My 18 year old has been dating this little TART - Sorry u will c y I say that, Everytime he does not do what she wants she ends the relationship, and then my son tries to cut his wrists or stab himself.
She will ask him 2 go 2 her and when he says he is studying 4 his finals - she tells him to F OFF and that she wishes he was dead.
He is madly inlove with her, but I worried that she is going to be the end of him.
How can I as a mother intervine here? Please HELP
2007-08-06 20:49:10 · 16 answers · asked by shellerjc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well you could convince him that she is not the right girl for him or asks what he sees in her. most teenagers are like that- they cant live without her. you should have a sit down conversation with him and talk about how he feels. dont worry though he will eventually move on if you give him time. if he is suicidal you should talk to his girlfriend. you should limit his freedom if nothing else works
2007-08-06 20:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure that you keep a close eye on him and do not leave him alone for long periods of time. Check on him a lot. There's really not much that you can do when it comes to this, because if you say "you cannot date her" then you become the bad guy and he gets even more depressed. I would suggest putting him into counseling. Not even because of this whole girl situation but because of the fact that he can bring himself to cut his wrists and think of suicide. There are also programs to put him in if it gets really bad. Do not hesitate to take him to a hospital if you feel that he is going over the deep end. I only hope that he can find peace with himself and get over this little witch.
2007-08-06 20:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is not entirely the girl's fault. When I was 18 and broke up with someone, I didn't try to kill or cut myself. I hope you see where I'm coming from.
I think you need to look at why your Son is so "clingy" and why he cares to that extent what other people think of him.
He needs to learn to deal with rejection and you as a mother need to be there for him whenever he is let down or feeling low regardless of the situation. I can't imagine why your son would think life's not worth living without this girl? Does he not think his family cares about him? Maybe you need to re - assure him, that girls/friends come and go but family will always be there. And in life you will always get disappointed one way or the other, he needs to learn to deal with that now.
I would consider counseling. Anyone who self harms requires counseling. Good Luck with everything.
2007-08-06 21:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 06:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really has tried taking his own life, he needs professional help. He should be treated by a psychiatrist for depression. He may technically be an adult, but clearly he can't be trusted to be alone.
2007-08-06 20:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by Emily V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing i can say is be careful, also talk to this girl who's dating your son without trying to hid anything from your son or going out of your way to tell him everything
2007-08-06 20:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by Cant think of names ;) 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to sit him sown and tell him that it if u think thiz girl realy loves y will she do any thing to get wat she wants she doesent care about u the way u care about her and that iz an unbalace relatianship if she iz ok wit u putting your life in danger just to get wat she wants then i don't think that thiz relationship iz good for u
and tell him that it scares u when he does that type of stuff just tell jim how u fell and just keep hanging on case every thing will be ok
2007-08-06 20:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your son's dramatic response is not this girls fault so stop blaming her. You need to seriously get him into counseling.
2007-08-07 01:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him professional help, immediately. Even if he gets over her
2007-08-06 20:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by tyler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs professional help(assessment) immediately.He is very sick.
2007-08-06 21:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by no name 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋