I suffer from depression, but cover it up. I cry when I am alone and have very little hope for my future. I am in love with a man that makes me feel at peace when I am with him, but I feel that he could find someone better than me. I love him so much I would let him go. Should I?
2007-08-06 21:19:22 · 17 answers · asked by fleursauvage 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you shouldn't if he cares for you he can help you through it, just because you live with that doesn't mean you can't have a happy life. Trust me I been there. I faced the same thing as you and my girl helped me a lot, if he's a good guy he'll help you through it, if not leave him and find someone better who really cares for you.
2007-08-06 21:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't that be his choice? Tell him how you feel and ask him for an honest answer and that you wouldn't hate him for leaving.
I suffered from depression and occassionally still do. I've mentioned the same thing to my husband and he gets mad at me for even bringing it up; he says he rather be with me than anyone else. And he also says that he may be holding me back; there might be someone better for me out there.
I can't say I know what you're feeling because our lives are not the same. I can tell you that I have been through something similar and all you can do is pray and be honest with him and your own feelings. Could you truly survive if he left? And why not get help for your depression? And no matter how low you feel, you should never give up by feeling that there is no hope for your future. Who knows the future except God. You may end up saving someone's life or even better, saving his. Please, learn to love yourself and know that depression although it may seem constant, isn't. And aren't those rare moments of peace so worth it?
God Bless you and please,... don't give up. YOU ARE someone special!
2007-08-15 01:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by mom101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love with this man you should talk to him about your depression. I know how hard it is when you are depressed but if the relationship is strong then he would wnt nothing else but to be there for you and help you get through all your problems. But I think you should discuss what you are feeling with him instead of making a choice for him, and assuming that he would be better off without you.
2007-08-14 23:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by Casper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly,u should build up ur self confidence my dear friend.Y u are letting him go and have the thinking that he should go and find another gerl who is better than u?U are in love and he makes u feel at peace when both of u are together..But friend,is he in love with u??If he is,juz carry on with it.U are suffering from depression and what u need most is care and concern from the person that u love and love u..From there,u can overcome ur depression..all the best to u..
2007-08-07 04:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. You are obviously asking this question because deep down inside, you do not want to leave him and you want someone to convince you not to leave him.
He makes you feel at peace when you are with him. You know how rare it is for anyone to find a person who can make them feel peaceful, rite? If you havent told him about your depression, I would advice you to tell him. You let him know, and maybe he can make that decision for you. He can choose to stay and help you through it or not.
I do believe he would, and I think you should let him help you through it.
Hope you feel better.
2007-08-07 04:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by viola 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let go. It seems like this guy can take that pain away from you. Let him decide whether he wants to leave or not, don't decide for him. You say he makes you feel at peace and that's wonderful. It seems like you would be more depressed without him than with him...stick it out...You might regret it if you don't.
2007-08-15 02:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by Keya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your Depression Voice talking! Don't listen to it! Depression wants to sabotage you so you think you are not worthy, but you have every right to happiness.
Over my lifetime of fighting Depression, I have learned to override that voice. For me, it manifests as a banner like those carried by small airplanes along the shore. My banner says exactly what I wrote to you in the first two sentences: "That is your Depression Voice talking! Don't listen to it!" I think I use the airplane image so that the message "flies above" that dark voice. It works for me.
Develop your own method. You need to get counseling to learn your own skills, but you can learn them. You deserve this wonderful relationship. Good Luck to you! Be happy!
2007-08-14 13:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him, does he love you? Yes he does talk to him about you depression( you can get help, and he can also be your support.) You have a problem that you're hiding come clean you can only hide depression so long. Tell him so he can help save you. That's what love does. Good luck (What ever you choose see a professional about your depression.)
2007-08-14 18:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by Here Kitty Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should share your depression with him.im not kidding.if you two are in love,he deserves to be able to help you.if he bails,fine.its what you wanted in the first place.if he stays then you have nothing to lose that you hadnt plan on losing anyway.
love isnt just the summer breezes and candle lit dinners.its the tears and arguments as well.let him help you if he wants.thats the true test of love.
2007-08-14 19:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just let him know what he's getting into.
I should tell you now, as some one who has depression, one of the biggest problems you'll face are these urges to sabotage your relationships every time you're feeling happy. It's exactly what you're doing right now, you have a right to be happy. :)
2007-08-07 04:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by Seattle_Slacker 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋