My husband and I would like to renew our wedding vows for our 10-year anniversary. Our wedding had no planning involved. We got married at the courthouse with only a handful of people (7 or 8) I didn't even invite my dad :( , and we didn't have a reception to celebrate. I'm wondering if it would be completely tacky to plan a wedding like I would've wanted it. We are talking about having a ceremony in my husband's parent's backyard. Would a reception at a hall with the D.J. and catered food be too over the top? What about the wedding dress. Any advice about this would be very helpful. I don't want to look like a selfish spoiled brat because I didn't get my wedding the way I wanted it the first time.
2007-08-06 16:52:01 · 10 answers · asked by jess37_99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it would be fabulous! Plus after 10 years you REALLY have something to celebrate. Plan your dream wedding! One of the worst things in the world is looking back saying "I wish we would have......" Go for it!
2007-08-06 22:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lillianne 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Especially for a woman, the wedding day is one of the most important days of your life. The fact that yours didn't go as you may have wanted it to is less than desirable.
I think the point should be made here, thought, that even without all the frills, you obviously have done well in your marriage to last these ten years and still be going strong (High congratulations are in order. Fewer and fewer marriages are lasting so long nowadays).
As far as having a renewal ceremony, it sounds great. Many couples have these on big anniversaries even when their original weddings were gorgeous.
Remember, a ceremony where you rededicate your vows to your husband, and he to you is something for you two; not others. The fact that you are inviting them to witness such an occasion should be an honor to them.
And what you should have is also, then, completely up to you. Have that reception you've always dreamed of! Hire that D.J. to play those weddings songs you've never heard play for you! Wear your pure white wedding dress to symbolize the purity of your marriage, even these ten years later.
Invite those people who truly mean the most to you to enjoy such an honored day. Don't feel like a brat of any sort; the decision to marry is a grave one, and rededicating yourselves to each other is an honorable thing. So do it with pride and enjoy yourselves!
2007-08-06 17:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by Takkuso 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your wedding was what it was at the time, whatever the circumstances. A vow renewal is NOT "another wedding" or a "do-over" - it's simply an anniversary celebration. No big wedding dress, no attendants, no gifts... You have a ceremony at a church or another location, then a dinner and party for close family and friends. After ten years, you have hopefully had a great marriage, and should have LONG been over the fact that you didn't get your wedding the way you wanted it!
2007-08-07 02:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had a big wedding the first time, over 100 people. My husband and I renewed our wedding vows for our 11th anniversary. We had about 40 people and a reception and everything. Go for it. I think your plans sound lovely. Also, since you got married in the courthouse, you could have a church wedding now if you wanted to. I would put a little note at the bottom of the invites requesting no gifts.
2007-08-06 16:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
10 years? Congatulations! I am on 8 and counting.
Is it tacky to have a Wedding 10 years later? Sorry, but yes.
Is it tacky to have a Renewal of Vows Ceremony that can mimic the wedding you always wanted but could not afford? Absolutely NOT! A catered reception, karaoke, and a DJ? Open bar? Go nuts!
Seriously, though, every woman deserves her Dream Wedding, and you have had to put up with that lazy lout for ten long years. Live it up! Over the top is not high enough!
2007-08-06 17:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by d_cider1 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Talk to your minister.. he/she will have the best advice about what type of ceremonial options are available. Many people have had lovely prayer services or had their civil marriages blessed by a clergyperson. Another suggestion would be to consult with a party planner, a coordinator at your church, etc. and inquire what other people have done.
I would also make a list of priorities, what portions of a traditional wedding reception are most important for you to experience and focus on those, so you'll be happy with your anniversary, but will be able to avoid going over the top.
A lovely bridal type dress should be fine, but definitely speak to a bridal consultant about what types and assessories should be avoided (for example, white or cream should be fine, but a blusher veil-- symbolic of a first time bride-- might not be proper). I would pick something elegant and classic that will photograph well... you don't want your relatives to look at your pictures at your 25th wedding anniversary and say,"Eww... look at that hideous dress" (Remember those dresses from the '70s and '80s-- they were in style then but look terrible now, try to pick something that isn't dated).
10 years is a wonderful thing to celebrate so have fun!
2007-08-06 17:32:17 · answer #6 · answered by jc 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My husband and I are renewing our 1 year anniv in Feb in Maui. (which was our original wedding set date).
Due to both our families not getting their acts together and him leaving for Iraq, it was a last "minute" decision we made as we where going to Vegas anyways for his birthday (a treat as he never been there). My brother/his fiance was there along with my mom. My sister, who lives in Mississippi, got caught in each snow storm at every airport. She never got to come...:( (We live in California btw).
I didn't have "the wedding dress" no bridesmaids or anything of sort. We got married at the Little Church of the West Chapel (same one Jodie Sweeten from Full House sitcom just got married in).
We also didn't tell anyone til we got back as we knew his family would only make excuse to not go. We where tired of them being our decision makers etc.
Anyhow, the one in Maui will have my dress! on the beach, at sunset, with attending a luau (and lots of other fun stuff during the week there). Still no bridemaids, but my 2nd cousin and her husband ( my mom's niece) is now going to go. My brother/his fiance can't as she will have a newborn by then. My sister might try to still go, but that is still unsure due to my nephew/niece will be in school. Truancy is major over there so, she wouldn't be comfortable leaving them for 5 days with someone else while her husband is truck driving across state. But we want it small after all. Too my drama and stress with others....for us that is.
This is also our "honeymoon" too as we didn't get one as he is in Iraq 8 months out of the 12 we will be married......
I say do what makes you happy! I think it is wonderful to celebrate your 10 year anniv. Have what you didn't have and have a blast! It is your wedding. If others don't like it, they have a choice to attend and enjoy or don't attend and sulk about it.
2007-08-06 21:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be tacky to celebrate your tenth anniversary with a celebration in a hall with a DJ, or to re-new your vows.
I don't know about the full wedding dress though. Why not something perhaps not so fru-fru, but more who you are today? Not white, perhaps, but something subtle in your favorite colour. Celebrate the woman you have become, rather than the one you were, or could have been ten years ago.
2007-08-06 17:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Plan away! I know a couple (my aunt and uncle) who had a vow renewal for their wedding anniversary (I think it was 50th actually).
It had a DJ, food, dancing, a beautiful wedding dress (white, including a white veil), the works! It was very beautiful.
2007-08-07 01:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GO FOR IT, HONEY! Have the wedding you always wanted & wear the dress of your dreams - you deserve it!
2007-08-07 04:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋