Christians, if you had an 11 year old daughter who got pregnant...?

Question

Are you saying you wouldn't let her have an abortion?

Despite the fact that it would probably ruin her life? And that she could be injured during childbirth?

It's not a "baby" before a certain amount of time, it isn't even concious.

What if she was raped?

Answer 1

1) whether she has the baby or aborts it, it will negatively affect her body and her life. Get a grip here.

2) this is something that people deny all the time, but you must get it through your head: human female egg + human male sperm = human baby. Living, breathing and 100% human.

3) if she was raped, society needs to do everything in our power to find and incarcerate the rapist. It's not the child's fault and it's not the baby's fault. Good grief woman.

An 11 year old girl is not capable of taking care of an infant. This child should be under the watchful eye of a doctor and monitored. If the pregnacy in any way affects the health of the child, it should be terminated. If there is no risk to the child, it is far healthier for her body for the pregnancy to go to full term. The fate of the child is up to the family. Councilling MUST take place.

Answer 2

I'm a college instructor, and one of my students disagreed but respected my opinion on abortion. One day, she came to me with a personal problem.

My student was a 50-something year old Black Baptist woman. She reminded me very much of my grandmother. So, when she came to me and told me this story, I was both honored that she sought my advice and horrified at her dilemma.

She had a 12 year old granddaughter and a 16 year old grandson. The grandson invited a friend to sleepover one night, and during the night, the friend raped the 12 year old granddaughter. The granddaughter ended up pregnant.

My student, the caretaker and grandmother, was torn. Her religion, her morals, everything in her stood against abortion, but she could not stand to see her 12 year old grandbaby's life be destroyed by someone else's hateful act. I could see in her face how horrible a decision she was faced with. There was no way abortion could be a good thing in her eyes, but to force a 12 year old to have a baby . . . that was even worse.

She knew I was pro-choice, yet she sought my advice. Why? Because she needed someone to tell her that saving her grandchild's future and body was OK.

Why? Why is that even necessary? Who in their right mind would force a 12 year old rape victim to have a baby? Who values a fetus' life over that of a mentally tortured 12 year old? THAT is immoral and cruel.

I didn't tell her that she should have her granddaughter have an abortion, but I did tell her that if she should go that direction that there WAS support out there. And that her grandchild would need a lot of it because this is a cruel world toward women who have abortion.

I don't know what she decided. To be honest, I don't want to know. All I know is that providing her and her family emotional support rather than calling her and her grandchild "murderers" was the most important, meaningful, loving, moral, and compassionate thing I could think to do.

Answer 3

I would talk with my child. If she was raped, I would assure her that it wasn't her fault, and if it was soon enough, I would get her the morning after pill and have done with it. If it was consentual, I would discuss her decision, tell her that I am disappointed but that I still love her and that we now have a serious decision to make.

I would take her to a doctor, where we would explain to her what would be happening to her body and what the risks were.

I would take her to a therapist where we would discuss that she may regret whatever decision she made.

We would spend some time with babies and we would make the decision as quickly as possible.

Truthfully, I would hope she would choose to abort, but I would not force it upon her.

I would love my child first and if it came to it, I would love the baby when it became one.

Some of these answers horrify me. I hope you never really have to deal with this - for your daughters' sakes!

Answer 4

you're able to save a closer watch on your little ones! A 12 year old boy don't have adequate on my own time to get a girl pregnant. you're patently not observing over your little ones adequate, or they don't look to be being watched in college. you're able to deliver your little ones to a distinctive college. it is the main pathetic element i've got ever heard. an 11 year old lady shouldn't even understand what a prostitute is (even nevertheless with they way society is, it is stressful to shield your little ones, through fact there are undesirable father and mom accessible who deliver their little ones to college which incorporate your little ones) i think so undesirable to your little ones. you're able to take a seat with them and your spouse and characteristic a dialogue approximately relatives values and tutor them the cost of residing a organic existence. they are too youthful to be appearing that way, and that they don't try this certainly, it is through fact they have been uncovered to person subjects at too youthful an age. possibly you're able to evaluate homeschooling and proscribing their laptop and television utilization. wow, so unhappy. Society recently sickens me.

Answer 5

That is a damned if you do and damned if you don't type of
question. I would think that the circumstances in which the pregnancy occurred (consensual or cohort ed, rape, or personal decision, incest or boyfriend? Letting her decide what to do about it makes her responsible for her own actions. Insisting that she either to abort or keep the baby makes the parents responsible for the outcome.
Therefore, I would leave that decision up to her and support her with love even if her choice is not to my liking.

Answer 6

You're asking me to rape my 11-year-old again by going through an abortion? Because that's what it is. A woman lays her body down and allows herself to be violated -- the cervix forced open, her womb invaded by tools, suction, the life within her destroyed. Abortion is ugly, harsh, cruel, painful, dangerous (yes, even legal abortions have been known to maim/kill women through perforated uterus, damaged cervix, infection, permanent scarring that leads to infertility, etc.) -- why would I subject my child to something like that so soon after she suffered the brutal crime of abuse/rape? (Even if she volunteered for sex, it's abuse -- an 11 year old is still a child.)

Does the abortion "cure" the rape? Does the abortion remove the trauma of abuse? No to both. Abortion only adds an additional physical trauma to a child who has already suffered enough, in my book. And yes, birth is another form of trauma, but it's well-managed by medical care and in the end, you have something to feel good about, something to be proud of. You don't have that with abortion.

I don't think having a baby ruins ANY woman's life, if she has the right help and support, and I have every intention of giving that to my daughters (and daughter-in-law, whenever I get one), no matter what!

What I would do is prevent the pregnancy from happening in the first place, if I could. If my daughter was raped and ended up pregnant, I wouldn't love her any less and I wouldn't love my grandchild any less. I would pay for the absolute best medical care possible and keep my daughter closely monitored so that the experience caused her as little physical trauma as possible, and I would assist my daughter through all the physical and emotional difficulties of that experience. I wouldn't teach her that it's proper to answer violence with violence (rape with killing the rapist's child) and I would constantly remind her that her baby is HER child and her opportunity to make something very, very good come out of the evil of rape. I wouldn't allow people to belittle her for being raped and impregnated by rape -- as those who recoil in horror at the thought of bearing a child conceived in rape do. I wouldn't allow anyone to belittle my grandchild for the fact that his/her dad was a horrible criminal. My dad's an abusive jerk, but that doesn't mean I am, and it doesn't mean that I should have been aborted because of HIS crimes.

Now then...my daughter would have to be a willing participant in all of this. She would have to say "yes" to carrying the child on her own. But as I am raising my children to have respect for ALL forms of human life, including the very small, including the deformed/handicapped, including the children of criminals, I imagine that though it would be difficult, any child of mine would understand the importance of protecting a child conceived by an 11-year-old, even though it's a very difficult situation. My kids know that however difficult whatever challenge is that they face, they can count on Mom and Dad to help see them through it.

Answer 7

Hello sweet More tea vicar?.. :)

I would stand beside my daughter, I would raise the precious little child..I do not believe in abortion for any reason..

When abortion means: 1 : the termination of a pregnancy after, accompanied by, resulting in, or closely followed by the "DEATH" of the embryo or fetus:

It is murder..because how can something die..unless it was alive.. :(


In Jesus Most Precious Name..
With Love..In Christ.. :)

Answer 8

Sounds disgusting that an 11 year old would be pregnant.The only thing more disgusting would be a 21 year old getting an abortion because she wanted to fulfill a 30 minute fantasy.
And while your at it, all those old folks down at the nursing home who are being feed through a straw.Should we just shoot them, or suck their brains out?After all most of them aren't even "conscious".God for give you.
Weather you elect to think so or not, God is still in control.And is quit capable of taking care of the 11 year old, obviously better than the parents have.
Now I am ready for all the thumbs down that you can give.

Answer 9

Despite the fact that it would probably ruin her life? And that she could be injured during childbirth?

There is no "probably" in a fact. 11 year olds have had children for a long time now and each circumstance works out differently. Some give their babies up for adoption and they realize that actions have consequences and they become wiser about sexual matters as a result. Some raise their baby and go through the trials that any mother has with raising a child and their children go on to become productive members of society.

Playing God and saying that you are going to kill an innocent unborn for the unwise decision of it's mother is wrong. We can't know the future we can only learn from mistakes made in the past. Killing an innocent unborn baby is an attempt to pretend the mistake was never made and the baby is the one who suffers the consequences of never having a chance to live and love and make a difference in this world.

Rape is a tragic circumstance, but it still doesn't justify imposing the penalty for that crime on an innocent unborn baby. Giving the death penalty to a baby because of what a rapist did is wrong.

Answer 10

If someone has a daughter who is pregnant at age 11, how "Christian" can they be? But to answer your incredibly dumb question, I would not let her compound her first mistake by assisting her in making another, graver mistake. That's is called "murder". If you are mature enough to have sex, then you should be mature enough to live up to your responsibilities if you get pregnant. People who murder their unborn children are selfish, ignorant, and heartless. How can you kill an innocent child just to relieve yourself of a "burden" YOU CHOSE to take on by having intercourse?