I wish so bad that my husband would never have told me that I was making noises in my sleep.?

Question

It just so happened that the only reason I was snoring in my sleep was because I was congested with a bad cold, well ever since he said that I had heard myself snoring a couple of early mornings in a row, and now I think that bothered me so much that now I am aware of how I feel when I sleep, so now it's like I am so self-conscious of how I am when I am sleeping, that I am thinking about sleeping too much now, and never feel like I am sleeping anymore, and I never feel the switch anymore of the feeling of being awake to falling asleep anymore. Anyways, it's like he just shouldn't have told me, it's not like I have sleep apnea or anything, it's just that he has caused me to worry unnecessarily about sleeping, and now I have anxiety about it now.

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with snoring in your sleep. My fiance snores like crazy. I told him about it, only cause it's kinda cute. I can tell when he goes to sleep cause he'll start snoring. xD He says I snore too sometimes. We also talk in our sleep and sometimes I twitch.

One time we fell asleep and I had a dream where I was falling and I jolted in my sleep really hard and kicked him. It scared him to death and then we both started laughing. Haha.

So yeah, not sure why you think it's so bad.

Either way, try reading a book before you go to bed. It'll help relax you. Or you could watch a movie (I always fall asleep during movies, even if they're terribly loud). At night when your head hits the pillow, don't even THINK about sleeping. There have been nights I haven't been able to sleep and I'll be sitting there thinking, "I want to go to sleep." I'll wonder if I'll ever just pass out basically. The more you think about it, the more it won't come. Just count sheep or just think about the good things that happened that day.

Also, try talking to your husband about it. Maybe you're just subconsciously worried your husband thinks badly of you cause you snore. It's completely normal to snore. Everyone probably does to some extent. I'M SURE HE SNORES TOO! Am I right?

Just talk to him about it and relax.

Answer 2

you are not responsible for anything that happens in your sleep so don't let him bully you into finding help for it. you had a cold thats it.

In his defense (for a moment) it may be that he only said it because he thought it was no big deal and he assumed you would see it the same way. I guess he didn't read you very well on that one because just by saying it he has MADE it a big deal for you.

You were doing fine before he said anything. you are probably fine again now but you are listening for it. he wont be. Everything you do is louder in your own head. if its not loud or constant then he will just go to sleep that is your indication that its gone.

To shut him up you can always suggest he sleep on the couch if it bothers him. If he takes you up on it more than once then you know it is ongoing and you should suggest separate rooms.

Its not the marriage crushing thing you might think. It is actually a nice situation because everyone gets the sleep they need and you still come together when you both want to.

It doesnt need to be equated with marital problems if you both realize and accept that you are fine otherwise. Your love is still strong and you dont need to be joined at the hip while you sleep

But the thought of it might really focus him on what is important. YOU BOTH NEED YOUR SLEEP. But he may feel that the having you beside him IS worth a snore once in a while.

otherwise it might be the answer you both need to prevent you both suffering and quietly resenting one another.

. just putting it out there

Answer 3

When normally someone snores in their sleep is because a couple of reasons. They are congested, or over tired, or even blocked their airways and heavier breathing occurs and then therefore creates snoring effect.

Do not worry about him telling you that you snore in your sleep. If he is bothered by it, there are prescriptions that can be filled for stopping snoring effects when sleeping. Do not be too cautious about your snoring, this in turn will make you more tired because your body and brain needs to work to be aware of these things.

Another way would be, tell him that he can take the couch and you take the bed when you sleep...haha!!! Just kidding. But it can be a last resort tactic.

Answer 4

Everybody snores or makes noises when they sleep. How about your husband? Does he make any noise when he sleeps. I personally have full conversations in my sleep. according to my wife.

Answer 5

If your husband has to leave the room to sleep at night, then talk to a doctor about possible solutions to fix your "snoring". Otherwise, leave it alone.

BUT you really need to stop asking the same questions over and over again...

Answer 6

hey.. i used to have sleeping problems ... all u should do is have a hot cup of milk b4 bed with a tea spoon of suga in it and you'll sleep like a baby!! and don't worry bout ur snoring.. ur husband has been able to cope with it b4!

Answer 7

get over it, almost every human being makes some sort of noise when they sleep. get some of the breath right strips

Answer 8

Dont worry about it-I am sure he does the same thing. We all do it- My hubby just nudges me when I do it and I roll over- and I usually kick him when he wakes me up when he is snoring. You must be newly married- its ok- after a few years you wont care.

Answer 9

Tell him that he farts in his sleep and roll over and get some sleep.

Answer 10

Kick his sorry butt out of bed. Tell him if it troubles him so much, he's welcome to sleep on the couch. AND STOP WORRYING ABOUT IT.