I have been dating this guy who is super rad! at least I thought he was. weve been together for about 5 months , we instantly felt a strong bond and we have really had soo much fun together , he makes me smile and I get the feeling that Im falling in love but recently about the 5 month mark he's been changing... he is not the same , he gets angry for no reason at all he just seems irritated all the time and we went to a party and got drunk together we had a little argument and he hit me!!, the next day he appologized, and now he is super jealous of my guy friends he even wants me to ask him for permission now when I go out. should i dump him ?
2007-08-06 23:19:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely leave him. He has anger and control issues. Way too much baggage for you to have to handle. If he hit you once, he will do it again eventually. After awhile, he will start doing it all of the time. Why in the world should you have to get permission from him or anyone else to do what you want to do? Does he ask your permission for what he wants to do? Get rid of him. He is TROUBLE waiting to happen!!!! Don't waste your life like that. You deserve much better!!
2007-08-06 23:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot tell you what to do, but however, you can learn from my mistakes if that is possible. I had been in a relationship for 81/2 years. I thought that this was the most wonderful man in the world, and like you, developed strong feelings for him right away. About a year into the relationship we decided to move together. I got pregnant and after our daughter was born, he began to change. The hitting started, and he apologized and advised that he would not do again and that he was so sorry. He then came very possessive and would not let me go any where. The hitting did not stop, in fact he had gotten worse. I was afraid to leave because of our child. I had gotten pregnant again and that did not stop him from putting his hands on me. That is when I decided to leave. I was dumb to stay with him as long as I did, despite very good advise to leave from friends and family. You do not want to make the same mistakes I did 2 children and bruises later.
2007-08-07 06:34:35 · answer #2 · answered by ernestine.ford 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should dump him. But if you really wanna work things out, ask him why he's been getting angry for no reason, if he apologised for hitting you, it was probz just a drunken thing, but if he does it agen, you shud dump him, no1 deserves to be abused like that. Gently tell him that, you only have eyes for him and you dont think of your guy friends in a sexual way and he shouldnt feel jealous about them, say you would never dream of cheating on him, cuz chances are, you wouldnt. and as for the permission to go out, just tell him he's being ridiculous and ur grown up enough to make your own desicions and should be able to go where you want, when you want and if he doesnt understand that, maybe you shouldnt be together anymore. When he knows his behaviour makes you think about dumping him, if he really cares about you, his behaviour will change.
Hope I helped!
2007-08-07 06:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god!! Sirens roaring and lights flashing!!! Ok from one girl to another "Honey he isn't worth it". Sit back and read your post carefully you say "Gets angry for no reason" , "He seems irritated all the time" , "He hit me" , "Super jealous of male friends" , "Ask for permission to go out" all these things add up to a controlling man and by the way no amount of apologising can compensate for hitting you. If you tolerate this kind of treatment now and you stay with him you can be assured it will only get worse. My advice get out now before you get drawn into the relationship any further. Good Luck
2007-08-07 06:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! i think you should dump him...its probably just the beginning. next time it might be worse. how does he treat his mother? you can usually tell what kind of guy he will be to you by the way he treats his mom but yes leave him. he needs to find himself, and you need to get away before it gets worse. theres always way more awesome guys out there. i know you can find someone way better who will treat you with more respect. plus maybe hes got someone on the side and thats why hes so paranoid about you. be your own person, dont let him own you thats another bad sign that hes trying to make you ask him permission. if he was a real good guy he would never order you to do anything but would talk to you about how he feels about it instead
2007-08-07 06:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by kc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, his is a loser for hitting you, if he is doing now after 5 months I'm sure more will come later. Go find yourself a real man
2007-08-07 06:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a guy and i can tell you, he has been faking who he really is this whole. it's very easy actually. now he has gotten used to you and complacent and feels that he doesn't have to fake it anymore. he can be the jerk he really is.....what kind of guy hits a woman? he is sorry. i get angry too ut you just take a deep breath and personally i walk away and come back later.
2007-08-07 06:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by sfslowcivicvx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this relationship fast, or the next time you write us, he will watch every thing you do. One hit, There will be more to come. and SORRY is the only word you hear.
2007-08-07 06:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by sofar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes- dump him. Someone who is like this now will only get worse and is not worth the trouble.
2007-08-07 06:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by jeep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just at 5 months ! If he hit you once, get ready...he will do it again. Best to get out now, before you become another statistic. Don't be fooled by his apologies.
2007-08-07 06:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋