Did i do a rape?

Question

Hi my gf is very social type and a regular party goer.I had sex with her one night, and now we got splitted. We feel romantic on that party night and we were alone in her apartment, She seems to be happy when I kissed and carressed her, but started resisting me and cried when I remove her dress, but somehow managed to have sex with her, but after that night she dint speak with me for 2 weeks, and she seems to be disturbed and moody! And when I tried to speak with her, she thretened me that she will call cops and tell them that I raped her! Now she is planning to get away from me by going into her parents town, But I really love her and I dont want to leave her from my life! Anyone please help me how to get rid of this problem?

Hey I got a chance to met her alone in my lane! she cried out when she saw me, I told her don't take it serious it's just for fun! But she pull me away and ran off. And her friend told that, she is fearing about being pregnent, I am trying to explain her, but she is not listnening! I am frustrated and I am going t move away from her! and going to have a new girl friend!!!

Answer 1

you arent sick. you are evil.

Answer 2

You say "but started resisting me and cried when I remove her dress, but somehow managed to have sex with her"

Yes that is rape,someone who is resisting and crying is saying no. There is no way to get rid of this problem, was it unprotected sex, if so she may be pregnant. Don't think she will get together with you if she is, she will hate you all you life together. I known because my Father married my Mother because she was pregnant and they had a love hate relationship until he died and we children all suffered because of it.

I hope she is not pregnant, but I doubt she will want anything more to do with you. You are very lucky that she has not reported you to the Police or told her parents. It was your selfless act that spoil your relationship with your girlfriend. Remember you raped her, so why would she want anything to do with you. Be a man and let her go, just be there if she is pregnant.

You have learned the hard way that no is no even if not spoken, resisting and crying does say/mean no, you should realize that before you can move on and not make the same mistake again.

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Your frustrated, because she runs away from you and is not listening to you, what did you expect to happen YOU RAPED HER, of course is afraid of you she may think you will do it again, especially when there is not one around. You know her friend ask her/him to ask your ex girl friend (she ex is at moment) if she would meet you in a public place with her friend there as well, so you can talk about what happened and what to do if she is pregnant, you want to be a man and own up to what you have done. Say you will go to counselling if you think that may help, but if she does see you, go to counselling. To say “I am frustrated and I am going t move away from her! and going to have a new girl friend!!!” shows your are immature and yes you are a jerk (sorry that was not the question, it should have been). I feel sorry for the girl believing in you in the first place and any girl you date in the future.

Answer 3

In the eyes of the law, the prosecutor will make it look like you did rape her. Even though she didn't say no, her actions spoke clearly as you stated "She seems to be happy when I kissed and caressed her, but started resisting me and cried when I remove her dress, but somehow managed to have sex with her, but after that night she dint speak with me for 2 weeks, and she seems to be disturbed and moody!" This is common for women who believed they were raped. I see that you didn't mean for this to happen because you thought it was the heat of the moment but her resistance was a clear sign that you ignored. Don't assume I am trying to blame you or anything because some women do play around with that word no during sex to turn themselves on. Maybe you couldn't see the sign or was too caught up in the moment. It happens but just know that if she ever screams rape (unless the statues of limitations runs out), get a good lawyer ok? Based on the facts of what you said, you could be convicted.

Answer 4

Just because your "gf" is "very social" and a "regular party goer" (and frankly I think you used these terms to try and justify what you did! Jerk!) does not mean you can force yourself on her! Because you lost control and forced her into sex, she will now be haunted with terrible memories, flashbacks, and most likely you have probably wrecked her future sex life!!! Have you thought about the long term ramifications of what you have done??? Yes, what you did was rape...if this girl was crying & you "somehow managed to have sex with her" certainly sounds like it was a totaly unpleasant experience for her. For once, respect her wishes and stay the Hell away from her! She wont want to see you again, seeing you will just remind her of the way she was badly treated by you... Leave town and move somewhere else, just because "you love her" doesnt give you the right to keep harrassing her.

Answer 5

The best thing is to let her go.. yes indeed if she resisted and like you said "YOU MANAGE" to have sex with her, then indeed it was some kind of struggle and she did not wanted the sex, you persisted and wether or not she gave in now she has that bitter taste that she indeed said no and honey NO MEANS NO.. You should have stop as soon as you heard that NO... Rape? I don't know but forced to have sex is for sure, and she can press charges and you will get in a whole lot of trouble, let her go now!! or you will do time for rape.

Answer 6

You should have acted like a real man in the first place and stopped as soon as she resisted. I can't think of anyone i know that would have sex with thier girlfriend when she was crying. I would have thought that was a big enough clue for you to back off. She obviously did not want to go through with it, you created the problem by not realizing this. If she ever lets you speak to her again step up and apologise.

Answer 7

In all honesty you have indeed committed rape. This is a very serious offence. I will tell you now that despite your feelings you were in the wrong to have sex with this girl despite her advances if she did not give consent. From what you describe she did not. I can't really give you much advice since you're pretty much in the wrong here and probably deserve whatever you get out of this quite frankly.

Answer 8

Were you going to include her in your lovemaking? Since when is having sex just about you? Damn dude, NO MEANS NO. A blind man could tell she DID NOT want to have sex. So yea, you raped her dude. Funny way to show your "love". You have alot to learn about relationships let alone women. The problem??? Dude, YOUR the problem. YOU lost her. YOU hurt her. YOU raped her.
You'll either learn from this or wind up in jail. Keep raping women and I hope someone takes you out.

Answer 9

i think u done a big mistake, beca , use if she was not agree, or crying, then why u do that, love or sex is not that u do forcely, now the situation is so hard for u , and i think she can do anything she want, because u have u do that with her, i think ur on the wrong way and now there is only the way that she forgive you and come back to u, otherwise its not possible that u can bring her ever in ur life back.

Answer 10

Man just the way you put it and the doubt you show in your actions and even questioning what happened. Makes it pretty certain you did, it sounds she was cool with kissing and what not, but she didnt want to do more then that and you pushed on for more without regard for what she wanted. She sounds as she just gave in rather then trying to fight you, which could be for a multitude of reasons.

Answer 11

I reckon you crossed the line. To me it obviously seems like she wasn't comfortable with going further than kissing etc... I think you hurt her by not getting off her and stopping... etc etc. You need to understand that even a whisper of 'no' is still no! No is no and that's that. You pushed her too far, if my boyfriend did that to me I'd be done with him forever.

What I suggest is keeping well clear. If yo do love her and you didn't intend to hurt her in a sexual & emotional way then just back off and give her time. If she wants to talk to you she will but by pursuing her too much she'll get scared and back away.