Ever since she had a b/f she started ignoring me. Got on my nerves a couple of times and refuses to acknowledge what she is doing- the usual girl ignoring friends after getting a b/f- the works. And still keeps saying I am her "best friend". She is the one who is busy all the time and blames me for it. Dunno how to handle this. Her family also invited me over..which makes it even more awkward as I am sure my friend has told all kinds of things to them about me. If I dont go, again everyone will think I am the bad one in the relationship. And I am still too bitter to go- dont think I can manage even a smile. Frankly, I've been trying hard to avoid her till I get over it. What is the right thing to do?
2007-08-06 16:16:29 · 8 answers · asked by maya 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
be very nice but explain that you and a friend are going out of town that weekend and unfortunately you can't change your plans. then go somewhere either alone or with a friend. That way you'll be telling the truth and you won't have to show up
2007-08-06 16:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't go....who cares what her family thinks or says about you...the two of you clearly aren't friends anymore. It's great she has a man in her life and all, but you don't dump your friends for a guy...sure there are readjustment periods which are to be expected, but a good friend would confess to it and work it out with her girls. Men come and go, girlfriends are forever...kick her to the curb.
2007-08-06 16:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by Michele 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you feel obligated, send a gift.
otherwise, politely decline stating you already have plans for that date.
You are under no obligation to even send the gift, but if you want to salvage the friendship at a later date, perhaps you should.
you could also be honest with this friend and tell her what you have mentioned here. Friends are supposed to talk honestly with each other and if she gets defensive, she is not worth the effort.
2007-08-06 16:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by rcsanandreas 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The right thing to do is to love yourself. If you love yourself and don't love your friend much anymore, you should not attend the wedding. Attending the wedding will give you stress and that's bad for your own health. Don't attend.
2007-08-07 04:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely decline, saying you've made other plans.
It's the only way she can get the hint that when you're not a priority, neither is she.
2007-08-06 16:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you too immature to understand that even when you have a friendship going, getting a boyfriend takes first place over that....it would be the same for you if the position was reversed.
You can still do things together if you double date, etc....but she is not going to choose you over him...and it is unreasonable of you to expect it.
Instead you should be feeling glad for her....your turn will come.
Instead...you are hanging onto a "grudge"...and what has she done...you are just jealous of wanting her total attention...not worthy of you!
If you don't want to totally lose this friendship forever, put away the hard feelings and go to the shower, etc. She must want you there or you wouldn't have been on the invitation list!
2007-08-06 16:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Politely send your regrets--it's not her business what, if anything, you are doing then. Better not to go than to go and feel resentful because she's been ignoring you.
2007-08-06 16:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by VeggieTart -- Let's Go Caps! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just decline and send a card or something. Who cares what her family thinks? She clearly isn't a friend to you, so why should you pretend to be one to her?
2007-08-06 16:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋