What do guys want?

Question

Do they just want s*x or is there more to it. Cause i broke up with my ex and the ex before that cause all they wanted was s*x. I am 16 and wondering if its true since i am kinda new to dating.

Answer 1

Most of us really only care about s*x for quite some time. (But smart ones realize they are SUPPOSED to pretend otherwise.) We're actually more like stray alley cats than dogs the way people like to say. Of course we get emotionally attached after awhile so the nature of things eventually changes.

Find yourself a shy one. Sometimes that kind values having "a real live girl" actually talking to them and spending time with them in public and won't try to take advantage. (Just the same, don't be fooled, the shy ones want in your underclothes just as much as anyone else.)

Answer 2

Sometimes I think men just express themselves in a physical way whether it is sports, food, sex, work or tinkering. Not all men, and not all the time! But often enough to see a pattern. Sometimes sex can be a stress release, a physical bonding, a punishment or an expression of a deep giving. With younger guys it seems the hormones shooting around in their systems may override their need to get to know you as a wonderful person and lead them to getting to know you in the biblical sense-lol! Not because they are bad or wrong, but it doesn't hurt to try and their bodies are saying go, go, go!
If you aren't ready, then don't! You will eventually find the right guy, at the right time and you will be better for the waiting.

Answer 3

Admittedly, guys your age will tend to focus more on sex than any other thing. It's hormones. The great thing is, this isn't going o be so forever. As you mature, so too will the guys you start going around with. Basically, guys just want someone to be with, someone to connect with. A lot of them don't realize that this connection has something to do with more than just the physical, hence they keep trying to fill this need through intimacy. Worry not, a guy will come along who will want you for more than just physical pleasure, but what is important is that you do not compromise your stand on the matter. Again I must say that, there is a whole lot more to a mature committed relationship than just sex. Take care and God bless.

Answer 4

Speaking as a guy. Sex is only in our minds when it is an option. As long as limits are set, and it is clearly stated that sex is not an option. Also take physical attraction out of the equation, and see what is left of the relationship. I like to think to myself if I would date the girl if I was blind. All guys are different, but at the same time, that means you have more options. If you don't like being objectified, move on. I wish you the best. God Bless!

Answer 5

sex is some thing essential, you can not take it out from the relation. But, as a man I would say that sex is the driving force for any relationship. if the sex was good, that will make the man thinks about other aspects, such as love,caring,being there for the girl he likes.

you are still young, so probably your boy friends also the same. at the teenage period all what matter for any boy is sex. you will find love and caring beside a good sex when you get older and find a more mature boy.

Answer 6

ALL PEOPLE ARE FUNDAMENTALLY LOOKING FOR THE SAME THING.

Always remember that . . because it's TRUE.

Think about it THIS way . . . .

SEX is a NATURAL desire that is based on the concept of ATTRACTION. The desire to MATE can be INSTANTANEOUS . . . whereas LOVE , RESPECT and TRUST are all EARNED by investing your TIME.

You can't keep expecting guys to WANT to go out with you if you BREAK UP with them whenever (and just because) they want your "affection". . . while expecting ALL KINDS OF OTHER things - like his undying devotion and attention - for YOURSELF.

Understand?

A GUYS DESIRE TO MATE WITH YOU -->> IS NOT AN INSULT. So you can stop pretending like it is and quit punishing them by DUMPING them for it.

Its practically IMPOSSIBLE for a guy to offer you LOVE, RESPECT and TRUST as long as you IGNORE his most basic needs and desires.

YOU ARE 16 YEARS OLD.

Don't be in such a hurry to grow up and "date" when you are obviously not ready yet. Noone is holding a gun to your head to have sex with a guy . . . but don't go dating guys just because it beats staying home and doing boring stuff . . .or because you want his attention.

Successful relationships that WORK are all about MUTUAL FULFILLMENT. If you are not prepared to GIVE IT, you are not ready to GET IT.

Cheers.

:)

Answer 7

Once guys get there first erection and takes care of it. They think of it all the time. It is up to us (you) to set the standard we want. We get respect if we respect our self. You do not change how you are. If they break up with you, there loss. Don't get me wrong, sex is great, but not until one is 100% ready not one day before. You have learned this as you said new to dating. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

I'm 16 as well, I'm sorry that the only guys youve dated were real jerks, but you just wait, you'll find someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve.

Answer 9

Yes. When a guy is a teen - all he wants is sex. They tend to get out of that mode after college. Dating in HS for me was a disaster b/c I wanted love & they didn't so I was just disappointed all the time. I

t got better after 21 - promise!!! They do grow up eventually, it just takes them longer than us. ;)

Answer 10

Well that's probably not what they want exactly. Sometimes they really like you but they really like having sex and they want someone who's willing to give it up to them fast, but some boys are really into sex where that's all they want from a girl. I have been through things like this and I wouldn't give it up so he had sex with someone else while we was going out. It hurted but don't let them force you. OK