Heres the question... If you got pregnant, but also found out the same day that you were accepted to Harvard Graduate School, would YOU want the kid? Try to see what I mean, and make a level-headed decision, because this kind of thing DOES happen more often than not... In many ways it is the rule more than the exception.
2007-08-06 19:55:19 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LOL, does this mean you had the chance to get one of the sisters in your other question to go out with you?????
Just kidding man.
If it was me. I would keep my baby and still go for my dreams. There are ways to multi task without giving up on family. That is what a baby is, family.
Leveled headed enough for you. I have two grown daughters, three grandchildren and a degree in law.
2007-08-14 19:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mary D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I believe that no one can ever say whether or not they would keep or give up a baby unless they have ever gotten pregnant and had to face that decision head on. Me being a dude, obviously I have never gotten pregnant and if I was a girl I would be unable to say what I would do unless I was actually facing the situation head on. All I would give you in advice is trust your heart about what would be best for you and the baby. If that so happens to be abortion in your case then that is your decision, I would not let others religion influence you into making a decision based on their religious beliefs, as I would never expect anyone to make a decision based on my religious beliefs. That being said there are cases where the female who gets an abortion feels very guilty after having an abortion, but the majority of the time these feelings of guilt get overtaken by feelings of relief that they are infact no longer having a baby and they feel as if a big load has been taken off their shoulders (i.e. financially and emotionally raising a child). However, if you do decide to get an abortion (not saying it is right or wrong as I try to take an objective look into these situations) I would recommend you start using birth control pills and condoms EVERY time so that you do not fall into this terrible predicument again.
2007-08-14 15:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jake T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were at the place in my life where I were applying to Harvard Graduate School, I would not also be in the place in my life where I would be having babies.
What do you truly want? Harvard or motherhood? Only you know. It isn't realistic or fair to the baby to try to do both. I am a mother, I know what is involved in taking care of a newborn baby and small children. You won't have time for your studies if you have a newborn. If you put your studies first, you won't be able to give the baby 100%, like you should. It comes with the responsibility of bringing a baby into the world. A baby should never play second fiddle to anything--school, a job, anything.
Sounds like an abortion may be the smart choice, but who am I to say. It is your life. What do YOU want?
2007-08-07 03:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by cinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing at a time formula just doesnt work in life.Come to think of it,are we ever shouldering just ONE responsibility at any given point in life?Nope.In fact,life is all about multi-tasking.There are various tasks that must be dealt with simultaneously,always.We deal with workload,family crisis,stress levels,education,children,parents,bosses,colleagues,ourselves and we do it all at the same time.Dont we?
Then why treat pregnancy any differently.Its a big responsibility,yes it is.But then,arnt they all?
The only reason anyone would think of giving up on a pregnancy is the very fact that we have a way out,no matter how unjustified it may be.Do we give up on our jobs,our parents,education,anything at all?No.Because we cant.
Hence the answer to your question lies in individual perspective.Those with a narrow perspective will get rid of the baby first thing the next morning,whereas those who know what life really is and who dont shy away from responsibilities "just because they can", will keep it and still become graduates.
You get to be a graduate either way.
But you dont get to be a mother AND a graduate if u give up.
Which do you think is the greater achievement?
Judge for yourself.
As for me.Yes I am married,pregnant and graduating.
2007-08-07 03:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by Isha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since I'm not interested in Harvard and it would be La Sorbonne for me and if I were to get into La Sorbonne I would ask a close family member to take care of the child while I was away, but I would still write and E-Mail and send gifts and support the child the best that I could. Or I would put the child up for adoption, but make it an open adoption so that the child could know who their biological mother was and be able to ask me questions about family history and what not. But I wouldn't let having a child keep me from going to my #1 top choice school, especially since French is my passion.
2007-08-07 03:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be either or, you could do both; have the baby and go to Harvard. It may be more difficult and it may take more time to graduate than you had in mind but it's not impossible. If you had an abortion, you would regret it later. If you didn't go to Harvard, you would regret that too. Just get the help and support from family and friends, neighborhood church (not those crazy judgemental ones), get assistance from the government, etc.
2007-08-15 01:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by mom101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would definitely keep the child. i will not be able to focus on my studies with my conscience bothering me every now and then. In fact, i will be able to collect strength and inspiration from the baby when she comes.
if you are thinking of the Harvard opportunity, yes it does not happen more often, but thing is, when you forgo it, it does not mean the end of it, in the future, it can still come, it may not be that often but it can happen more than once...
life of your baby is one way ticket. if you don't keep it, it will be lost forever and there is no change of having it back.
don't you think that the kid may want to be at Harvard as well.. don't be too selfish... give her a chance to live... be a grown up to deal with the consequences of your action.
2007-08-14 11:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respectfully, if someone got pregnant, they should keep the baby. In my personal opinion, That is a life. I have herd the argument that a pregnant women is not carrying a life until the baby is three months old. I do not agree. I think that once a women is pregnant, that is a life and unless her life is in danger, or rape, or something like that, abortion should not be used for birth control. It take two, and condoms do work. I also realize that I am in the minority there. Good question...
2007-08-07 03:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by Doug favors universal insurance! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother married a practicing lawyer who told him she'd had 4 abortions. She may have passed the bar exam and have a thriving career but emotionally, she is a mess!! Now, she says she wants a baby but I don't believe her. She is one greedy, selfish, ambitious, crooked, sorry excuse of a human being. A woman has to live with herself and look at herself in the mirror everyday of her life. Put the baby first and for once in ur life, think about another human being's welfare other than ur self. Abortion is not the solution.
2007-08-07 03:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by wildflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can still go to school while pregnant. I don't want any kids, and I take the necessary precautions not to become pregnant, so my level-headed decision would be to keep the baby, because it would be a miracle, in my case.
2007-08-07 02:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by ∂ίятУ ℓάυиḋгÿ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋