Well my boyfriend and i were having a conversation about our relationship and stuff and it got pretty intense and we somehow ended up on the subject of cheating and i said something. I said that i dont think he cheats on me but i sometimes wonder ''What if he is'' and he got soo mad at me that he said he needed time alone and that he'd talk to me when he felt better cause he didnt know wat to say to me. After he said that i have felt soo terrible now and i've been crying for the past hour but he doesnt know why i think what i told him i do, but i dont know how to tell him why i think what i do. So i think im going to write him a letter(and drop it off at his house). So tell me, was i wrong?
2007-08-06 18:14:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were not wrong, it is natural to sometimes wonder about things like that. Especially when you completely trust someone you find yourself thinking.. 'maybe I trust him too much?'.. just give him a little space, but make sure he knows that you do not believe he has or would cheat on you, but sometimes, because you love him so much, you think 'what would I do if he did?'. He'll get over it, if you give him the time he needs to think this over. Good Luck.
2007-08-06 18:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Tina W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly no. If he was also in the talk it's equally his fault. It's no one's fault! You both spoke your mind which is GOOD in a relationship. No not the fighting part but you need to call him and tell him that you think what you said is wrong and what he said was wrong and hat you should brush it off. If he doesn't answer go to his house. He may be hurt just as much as U R. Find out,
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2007-08-06 18:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you were both wrong.
Your conversation with your boyfriend ended up being a kind of verbal competition that neither one of you wanted to loose. And perhaps you've won this competition when you mentioned cheating.
But as the saying goes, 'Win a fight, loose a friend'.
When you are in a fight with a friend, then it's wise to make it a draw even when you can win. And of course, it's even better to look for agreement without any fighting.
2007-08-06 18:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you were not wrong --- dont write a letter --- if you cant sort out problems face to face the relationship is in deep trouble anyway ---- talk to him --- to react so badly is not a good sign --- if he cant handle such an issue with you (look around it seems most people on here have cheating issues) then he needs to grow up ---- best wishes
2007-08-06 18:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know how to tell him, then you're with the wrong guy. And yeah... if a guy blows his stack because of something like that, then he probably did cheat. That's just me talking, but hey, I'm a guy and I've seen it in others.
2007-08-06 18:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by Zipperhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably should'nt have said that, but i dont think that was a reason to blow up on you about it, you were just talking about your relationship and expressing your thoughts.
2007-08-06 18:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by Warren G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if you honestly think he is. im a guy and i'll admit that when a girl suggests something that makes us feel uncomfortable, we make the girl feel guilty (thats what he's doing). let him get back to you and then apologize or whatever you're going to do.
2007-08-06 18:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by juan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong you were just being honest about your feelings. I have a bad feeling that your boyfriend might be hiding something.....yol need to talk.
2007-08-06 18:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was sincere, I think he would instead do some persuading to convince you that he is faithful.
2007-08-06 18:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋