I want to be a good girlfriend, but I dont want my boyfriend to take me for granted... I know he wouldnt intentionally but how do you keep it from happening?
2007-08-06 16:25:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You gotta let him do stuff that he likes doing but that falls down under alone time..... you gotta stand your ground as well. if he goes out with friends and like say an ex is goign to be there... say that the ex thing is weird... and say that you would like to go or maybe he should plan another time to hang out because it wouldn't be to nice even if you trust him 100% and if he gives you crap like you're jealous or controlling.. just say that what if YOU were going out with GF's and your ex was there... how would he feel.... say all this in a very non controlling way and if he gets a temper just keep talking in a normal chill voice. this all goes back to standing your ground.
Do things with him that he likes... I like to goto sporting events and my girlfriend bought season tickets to the SF Giants for my birthday... she hates baseball but knows how much i like it and even goes with me. i'm damn lucky... and i let her know everyday.
2007-08-06 16:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by travelimits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define what actions constitute being a doormat, and then refuse to do them to any great degree. Basically, be firm. Two things can result:
(1) He leaves you because you aren't a doormat, in which case you have not lost anything bad.
(2) He stays with you and you don't get taken advantage of.
Always keep him on his toes. Create the illusion of competition (without infidelity).
If you feel like a doormat, tell him directly. Not in some roundabout way, not with anger or nagging. Just let him know plainly.
However, it is all up to you.
2007-08-06 16:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by TSSA! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support your boyfriend. Show him that you are interested in him and be there for him when he needs you. At the same time, you should expect the same caring and courtesy from him. A Good relationship is one that involves love and mutual respect of each other's boundaries. When one partner starts to take advantage of the other, it is time either to either work out your differences or say goodbye.
2007-08-06 16:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sicilian Godmother 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out of my past relationships i learned it is a thin line to tread. communication and known expectations are a must. don't assume anything especially in the beginning. good luck.
2007-08-06 16:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ben S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love yourself first and then you won't allow any mistreatment.
2007-08-06 16:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat him like gold, and expect the same from him. if he can't do that, tell him to shape up. if he still can't, dump his butt.
2007-08-06 16:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋