My 10yr old step daughter and husband make me feel like an evil stepmom! I get no respect from either of them. My husband is wanting to be "Mr. Fun" because she doesn't have it as easy at her moms. But I need some ground rules at our house too. Help before I run away from home! Thanks...
2007-08-06 23:48:15 · 9 answers · asked by Chanel P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My heart goes out to you. Have you ever tried to talk to your husband
about the way you feel. There need to be ground rules because your
daughter will be so confused. I don't know if this is a good idea or not
but have you ever tried to talk to your husband's ex wife about this
situation. It could be a good or bad idea. If you get no where with your
husband maybe she is the answer. I am so sorry that you are going
through this. It really isn't fair. It's like you are being ganged up on. Did
you discuss any of this before you got married? Or did the rules change.
I hope that talking to your husband will help. I hate to think it could be
the end of your marriage. Bless you.
2007-08-06 23:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest part about most stepmoms is that they don't realize what YOU are going through. They think it's okay to correct your behavior just as they would their own child, but you could've been raised differently. And to the above poster, this stepmom might have so much to take care of, and she might have good reason to get upset, but that in NO way gives her any reason to make the stepdaughter want to move out. This is a 13 year old girl we're talking about-- of course she might come across as immature, but she's right in her feelings. She's had to watch her dad get married to someone she obviously doesn't like, with that came 4 stepsisters, and 2 more babies. Wouldn't YOU get upset if your life was on a roller coaster ride like that? I think yes.
2016-04-01 03:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can tell you is what i know from being raised by a step parent. its up to the parent to set the ground rules and if he wont then you tell him privately about the situation. never say anything in front of her about you wanting the rules. even though she has it "hard" at her moms house he should set up some kind of respect for him, you, and the house before she gets too old to listen. the biggest problem with"weekend dads" is when then the kids turn 12 or thirteen get out of control and then they want to have rules. remember that he had this child before he had you and you married a family. but also this child can be a marriage breaker if her allows it.
good luck.
2007-08-06 23:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by rahpookathryn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your idiot husband needs to be whacked upside the head. Tell him that he's not fooling his daughter, she knows very well that he's trying to buy her love. Being happy that she doesn't live as well with her mother is nothing to be proud of. If he was really interested in his daughters well being, he'd make sure she was comfortable there and then he wouldn't have to be a show off when she's at your house.
Don't play their games. Tell him he either sets some rules with you, and sticks to them, or you will stay at a nice spa and bill it to him any time she is there. The child isn't going to respect you just on a whim, you have to earn that. But don't fault her too badly, look at what a moron she has for a dad.
2007-08-07 00:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sit down with your husband and discuss exactly how you feel WITHOUT screaming at him...just in a calm matter so he can actually hear you
after you come to a conclusion you will need to sit down with the 10 y/o and so that she can understand the rules of your home!
good luck
2007-08-07 00:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by SUNSHINE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore those cliches. establish rule. its for their own good. not too restricting though... gudluck. don't run either. u seem like the only adult who care bout responsibilities.
2007-08-06 23:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Roxeth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mr or mrs fun? i am confused if she has no respect for you then he'd have to deal with his own child
2007-08-07 00:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry all daddy s do this , where do you think we get daddy's Lil girl? Just join in and be a good mom to her
2007-08-06 23:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Come down from your prejudices and be close to all!
2007-08-07 00:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mr.Dreamer 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋