I have been together with my bf(well,i should call him ex-bf now really)for 3 months,i sensed that something wasnt quite right in the last weeks but he never said anything nor answer my questions when i asked if everything was ok...
We spent the weekend together,after that one last normal call from him and then nothin.silence.he completely disappeared.He abandoned me!i called him and he said some excuse that he was ill and busy(no time for a text?)and that he would call me back after work.i never heard of him again.
After 3 months shared together!!What happened?nothing.
Can someone explain what could ahve happened in his head to give this lame treatment?
Why didnt he leave me face to face instead of doing this?silence is killing me.Give answers please!!thanx
2007-08-06 18:57:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry to hear about what you are going through. Something similar happened to me a couple of months ago after a year of dating. I felt just like you...hurt and confused. One thing I know for sure now, is that when a guy likes you and cares about you, he will call. As horrible as it sounds to you right now, you need to move on. You deserve to be treated with repsect. Somebody that doesn't have the decency to talk to you and tell you it is over doesn't deserve another thought in your mind. Be prepared though...he will call again, but after this kind of treatment don't let him waltz back into your life as if nothing happened. Be strong, move on, and KNOW that there is a guy out there that wouldn't let a day pass by without talking to you!
2007-08-06 19:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by Stepho 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me in high school...by the same guy...three different times. Now its been awhile but I still remember what I learned from it. The reason he's not just coming out and saying he doesn't want to be with you anymore is most likely for two reasons. First, he doesn't have the balls to say it to your face or even just say it over the phone, hes going to avoid you and hope you end up hating him or get the hint. Second, he doesn't know what he wants, maybe there is another girl but he wants to string you along as long as possible just in case he changes his mind...you'll still be there! This might not make you feel any better cause I know that realisation didn't make me feel too good either but seriously did you really love him? Are you hurt more because hes breaking your heart or because you want answers and your pride is hurt? I asked myself that and realised it was my pride and the fact that he wouldn't give me answers or closure! No matter how much you contact him hes never going to give you a straight answer or any closure because that would mean he'd have to admit he did something wrong. Honestly the only thing I can say is not to let him string you along. Break up with him, don't answer his calls and act like you just dont care...it wont make you feel better right this moment but when whatever he's doing right now doesn't work out and he comes back asking for a second chance shutting the door in his face is going to make you feel pretty damn good!!! Just remember your better than him, Start showing him that! That's all you need. Good luck Hun!!!
2007-08-06 19:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. B <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to move on. It is quite clear that he had lost interest.
It is not your fault and you deserve to find someone better.
Treat this episode as part of the process of learning and growing up.
If it is not going to work out, it is better that it ends early rather than late.
Give him some space (leave him be) and if he comes back to you, then you can decide if you want him then or who knows, you might have already found someone better by then.
2007-08-06 19:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by ideaquest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You left to much out to give you a good reason for his actions.I can take a guess and say he met someone else or you pushed him away or he heard something about you. Do you see what I'm saying without knowing the facts I'm guessing.One very important thing is his age you didn't even give us that.Sorry hon for not being to much help.
2007-08-06 19:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people dump people in different ways, his way is to blank you just the way he is.
after a few weeks together you start to know more about each other.i guess after all you was not his type.
best to find out after just a short 3 moths then 3 years from now.
just move on and do not give him a second thought
regards x Kitti x
2007-08-06 19:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by misskitti7® 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, end of the world, he's not calling you!
Leave him alone, somethings probably up with him. Don't jump to conclusions yet, he might not be dumping you. Just be pateint.
2007-08-06 19:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by Maggie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to give you a giant hint. He found someone hotter; get over it.
2007-08-06 19:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes a coward he dosen,t want to be with you anymore and he dosen,t know how to tell you so hes pulling the vanishing act
2007-08-06 19:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt diserve you that d i c k
just let it be ull find some one better
2007-08-06 19:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by honey baby♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has gone to pastures new and found a new girlfriend
2007-08-06 20:26:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋