my father borrowed $300 from my husband to pay for a car. it recently broke down and my parents sold it for scrap. my husband is very upset because it has been several months since they borrowed the money and they haven't even attempted to pay any of it back and now they have sold the car without even telling him. i understand why he is upset but, how do i keep from being caught in the middle about this and how do i tell my family without sounded like a witch?
2007-08-07 00:48:04 · 13 answers · asked by goodgirl63628 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my parents are always in finacial difficulties, they are on disability so they only get like $1000 a month. my husband wasn't expecting them to pay it back in one lump sum or anything he would have been happy with $10 a month just to show that they were going to pay him back. but he has loaned them money in the past( i just found this out) and they apparently didn't pay it back either so i don't understand why he loaned them money again.
2007-08-07 01:29:10 · update #1
Tough situation your in. I don't think its a great idea that your father borrowed money from your husband for a $300 car that should have been expected to not run very long before breaking down.
Obviously if your father had to borrow the money he was in a financial bind but has his finances improved since he borrowed the money? If he has had the money and just hasn't offered to pay it back I can understand why your husbands upset.
I think you could just talk to your father and say my husband or we really need the money you borrowed for the car. Its been several months is there anyway possible you could pay it back? You can say it nice without sounding like a witch.
If your father is still in a tough financial situation and unable to pay it back then I would talk to your husband and try to convince him to just let it go.
Good luck! :)
2007-08-07 01:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by maryv2013 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your financial situation but...
Your husband could afford to hand over $300 without the two of you starving, so personally I would let it go. Write off the money (if your parents suddenly appear with it, it's a bonus) and never lend money to friends or family.
Also, though, families do help each other out - So think of it as a good deed instead of the pre-cursor to a feud.
2007-08-07 01:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day you are in the middle, whether you like it or not. You are the link between your husband and your dad.
Speak to your dad and tell them that before it causes strain in your marriage you want him to either pay back your husband or tell him when he will be able to. It was wrong for them to sell it without saying anything to them.
And before your husband and dad maybe get into a fight make attempts to solve it because then that might just not be good days for you.
Money is a strange thing, it can break almost anything. . .
2007-08-07 00:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't get involved at all. Your husband made that deal, not you. He's not getting his money back, and you know it. When this has passed, sit down with him and tell him that you want a family rule that no money is loaned to other family members by either of you. Live and learn, your husband needs to move on.
2007-08-07 00:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Help! problem with my father and husband.?
2014-12-18 16:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you really are in a tight place. Have you tried to talk to your parents about paying back the money? Explain that it is putting a strain on your relationship with your husband. Chances are you won't see any of the money, then you will have to decide if dwelling on it is worth it. I certainly wouldn't loan any more money to them in the future.
2007-08-07 00:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seen a friends husband on dating web site?
2016-10-12 21:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by Christean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband this is one reason why he should never loan out money. Learn from this and don't whine to you, you cannot fix this. If your parents ask for money, tell them no, you simply don't have a penny to spare.
2007-08-07 01:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your dad and tell him how it makes you feel your husband should go and tell your dad his feelings also and not continue to complain to you it is causing to much tension on both sides i pray for your sake the issue is resolved. that why the saying goes never do business with family or friends it'll cause you to lose them.
2007-08-07 00:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
STAY OUT OF IT! Your husband needs to ask them when will they be paying him.
2007-08-07 00:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋