Its been about 3 weeks since me and my ex broke up. We broke up because I made some mistakes, and my ex said I kept hurting her. The reasons she broke up with me were because I had a slumber type part for one of my friends birthday and my friend invited a girl over. I told my girlfriend and she said she was fine with it since she knows I love her and would never think of doing something with another girl. But until now I found out she was pissed about it, She thinks I said I loved the other girl. Which I never recall saying because I loved my girlfriend and never thought of any other girl like that. Another reason is because a guy was hitting on her at work and I became over jealous. The reason we broke up was because she didn't want to hurt anymore because I was making her suffer.
2007-08-07 01:20:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After we broke up I tried calling her for the next couple of days to explain my self and get closure.The last time I tried calling her she said to leave her alone and stop harassing her. She also told me to go to hell, and that I was the worst boyfriend she ever had. And some other things like that. She also gave me back all my things I ever gave her. And my question is, how is it so easy for her to just forget about me so easily. We were friends for a year and a half before we started dating. The longest we ever went without talking was a week. And now its been alomst a month since we talked. We where the best of friends. we were always there for each other and we never fought. I feel like shes the one. After all we've been through how could she just forget me like this? Yea I made some mistakes, But I realized them and I learned from them, but she doest believe me. I'm so lost I don't know what to do anymore.
2007-08-07 01:21:49 · update #1
Should I wait for her? I mean I really do love this girl. Shes worth the wait, I just don't want to make it a lost cause.
2007-08-07 01:28:57 · update #2
While I give her space would it hurt if I called her and made friendly conversation? Just be like hi how are you, hope your doing ok. Something like that. Just to let her know I dont hate her because of our break up, and that I still care about her.
2007-08-07 01:38:34 · update #3
no, don't call her- it has been a month, possibly take one last plunge by sending her flowers and attach a letter to it (the florist would attach the letter for you and then deliver them).
I would express to her all the things you just expressed to us, you made some mistakes, you are not perfect and if ever she changes her mind about things, that you will be there for her.
This opens the door without harrassment. One thing you DONT want to appear as is deperate- I know when i was dating, I liked it better when I had to work for someone a little bit- the guys who pouted and begged me back were to me not a man, but a big baby. And a real huge pita (pain in the @ss). persuing her to the point she feel harrassed will only push her away, grasp her heart strings and do the letter and flowers- if she still doesn't respond in a positive way, then I would just back off- there are others out there and hard to believe, maybe even someone more suitable for you- she just may NOT be the one- If I married the 2 in my past who I thought were the one, I would most likely be in a divorce because I found later what they were truly about and found someone far better than all the men in my past put together.
Things happen for a reason, if this is meant to be- it will be, of not, let it go. I wish you the best of luck in whatever life brings your way.
2007-08-07 02:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by brandy2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her time.. If its meant to be, and she decides to clear the air you will have your chance then. Chances are right now she is hurting and she is showing her anger towards you as a defensive mechanism. Keep yourself busy and DON'T push... Let her come to you, and if she doesn't move on... I know its hard and it hurts... I have been there! I just recently came to a full recovery from my split 10 months ago. There are always gonna be bumps and bruises, and sometimes things don't work as you hoped they would, but they always work out. There WILL be someone else in the long run, and you may even happier than you were... Or you two may rekindle a month, few months, or year from now and live happily ever after... For now, walk away, let her have her space, and keep yourself very busy... That takes you mind off the pain so you can handle it in small doses... Good Luck!
2007-08-07 01:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by Angel_Mom of 2 Pretty Girls 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure she hasn't forgotten about you, however she is probably keeping her distance while she works out her own emotional mess. If she is the one then it will all work out in the long run. You didn't seem to have done anything too horribly wrong according to your story. I suggest you give her as much space and time as she needs. Give your self time too, then move on. If it is meant to be you will find one another again.
2007-08-07 01:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by Learning2livelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is way to impossible to fix. You both need to decide if you want to give this another chance or is it over? I say give it one one try with no cheating on either end and see if it works out. I know you both still have feelings for each other come on don't you just a little. good luck to both of you!
2007-08-07 01:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by LILLIAN L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should wait around moping-there is so much life to enjoy and experience out there! Learn from this relationship and move on. If, down the road, the two of you should connect again then that is great, but if it doesn't happen you can be happy without her!
2007-08-07 01:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by Tom T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She didn't just forget you!!! I know it hurts, but go on with your life.....hopefully she'll bump into you soon-see that you are doing good "your head is all together" and want to work it out with you. Everything takes time, if it is meant to be - it will be! Sit back and choose what road you want to be on...one that is putting you at a stand still or one that is going to show your are independant and strong? Give it time....you tried talking to her already now try this and see what happens......KEEP YOURSELF BUSY...Good luck to you.
2007-08-07 01:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by joni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here is the thing you and her havent given much time to get to know her completely becuase if you only knowned her for a little bit of time then she will definitely get over you you said you and her know each other for only a year thats not much time of course she will get over you fast because it isnt much time try to make it up to her try talking to her but if she refuses dont make her its not cool leave her alone for a while when it comes to her senses she give you a ring but if she doesnt then sorry you officially lost her thats just the way it goes .
2007-08-07 01:40:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not change her mind right now so close the door on this and chalk it up to experience.
2007-08-07 01:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her all that! Tell her you love and and that you thought she was the one!
2007-08-07 01:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by Bella Swan ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget her and move on
2007-08-07 01:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋