My bf Tyler (Ty) plays football. One day, I went to one of his games and not as a cheerleader which I am. He got knocked over hard and was torn up at his ancle. He wanted to play but I held him down. He was 2 hurt... I told the coach to make him sit. After a LONG fight he sat. I sat beside him. Being told what to do when he doesn't want to do it makes him mad. He got so mad that on the way home he crashed. I was sitting in the passenger seat and screamed when he crashed into a wall. I had put my hands up and was OK but the car was crushed. I looked over at Ty and saw him slumped in the seat out cold. I screaned his name over & over. He didn't wake up even when I shook him. I was hugged andmobed by friends and family as I was taken out of the car and checked out OK. Ty was in a coma. The paremedics wouldn't let me ride with him but I insisted. He's still in a coma and it's a week later. It's all my fault isn't it? I haven't ate slept or anything in a week and I've been by his side.
2007-08-06 18:12:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I got pried away from him by my brothers to go eat. But I went back p to him fter half a bite. I feel sick and now I'm scared he might...
2007-08-06 18:23:57 · update #1
he wasn't taking out rage. Well he was but his footmessed up too. He swerved on accident and hit his head through the glass and then was slammed about and fell back unconcious. I feel sick and terrible and emotionally destroyed. What if he doesn't remember me or hates me or... Oh god now I'm crying and screaming again.
2007-08-06 18:28:52 · update #2
I HATEMYSELF! If I hadn't told him to sit or if I had driven or if I would've driven or something! I hate what I did what happened! I love him and he gets hurt because of something I caused! I wish I was the one in that bed in that hospital... I'm I'm going crazy with this. The dictir saud he should wake soon so I'm even more scared that he hates me or forgets me.
2007-08-06 18:45:39 · update #3
He wokelast night! Only for a minute but he was awake. He didn't remember me though but the soctor said that's normal whne they first wakeup. I wish I could go back in time and change ALL of this...
2007-08-07 03:40:42 · update #4
HOW DARE YOU VICKIE! I LOVE TY MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD AND HE SAVED ME BY PUTTING HIS BODY ON FRONT OF ME ALMOST KILLING HIMSELF TO RESCUE ME! I HOPE YOU THINK ABOUT THAT! I WILL NOT MOVE ON! I DON'T CARE IF I DODN'T EAT OFR YEARS I'LL STAY BY HIM!
2007-08-07 16:43:49 · update #5
No it is not your fault.
2007-08-06 18:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by math_prof 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not to blame. You did the right thing by not letting him play. And you seen that when the coach made him sit out the rest of the game. His anger took over him and he crashed the car not you. It is definately not your fault your bf had rage in him and took action. The best thing you can do is get some sleep, step outside that hospital for even a couple minutes and then go back to him and just be there for him. When he wakes up you need to be there to show you love him that much. It might be days, weeks, months, or years. And in all honesty he might not even remember you at all but love him anyways.
2007-08-07 01:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hello, Pixie Dust I just want to give you some words of comfort. Things happen that are beyond our control. All the time things happen. You have been by his side non-stop which obviously shows how much you care for him. You like the others have stated, were not driving so you couldn't have prevented the accident from happening. I know things are probably still crazy right now but continue to be strong. I too will pray for the both of you. I have a song I want to share with you. " You don't ever have to wonder about my love, just put your faith in my hands oh, I will always be there to hold you in my arms, don't be afraid don't worry, I'll protect you from the storm, out of everyone who loves you, I love you the most, I am just a prayer away call my name with your heart and I'll hear you, I am just a prayer away, and I'll hear every word you say when you cry at night I'll wipe your tears away just pray my love I'll be there right away.
2007-08-14 05:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by cjs23navy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not your fault. Accidents happen. Thats why they're called accidents. Because it's no ones fault. I just want you to know that I will keep you both in my prayers. But you need to eat. I'm sure that he wouldn't want you to be tore up like you are. You need to stay strong and the only way to do that is to get enough to eat and sleep. You should talk to him as often as you can. Even though he's in a coma... they say talking to them helps. Just stay strong. I'm sure he'll pull through in no time.
2007-08-14 04:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by ~<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Pixie....you made my heart ache. It WAS NOT your fault that this thing happened. I know you feel responsible, but you only made him sit down because you love him. The accident was just that. An accident. Please dear, stop blaming yourself. It will not help him, and you will only make yourself sick. Be there as you have been for him. But stop blaming yourself, please. I'd really like to know how things turn out. Could you email me? Keep in touch? Now I'll worry about you until I know. Peace to your heart.
2007-08-14 10:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jinxyblue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey...you didn't want any of those things to happen...when you asked him to sit when he got knocked over during the game was for his own good. Playing on an injured ankle will only make his condition worse...you were just concerned about him...nothing wrong with that...as for the car accident, you didn't want that to happen either...maybe he crashed because he lost control because of his injured foot...who knows the reason for that happening....don't blame yourself...you did nothing wrong...just pray for him and stay with him...
2007-08-07 01:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by geisha 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he could have been with concussion and you didn't know it you are not doctor. when he drove that could have been what he shouldn't have been doing but no one knows for sure how hurt you can get. No its not your fault this is his day and God has plans for him what we dont' know yet. if hes going to come out of it he will if not he will be where he should be with God. YOu have to leap into your faith and not blame yourself. please take care and believe. he'll be in better place if something happens or what ever. take care .
2007-08-13 23:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look i know it's a hard situation, but you can't blame your self. Accidents happen, and you don't have any control for what is pre-destined to happen. All you can really do is hope and prey for the best.
2007-08-07 01:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey.. this is not your fault. Accidents happen. Please do not beat yourself up over this. The last thing that he would want is to know that not only is he sick, but that you are going through all this. Please try to understand, there is nothing you could have done to have avoided this. I will pray for your boyfriend and for you.
2007-08-07 01:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by Tina W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No way is this your fault!! You sound like you really care for him and that is all that matters. You have to take care of yourself too...just remember that. Best wishes and my prayers are with you.
2007-08-14 22:26:30 · answer #10 · answered by He's still more than amazing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as far as I see it....it is not your fault for this accident, nor it is
your fault that he is in a coma, and it is not your fault if your
bf does not know how to control his feelings/anger, so just
wish him well...and once he recovers you need to talk to him,
about taking counseling for anger management...otherwise
it be best if you move on if no agreement is reached.
2007-08-07 01:22:47 · answer #11 · answered by Roberto D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋