your anxiety issues, that wouldnt really be an option you would take. Have you considered changing jobs? If you dislike your current situation and it is causing you this much concern then move jobs. Aim for a larger office where the in house politics are a lot easier to manuover around. Good luck!
2007-08-07 10:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being the "new kid" on the block is tough. Small offices are not immune to gossip and nonsense. I find women in the workplace to be the worst. If you feel you can talk to your immediate supervisor I would do so. Unfortunately, alot of things are done behind closed doors. People like this rarely change, and if she has seniority it is even more complicated. I don't suggest talking to her because you mentioned you have severe anxiety, it may prove to be too much for you. If your supervisor can't handle things, my suggestion is to look elsewhere for a job due to your health. Stress is very damaging to the body, no job or amount of money is worth your health. Good luck I feel for you.
2007-08-07 10:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by Angelina N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't confide anything to her. She will just use it against you. If she talks trash about others it's likely she'll talk about you sooner or later. These kind of people are only looking for attention and trying to find a way to make themselves feel better by making other people look like trash. I agree with the others ... ignore her.
2007-08-09 02:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Bonbon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with blondebottlemama. If she is still there after all the problems she causes, you have a very weak personel department and she is not going to go away anytime soon. I would try to switch departments or find another job. The best you can do for know is ignore her and is she starts trouble with you, report it to your boss. Who knows, you might be the straw that breaks the camel's back with human resources giving them reason to get rid of her. Best of luck.
2007-08-07 14:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by DAR76 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you have severe anxiety -- have you been to a doctor for counseling and medication?
Secondly, avoid this woman. Put your head down, do your work and don't get involved. Counting to ten may help and, if you have to, go to the ladies' room for a minute to excuse yourself from the situation.
2007-08-07 12:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds exactly like my "mom". She is the same exact way. Recently, my fiance and I announced our wedding day (we've been together for 4 years), and all of a sudden she is spreading rumors to all our friends and family members that my fiance is a child pornographer and owes thousands of dollars to people all over town, and has been arrested for all kinds of things that are unmentionable. It is truly amazing. Whats more amazing is that she gets this information from his nasty ex wife who has an axe to grind. And she believes every word this woman tells her. She even went so far as to give this woman our address and told her to go to our house and tell us off, basically she just put our lives in danger. The ex wife is a woman who was arrested when I first started dating my fiance because she was trying to break into my fiances shower window while he was in the shower. I drove by and saw her doing this because I was on my way to visit. Her own son was legally emancipated from her when he was 15 because he could no longer stand her abuse and by the way this was after my fiance already divorced her. My fiance was the one who got the divorce. Now does this sound like something my own mother should be buying into - information from psycho woman herself? Sorry to go on about this, I know its not something at work, but believe me, the only way and I mean the ONLY way to deal with these trouble makers is to have absolutely nothing to do with them at all. In your case only if you have to and only for business. But I would stay as far from her as you can. People like that cannot live without latching onto others and trying to destroy lives with their filthy mouths. Oh, by the way, my mom thinks I am insane and I am making myself look like an idiot because I am rushing into marrying my fiance. I am 46, we've been together 4 years and will be getting married in 1 year!!! I have totally cut her off and will never have anything to do with this dangerous woman again. I would do the same if you can.
2007-08-07 10:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem at my job!!! IGNORE HER! im sure everyone knows she's a gossipper. just do ur work and dont speak to her more than what concerns your work. u will be fine!
2007-08-07 10:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to your boss about it
2007-08-07 10:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋