Girls what do you really want in a guy (really not just playing around)?

Question

I have never had a girlfriend, and frankly it is getting both depressing and fustrating. Every girl I talk to that I seem to getting close to being 'more then friends' with says 'I'm nice' and that I can make them laugh very easily, and everywhere I go that is what girls say they want in a guy, so I think, hey maybe this time it will work. Then I ask them out, and they say they aren't ready for a boyfriend, and we should just stay friends, then a week after that they end up going out with one of my best friends. NO I AM NOT LYING, EVERY SINGLE TIME THEY END UP GOING OUT WITH ONE OF MY FRIENDS AFTER SAYING THEY DON'T WANT A BOYFRIEND. Girls what do you really want? I think I am a nice guy, I could never be mean or anything, I know I am not 10 out of 10 hottie, but I never get a chance. I am not looking to get laid, I am just tired of being alone, to be with someone. I have never had a date, and I am shy as hell, but I try and be nice and outgoing but nothing ever works, so what is it?

Answer 1

idk...in my personal opinion you'd be an AWESOME boyfriend! i like shy guys...leaves more for me to figure out...i like opening them and up getting to know them...maybe you could try and find someone sort of like yourself...nice, shy...ect..you might have better luck...not party-ish girls...i think you sound more like having a girl who is quiet...likes you just the way you are...maybe a girl who would enjoy just spending quiet nights with you at home or something. so...just try to find someone...more like you. it might go better..instead of going for the girl in the middle of the dance floor go for the one in the corner who is getting "ignored"...go over and talk to her. she'll most likely feel special and want to be with you becuz you payed attention to her. (i'm in the same boat with you so i'm not really sure, but it never hurts to try right?) that's how i'd like to be approached cuz i'd be in the corner, dancing in my seat...well i hope i gave you some good advice and i wish you BEST OF LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

What sort of girls are you going after, anyway?!

But seriously, girls are mostly attracted to guys they see as confident and well-groomed. Most girls also want a guy's personality to be suited to theirs. Everything else is a toss. Also, some girls like a guy who's just a little bit "hard to get" and mysterious, because it's a challenge. And everyone wants what they think they can't have. A good sense of humor will score points with most girls, too. It's a good start to be friendly without coming on too strong, and don't act too interested at first, but let things go their natural course. If something feels forced to you, it will probably seem forced to her too, and that is a big turn off. The best thing you can do is come across as patient, unassuming, and flexible-- like you're letting things happen without using the conversation as a means to an end. Whatever you do, don't assert your desired outcome or she will turn and run. This whole "finding a date" business isn't really that hard, but mostly it takes a lot of time/patience. Good luck!

Answer 3

I think you come across as being too serious, too fast and it scares the girl off. You want a girl friend so bad, you probably show it more than you think you do.

Don't worry..there is some girl out there will appreciate just who you are...the clue is when they say "they just want to stay friends"...because they know you are going to take them too seriously right off.

You have to approach taking someone out in a more relaxed way, so they won't be threatened ...and then just see what happens. The best way to do this is maybe "double date" with another couple...you can say " we would all like to go bowling or something...but I need someone to go with me....approach it that she would be helping you out. Find someone who will enjoy the others as well...and keep it casual.....if you both enjoy it, she will be open to it again.
You can say "I really enjoyed this....could we do it again some time?...but leave her room....for another time.

Girls don't want to hurt someone and will avoid getting in that situation..... Maybe you are communicating "needing a date" too much. So relax....don't give up...there are lots of nice girls just waiting for someone to call.

I have four daughters and one son...and they used to laugh about how my son would get together with his friend...on Friday nite...about two hours ahead and start calling girls to do something with them. They just wanted to go out and have some fun with them....while the girls sat at home waiting for someone to call! They said "no wonder we're having trouble if everyone waits until the last minute!

So you see you are not alone. Maybe widen your horizons a little...know any girls shyer than you? Or have a friend who you can go with as a group. Makes it much more relaxing....and then do something everyone can do...go to the movies, etc.

You sound like a nice guy.....so keep trying....but try a different approach.

Answer 4

Listen honey , you are probably looking in the wrong direction for a relationship. If girl around your neighborhood don't want to go out with you then look somewhere out of your area but not to far. You sound like a very wonderful and you should have a girl already. However if that does not work. Then don't try so hard to find a girlfriend let them find you. It works more better. Who knows there might be someone that like you to be her bf and she could be right under your nose. Be patient you will have a shorty one day.

Answer 5

OK first if your friends do that to you then maybe you should look into some new ones. Because frankly you can't really call them friends if they're going to do that to you. And second, If the girls are that shallow, then it just goes to show that they don't deserve you. Just be your self, and Love will find you when you least expect it. You deserve much better then that.

Answer 6

I know the feeling of being alone and no one sees you eventhough you tried your best...the best of your ability ... It's still not the end of the world, maybe there not the right one for you... Continue in being an outgoing and be yourself... Have a confidence in your life as always... don't lose faith in everything, it will come to you soon..just be patient and live life to the fullest...enjoy it will you still can..

Answer 7

OMG Thats hard. I need a guy that can make me laugh.I think that is so sexy. Just a sense of humor. Decent looking. Clean Clothes. Hair washed. Sweet but not afraid to argue back with me. If a boy is always gonna back down when i yell at him he isnt for me. Yell back at me. MAKE me listen but never hit me . and be honest. even if it hurts. Girls dont like whimps basically

Answer 8

I like guys that treat me with respect are cute, loving, not a player or a cheater, not into themselves, cares about their girlfriend. Basically a lot of girls want that in guys but it is hard to find. I hope you have more luck with girls don't worry you will find a girl. Good luck =)

Answer 9

Pick up this book, The Game: Penetrating the secret society of pickup artists by Neil Strauss. Read it, Learn it, Live it.

Answer 10

no girl can speak for every girl.. i took a psych course last year.. called "love" and basically dude girls go for guys that aren't the nice guy... try on-line dating i did and trust me it works.. I'm not bad looking it's just that you can't find what you want out there... i could tell you girls want the nice guy that would buy them the world... protect them from evil blah blah blah.. but until girls are in their late 20's the most they want is a nice car and a jock.. don't worry you will find someone.. she could be around you all the time.. you know that girl friend you always catch glances with... ask her out!