Me and my husband live with a really nice family (mum, dad, boy and girl) in a houseshare and I'm buying a kitten today and naturally everyone is really excited especially the kids, but I feel really annoyed as the mum seems to think that I'm buying it for everyone when she told me it's my responsibility. She even said that I could put it on her little's girls bed as a suprise when I bring it home which really annoyed me as it's my cat not theirs. Am I being selfish or not?
2007-08-06 21:51:40 · 12 answers · asked by snewell2222 1 in Pets ➔ Cats
Thanks so much guys for the answers so far...really a BIG help - so glad I'm not being stupid.
2007-08-06 22:03:04 · update #1
No you are not being stupid at all. In fact i would be making a point of clearing it up with them. If you are buying the cat and are responsible for all of the associated costs that means it is your cat, which also means that if you ever move out, the cat goes with you!!
What you have said makes me nervous... if you do ever move out, you could be in for a fight over the kitty. So make it VERY clear with them all NOW.
2007-08-06 22:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her thatof course the cat will play with the kids and all, and you are glad that they will enjoy the cat too, but it is still going to be your cat, and you don't want the kids to start feeling it is theirs by putting it on their bed etc., because they will get disappointed if an issue arises and you haveto leave for example, because the cat will be yours. Unless they want to share the responsibility for it, and the expenses. Of course, if you all live together, it is natural that the cat will affect their lives too, so you have the right to be selfish about it just don't show it to them too much.
2007-08-06 23:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're definately NOT being selfish. It's your cat and your responsibility. If they want to share the cat then they need to share the responsibility as well. The joy and the pain. Which means they need to share the bills, which i guarantee you they won't! Without showing your annoyance you could do things to show that its ur cat for example the cat sleeps in your room, you clean out the litter, you make the decisions, etc etc. By the way ... if you are the only person that feeds the cat it will accept YOU as the owner. Good luck.
2007-08-06 22:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no , i don't think so, if it's your kitten then you should be fully responsible for it and you should be the one she has most contact with, cats are great family pets but sometimes children can mistake them for toys, you need to all sit down and explain to everyone what is acceptable and what is not acceptable, your cat is another little person in this home and she should be treated with respect not as a possession!!!
Good luck , i'm sure you'll be really happy when your new kitty has settle in!
2007-08-07 00:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by gingergeorgecat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are not selfish.
It is your cat.
Not the little girls pet.
Make it clear from the beginning that this is your cat and your responsibility.
In this way you can prevent what may become a very 'sticky' situation.
Good luck with your new kitten.
2007-08-06 22:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by sasha1641 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your being selfish..You need one on one time for a while to bond with the cat before it gets exposed to everyone else...hmmm...perhaps buy 2 one for you and one for everyone else...that would solve the problem..
2007-08-06 22:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by Joey D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not bin selfish share the responsibility its a group effort
i just got 2 kitties a month ago there so cuteeee
2007-08-06 21:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by Someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r not being selfish. u r buynig the kitten. its urs.
its natural 4 u to act like that.if i was in ur place i would have felt like that too.
2007-08-06 23:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not at all, your buying the cat, it was your idea , your feeding it so yes its your cat , tell them its o.k they can play with it but make shore they no and let them no that if you move out one day the cat is going with you,, and in front of them say i cant wait till i have my own little kitty, and tell them you can play with MY cat when ever you wont to, that way they will no its YOUR cat , just livving with them to!
2007-08-06 22:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by hello 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you getting a kitten if you and your husband can't afford to have your own place? that is what is selfish.
2007-08-06 23:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by catloverme123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋