I really love my boyfriend, we've been together for a while.. and I'm starting to become unhappy to the extream. Just sometimes I wish he was a sweetheart ,nice, and kind to me. I grew up with a sweet/nice/kind father & mother and I'm just use to it... I feel unhappy in the hands of someone not sweet and kind to me. I dont know how to explain it. Should I look for another person or can a guy really be nice for you.
2007-08-06 23:23:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see your problem as clearly as if I were looking at a TV special. You're nice, the BF isn't. This is what attracted you to him in the first place. Nice girls are ALWAYS attracted to 'bad boys'... hence your problem.
Most girls look at such guys as a 'fixer-upper'. They figure that if they work on him hard enough, he'll 'change his ways'. Suddenly Big Bad Bill, is Sweet William now (and all due to loving guidance & patience). The fact is, this doesn't happen in real life. It's nothing but youthful fantasy. You can NEVER change a person. They have to do that on their own. Many, many female hearts have been broken due to this mistaken illusion. Most women like that bad boy image, but after getting trampled on for a while they start to wise up. I've seen girls constantly complain about these @ssholes, but they keep going back for more punishment. Then after several failed relationships (and several children later), they're ready for Mr. Nice-guy. But what 'nice-guy' wants to be stuck with a bitter used-up woman with 2 or 3 children (that she's had with these various bad boys)???
My advise, steer clear of these jerks and fine someone who can meet your needs.
2007-08-06 23:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by Larry F 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're guy isn't nice and sweet to you and just doesn't want to be that way, maybe you should find someone else. From my experience, I've learned you have little chance of getting a guy to change and what you get when you start the relationship off is what you're stuck with it.
2007-08-06 23:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by Bats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are very unhappy make others miserable and that is what he is doing to you. You don't need our advice because you know he isn't a nice person. Stick around him if you want to wind up like him, but, if you don't, get a decent guy.
2007-08-07 01:30:16 · answer #3 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 06:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are nice guys...and there are bad (well not in a criminal'ish' kinda way) guys...some were born and raised nice others turn nice because of love..but a lot of times...people don't change...if you're not happy...try to talk it out w/ him..open communication helps solve queries and problems...i'm sure you'll figure something out...it's either you make it work or you decide to just be friends...just remember this: you can't love someone who isn't somebody you wanna be with...you got to choose...and choose for the best...
2007-08-07 01:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by RINGO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sweat guys may despise you from here on out. Any sweet guys heart will be broken at just the thought of him when they find out your the enemy.
You will have to forget that guy completely and all self pride. Endure many months of shame, sorrow and dedication before the sweat guy can trust you and fall deeply inlove with you.
2007-08-06 23:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by Sportsdress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very seldom that someone will change even if they could...........i hate to say this but yes you need to find someone that is more like what you really want in life to be happy.........do not settle for anything less.......i am speaking from experience here...........now i am alone but i chose to marry the wrong kind of man and was abusive and controlling.........and i really think you deserve to be treated with the same love and respect as you had as a child.....only you can make those decisions and they may effect your whole life......i am so sorry i stayed 25 years in that marriage.......but you do not have children or anything yet....you can get out......and then get busy and find things to do that you enjoy and makes you happy..........and find someone kind and caring like you deserve........
2007-08-06 23:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not going to change unless he wants to. There is nothing that you can say or do to make it happen. Even if he tries temporarily, he will come back to being what he is. Remember it's "WHAT YOU SEE, IS WHAT YOU GET!!!" and don't forget it. Find you a nice guy!
2007-08-06 23:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive lost a couple years of my life trying to change someone and the truth is that you cant make someone change, they have to do it for themselves. if this person really cared about you then they would already be trying...if not then move on...dont waste your time, and maybe if you leave, that person might discover the way they feel about you and change
2007-08-06 23:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by kc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you say you really love your boyfriend when then you say he's pretty much a turd? Kick him to the curb if he's a jerk, no sense wasting time on some guy that treats you like crap.
2007-08-06 23:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by jacquie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋