My fiance and I plan on getting married next year, but have yet to make the difficult decisions of choosing our wedding party. I do not have any sisters, close female cousins etc, and my best friend of many years and I parted a while back due to differences we could not resolve. Now I am left with a friend from highschool with whom I am not that close with (but always joked about being each other's MOH), and a coworker of mine that I have bonded with over the last 4 years--we are pretty close at work and have even travelled together twice. We get along really well, but our friendship is limited to work/travel--we don't talk outside of work and it seems like more of a one-sided friendship since she is content not hanging out more (she has plenty of her own close friends), and always turns down my invitations to hang out.
I am torn about who to choose as my MOH. I plan on having both in my bridal party, and my fiance actually hates my highschool friend, and adores my coworker.
2007-08-06 21:31:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I should also add that I feel that my highschool friend would feel very hurt if I didn't make her my MOH since she made me hers. Should I take her feelings into consideration?
2007-08-06 21:46:36 · update #1
you don't have to choose a friend. I went to a wedding that the mother was the matron of honor. You kind of just have to go with what you are feeling. If you feel like you are closer to the co-worker then you could ask her, but remember that you have to keep that professional work relationship with her. I would take a little bit more time to think about this situation before you do anything. Really consider the rest of your options.
2007-08-07 01:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You would usually choose the person who you are closest to and who will be able to help you throughout the planning of the wedding. You should not feel obligated to have your high school friend to be your MOH. If you are not close to your coworker outside of the workplace then I would not suggest using her as your MOH. If there is a family member that you are close to like your mom or an aunt then you can even have them stand up there with you. Or you can even choose not to have any attendants at all. (You will just need to have 2 witnesses to sign your marriage license.)
If you are an animal lover use your best four legged friend! I once planned a wedding with dogs as part of the wedding and were walked down the aisle by other attendants.
Just choose whomever you feel the closest to and who would be there to help you through it all.
2007-08-07 08:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by Wedding Planner 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your coworker is the "popular one" who has many friends while you have few. If she is the closest one to you then by all means invite her has your MOH. But I can tell you that it is perfectly fine if you have no MOH at all. Your marriage is not built around friends is it? So why would you really need anyone else to stand up there with you? If you are stong enough to live your current lifestyle, then why not put it out there for everyone to see. Your man is the only one closest to who you are.
2007-08-07 04:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sneebs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was the maid of honor for my co workers wedding. She had a similiar background as yours (only child, no siblings) very good hearted and sweet. But one thing with coworkers sometimes the only thing in common is work. I don't see my friend anymore. After marriage she popped out some kids and vanished into space. But I guess that's what happens with marriage and family, your life changes.
I agree with the previous post, you don't have to have a maid of honor. I only had my sister in my wedding, and my close friends, had their daughters in the party. Good Luck
2007-08-07 08:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lyla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should start getting closer to your co-worker invite her to a movie. Then ask her to come over for dinner and she if she would like to be your maid of honor or you can ask both to be bridesmaids an split the moh duties.
2007-08-07 11:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first poster. You don't need a MOH. I have two sisters and a best friend in my wedding. I didn't want to choose among them and instead told them they were all my maids of honor. They are all special to me.
2007-08-07 11:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jennies 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel like you must reciprocate by having the one you are not that close to to be your MOH.
I would choose your coworker since you are very close to her.
Not weird at all actually, she's your FRIEND right?
2007-08-07 08:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your high-school friend had you as her Maid of Honor, it would be fitting to give her the same opportunity to be the same for you. You could still have your co-worker as a bridesmaid if you wish. After all it is your choice to have who you want. Your fiancee only has the choice of choosing the groomsmen he wishes to have on his behalf.
2007-08-07 04:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
does your fiance have any sisters? My husband used my brother in law as best man......hope that helps
2007-08-08 21:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to have a maid of honor. can't they both be just bridesmaids?
2007-08-07 04:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by Sweeney 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋