This guy and I've been really good long-distance friends (have spooned before we separated for the summer) for these past two months. We'll meet soon next month, but we will have only a month with each other before we separate again...this time for a whole year (one of us is going overseas). Neither of us wants to ask each other out - Well, I don't know how the guy thinks about me, but even if I want to ask him out, I can't, because I know there will be a year of virtually no opportunity to meet him. If we start anything emotional right now, it will definitely be risky...and difficult. All I can say is: there is attraction but - because separation is impending - both parties cannot commit and instead can only choose to be sort of like "friends with benefits" (though emotion & loyalty are there) for the short period of time that they can be together. Can we still be friends with benefits when - heh - at least I am afraid that this fragile bond of loyalty and attraction might break?
2007-08-06 16:01:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds familiar...
I had something that was almost exactly the same...until we had a nasty ending and we don't speak anymore. And that totally surprised me given how nice and thoughtful we both were to each other at first.
So...yeah...I'm pretty sure it'll be very difficult.
Think 2ice before u act
2007-08-06 16:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by etudiant87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the contrary my dear, FWB can be a great deal if you have some ground rules:
1. Neither of you is married/engaged/dating.
2. You are good friends, but don't ever plan to marry each other. (You're not THAT kind of friends).
3. Neither of you has a crush on the other, or if you ever did, you're completely and totally over it.
4. You both are rooting for the other to find a proper mate, because you care about them and want them to be happy long-term..
5. You both understand and agree that you are only doing each other a favor by helping with the physical need, until someone comes along for either one of you that satisfies more.
6. If one of you finds a gf/bf, the other will be happy for you and have no hard feelings.
7. If you find each other "in between" bf/gf, you'll have no problem doing the FWB thing again.
If all of the above are true, FWB is an excellent way to keep in practice, and to keep from feeling sorry for yourself when you don't have a bf/gf.
Good luck!
2007-08-06 23:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mike M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skip the benefits and just stay friends.
2007-08-06 23:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it...especially if you're expecting something in the long run. It won't be worth it in the long run, trust me
2007-08-06 23:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by Princess_LOLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋