Right after she turned 2, we went crazy with the potty training and she was really starting to catch on. Then...one night she was constipated and couldn't poop because it hurt. We had to give her prune juice and put a pull-up on her. Ever since that incident over a year ago now, she has not wanted to poop in the potty. We have tried everything... we've sat down and talked with her telling her that she's a big girl now and she needs to poop in the potty, she'll watch me and even tell me to "push", and we've bought a few really big toys that she can have when she poops in the potty. She knows this, because every time she pees she says, " Poop in potty, get toy?" And I repeat to her every time, Yes, if you poop in the potty you can have a toy, but you have to poop in the potty first. A few weeks ago, we even decided to leave her in underwear at night because she holds off until we put the pull-up on her to poop, but that just left about 3 dirty sheets a night. Please help!!!
2007-08-06 18:44:46 · 12 answers · asked by cheyenne2584 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
We have a potty chair which was a waste of money, she never used it, she has always used the seat on the toilet. And it's not like she is going into kindergarden tomorrow, she won't go for another 2 years...
2007-08-06 18:54:51 · update #1
I feel your pain. I have a 3 year old that refuses to use the big girl potty. She is my 3rd child, and so far the hardest to train. However from experience the time will come where they will make the decision and do it. Just be patient and do not force the potty thing all the time, it will just become a point of contention for her. I would put pull up's on her at night if she is still peeing at night. There is no harm in that. Keep up the positive talk and a little bribery will eventually work.
good luck.
2007-08-06 18:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by slice of jam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your instinct is telling you to relax the pressure and wait until she is more ready to tackle this developmental task. Follow your instinct. It won't be helpful to pressure her, and there really is nothing of a motivational sort that you can do other than what you've done - i.e., reward her for successful use of the potty. Since the pre-school setting hangs in the balance, it would be worthwhile to go for broke and have a chat with your kid. Simply tell her that one of the requirements of the school is that children have to be able to use the potty. Let her know that the school staff and you folks would like her to stay at the school, but she can only do this if he uses the potty. Show her on the calendar the time frame involved. Now, to be honest, there's no reason to expect that this will necessarily be helpful, but it's worth a shot because of the 'stakes' involved.
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2007-08-07 01:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by See the Light 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has turned into the ol' tug of war for attention issue.
You'll have to pretend it doesn't exist for a while, say a month or so. Don't get involved in poop issues, potty talk, or other references to the issue, and see if she resolves it on her own.
Toward the end of the month, help her out by putting her on the toilet and keeping her there for 15 minutes or so once in the morning and again in the evening, at the same time of day.
Good luck!
2007-08-07 03:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I have heard from other parents, I agree with the "they'll do it when they are ready" idea. My sitter just went through that with potty training her youngest at 3 yrs. She was very stubborn, and finally one day just started to be interested herself in doing it. Same with her firstborn, they were working on potty training, but it wasn't going well so they held off a little bit, then tried again and he was totally trained in 3 days! My daughter just started this weekend (she turned 3 yesterday), and so far all is going well. I've been very lucky! She must just be ready finally, cuz Saturday she had big girl underpants on all day, and although she wasn't totally comfortable with it, she ended up pooping on the big potty. Same thing on Sunday. And to give you some optimism, my brother was potty trained like your daughter, just going pee but not poop, and didn't finally do it until he was 4 yrs.! So you still have awhile, and at least half the battle is won.
2007-08-07 10:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try candy, even if it's only a few M&M's! Also, take her shopping to buy big girl undies, but make sure she knows she can only wear them if she does not potty in them. A trick from my hubbys coworker for my son (only in diapers at bedtime now), is to put undies over his diaper at night so he feels like a big boy. For my middle son the trick was his grandparents! His brother (2 years older than him) went with his grandparents often for shopping, haircuts, etc, so for his potty chart, as soon as he finished it he had a specialy day out with pop pop and grammy, they took him to McDS, ice cream, bought him a couple toys, etc. He had a blast, and it was just him, no brothers or mommy or daddy. I have all boys (5, 3, and 2), but I'm sure it could work for girls. Good luck!
2007-08-07 03:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell here that certain toys are poop-in-the-potty toys and let her see them but not touch No, that's a poop-in-the-potty toy. And use phrases and attitudes that she uses when she is going to do something really fun and exciting if you haven't.
2007-08-07 01:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sportsdress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. Be persistant. And try to keep involving HER in the process- as much as possible. Do you know of any children of roughly her age- who she might learn from? 3 years old begin to feel "peer pressure"- and maybe if she observes someone else her age "doing it" in the potty, she'll realise it's "ok" to do it- too! Good luck! :)
2007-08-07 01:58:11 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy the book "Everybody Poops" its a great book, educational, age appropriate and very good at getting the message across. You can get this book at Amazon.com I have linked the site below. Good luck with the little one.
2007-08-07 01:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the exact same things with my son you just have to keep telling her that she needs to go to the potty. But my son would not go until he was ready and one day he just got up and went like it was nothing so you may have to wait until she decides to go on her on
2007-08-07 01:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by Shana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they may sound cruel but take away a privledgefor everytime she dosent do it...if you dont poop in the potty you cant play with this toy or no desert. kindergarden is around the corner and they only take trained potty go-ers....good luck
2007-08-07 01:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by I_Taste_Like_Candi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋