This morning I woke up to the sound of my father's voice saying "Don't hit me again" to his girlfriend. About five minutes later I saw her slapping him. She kept on slapping him. My father kept trying to defend himself but, finally, after a couple of minutes he slapped her back. My dad's girlfriend immediatley burst into tears screaming "How could you hit me?". She constantly has fits of anger and hits my dad. She is around 30 years of age and does not have a drivers license. She depends on my dad to take her everywere. If my dad is late picking her up or refuses to take her someone he gets hit. I love my father too much to see him get abused. Should I confront my dad's girlfriend about this. I am afraid that if I see her abusing him again I am might intervene and do something I might regret. What should I do?
2007-08-06 17:13:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have seen my mom being hit before and I am probly as old as you are and I told her to break up with him tell him to leave this instant and never touch her again and the next day he came back and hit me and I called the cops on him and told them to arrest him for child abuse and whatever you call the other thing when you hit your girlfriend anyway next time you here that call the cops and tell them every deital if you need more help you can talk to me at salysue04@yahoo.com
2007-08-06 17:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you should talk to your father about this situation and tell him the truth on how you feel about it and let him know that you are concerned. I am not sure where you live but in the state I live in it is hard for a man to prove he has been abused by a woman but if his girlfriend wants to she can get your dad for abuse depending on where you live. Your dad may not want to hear it since he is the adult but I think that letting him know that you are concerned about him would be a nice thing to do. Approaching his girlfriend I feel is going to cause you more problems and I do not feel it would help the situation.
2007-08-06 17:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ginny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go straight to the source. Talk to your father. Tell him that you feel she is not right for him. I'm sure he'll respect your opinion, and try to see things your way. Tell him that she is not worth all of this trouble. Ask him to do some soul searching and see if he feels the need to continue the relationship.
2007-08-06 17:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Levi W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I'd let her know the next time she hit's him she's going to jail. And now they make you go through 6 months of anger control classes, and 30 day's jail time for first offense, and I would follow through and call the police, even if it upset's your Dad. He will then know how it affects you.
2007-08-06 17:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by Shawnee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? if you are underaged, i think you should find another adult to help you with this situation. ask this adult to help you in reporting this incident of domestic violence against your Dad. anyway, have you talked to your Dad about how you feel about his girlfriend abusing him? i think it's time you should. it's also your house and even if this situation does not directly involve you but it still affects you one way or another. talk to your Dad first before you even think of talking to the girlfriend. because if he takes her side when you confront her, it would surely hurt your feelings.
2007-08-06 17:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by philosophical beaver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may hit you. Your dad needs to man up and leave her. Point blank. You need to confront your dad. Tell him that if she does not leave you will call the police next time they fight and that it is affecting you.
2007-08-06 17:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you should talk to your dad before calling 911 or interfering first if they are not married he should dump her if they are engaged tell your dad to get a lawyer and make a case about it for domestic violence but tell him not to hit her because she might want ur dads money and she can tell a lawyer that he is the one being violent =)
2007-08-06 17:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by Joseito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your stepmom has probably been brought up that men cater to their wife. So in her mind she is totally in the right. You might want to talk to your dad about it though. Make sure he knows how much it upsets you that he is being hurt by her and that you want him to talk to her. It is not your place to argue with her about this or else she might have a grudge with you and that defiantly wouldn't help things at all.
2007-08-06 17:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd talk to your Dad privately and tell him how this behavior is bothering you. Maybe he needs to realize how serious the situation is, and find another girlfriend. She sounds like she is bi-polar.
2007-08-06 17:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by superbird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he needs to find someone else, because she sounds like a brat. and then tell his gf that she needs to either quit it or get lost. seriously. and if she wont give it up, then try and contact some organization or somthing. but be sure to talk to your dad too.
2007-08-06 17:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by Britt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋