Will the Love ever come back?

Question

I had been having issues with my ex now we were fine untill about june we had been dating for about 6 months we were best friends before that but about the end of june she left to her famils cabin for 7 days we had got into it before she left and had made up before she left or so i thought she came back and i was able to see her i was in a wedding and told her that i would see her as soon as i was done with the wedding so after the weddin i went too see her i was so tired i was falling asleep on her couch i left after about 30minutes ahe left again on a trip for about a month we didnt get to speak much on her trip her lil cuzin had her phone all the time she wouldnt let me talk to her (she dosent like me) so long story short she called me on the weekend before she came home and ended it with me she said she still cared for me but she didnt love me the way i wanted to be loved but she still wants to be friends i dont know will the love ever come back she is very young also so i dont kno

Answer 1

I feel your pain bro. Sadly these things happen EVERY day, but I know that doesn't make it any easier now. Give her time. She may just need that. Move on with your life, and see what happens. She may come to you when she is ready. If not, at least you will be on your way to healing your heart.... Good luck.

Answer 2

I feel your pain brother. If you would have used punctuation, I would have thought it was me writing all of that.

It's been a year and a half since that relationship and I still think about her all the time. We were together for 5 years and I thought we were perfect for each other until we moved nearby and then she started to seem distant.

I never heard, "I love you." anymore, and I confronted her about it. She broke it off over the phone after 5 years together but I can't say I never saw it coming.

I still love her, but the pain of doing so seems to have subsided to nearly a degree quite tolerable, considering how I felt at first. Now she's moving in with some other guy that she's with now. Apparently he's somewhat of a dumbass but it's her life and if she's happy with it, I'm happy with it.

I can tell you that you will get over it but it's not going to be easy and it's going to take some time. These are the types of things that truely test a person's character. And just so you know, I felt quite hopeless/suicidal for some time afterwards although I would never let my friends in on this little secret.

I came to terms with my genuine love for life and myself. I nearly hit rock bottom just trying to find myself. At the time we broke up, I didn't know who I was. For the longest time, we were a large part of each other's lives and once that stopped, I really did feel as if I lost a part of myself but what truely helped me what when I started talking myself up, telling myself that patience is the key. That we were never truely meant for each other and that some day, I will feel for someone else like I felt for her and hopefully that person will be mature enough to appreciate it.

I suppose the ultimate trick to find your way through the fog of depression is to continue to tell yourself that there are a million people in this world that would love to be with a guy like you and you just have to be patient. It's better than putting yourself through all the denial and hopeless wishing. Believe me, wanting to be with her is nothing but wishful thinking. Reality has been known to be quite unfair but it will teach you everything you need to know. Put hope in something solid, like improving yourself. Gain some confidence and then go fishing for someone that CAN show you the love that you deserve.

She's out there somewhere man.

Best wishes from a hopeless romantic.

Answer 3

I think what is best is to let her go. She probably was not truthful to you in the begining. This is a relationship that is a trial and error. However, we learn from past relationship and move forward. If by chance on day you come up to this type of situation again. You know how to handle it in a much formal way. Just move on there are plenty of other fishes in the sea waiting for prince or princess charming to come along a fin around with them. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I think the question you should be asking is:

why would you want to be with someone who shows so little respect for you?

If she wanted to talk to you while she was away, she would have her phone and she would answer it. Do you truly believe that her "lil cuzin" could prevent her from having access to her phone?

If there was love there in the past, be thankful for it and remember it with joy. But don't wallow in it or dwell on it. She showed you with her actions that she wasn't interested anymore, and then she told you with words.

Take her at face value. Be happy for what you once had, and move on. It would be a shame for you to miss out on what today has to offer because you're still stuck in the past.

I hope this helps you.

Answer 5

Well (SSS) it sounds like she's already made up her mind. She could probably have been talking to someone else the entire time she was away. Sometimes girls like to have their cake and eat it too. Which would explain why she broke it off with you so abruptly. You should probably consider moving on. If she changes her mind she will let you know. In the meantime if what you want is more than friendship don't settle for just being her friend because that's all you will ever be.

Answer 6

U will just have 2 get over her. I'm not gonna lie 2 u, it won't b easy but u have 2 try ur hardest. It doesn't sound like she loves u any more cuz she's moving in with another guy. U can't spend ur whole life moping around waiting 4 her 2 come bac 2 u. U have 2 move on w/ ur life and u will feel much better.

Answer 7

love is always not about been together.do yourself a favor, let yourself lose.love needs sacrifice.when u learn this you will know that with sacrifice comes a lot of responsibility.with responsibility comes commitment.if she's too young too understand that, then u should understand it.knowing the reality now is better than knowing it after several years.hey man..stay cool

Answer 8

dating ruins friendships forever and love never comes back in both parties. your screwed.

Answer 9

just let it go and learn from this and move on.