That my daughter and her boyfriend haven't had sex? They are 12 and live together in my house. Her boyfriends theripist told me. He tells her everything! We are leaving them home this weekend because my husband, daughter, and I are going to Miami for my daughters dance thing.
Would you leave them alone ??
2007-08-06 15:58:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
not in the same room! He has his own room. At the top of the stair case their is a sensor. If weight gos on the stairs, then an aarm goes off
2007-08-06 16:06:22 · update #1
read my profile! i share this account with my daughter and her boyfriend!
2007-08-06 16:23:14 · update #2
sorry! i just re-read my question and I discovered that it might confuse you. I'm proud that they arent having sex. I dont want them to
2007-08-06 16:25:23 · update #3
What kind of mother even allows her 12 year old girl to have a boyfriend? Be prepared to be a grandma in about 2 years.
2007-08-06 16:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
excuse me??? you are shocked that they are 12 and have not had sex yet??? what?? what age do you think kids should be having sex??
Why is her boyfriend living with you? why are you letting them play house? this is beyond odd.....
little story I use to work at an elem. school and I had to quit after one of our 4th grade girls got pregnant... yup a 4th grader!!! she was 10!
next question do you really want to trust 2 12 year olds with the care of your home while you leave town??
and why is the theripist telling you anything that goes against doctor/patient confidence??
and last to answer your question, no I would not leave them alone they are minors and frankly that is child abandonment
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ok we get the sensor thing but that only works when it is armed and if you are out of town how are you going to stop them??
also just look around at the questions on this site all over you see questions from girls under the age of 16 who are pregnant. I just read one where a 13 year old is getting pressured into sex.... I'm sure you think you daughter will tell you everything but did you tell your parents everything also it is better to be safe rather then sorry, I went and read your other posts and you are shocked we are responding like we are about the fact he lives with you but in the other 3 posts you have you got the same response.
If his home life is so bad you need to call child services..... you are harboring a runaway and his parents can press charges and if you respond with comments about his home life you will have nothing to back you up....
on another note leaving them all alone over a weekend with you so far away in miami is giving them permission to have sex........I mean honestly you are fooling yourself
I'm surprised your husband hasn't really pushed his side this could be a real deal breaker between your husband and you when something does happen (and it will)
2007-08-06 23:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by anorathepain 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have my suspicions about this question. I can't see a responsible parent asking a question like this, therefore I suspect that you're one of the 12 year olds trying to pull a fast one. However, if you are the parent then I'll answer the question with a response I'd give any adult contemplating such a thing.
From your question, about leaving them alone, are you talking about leaving them without any adult supervision. If you are, you're asking for trouble. Not because of what they might do, but what will happen if someone discovers two 12 year olds on their own for an entire weekend, with no supervision. Getting back to the issue of possible sexual activity between these kids, the only reason it hasn't happened is because (a) they are too young to understand their relationship beyond close friendship, or (b) constant adult presence prevents any privacy for unwanted trysts. However, leaving them alone is a recipe for disaster. Whether or not they engage in any intimate activity while left alone for the weekend, the police are going to take great interest in two 12 year olds with no adult supervision. When you return, you may find those kids in the custody of Children's Services, and the police waiting for you with an arrest warrant, for child abandonment, and leaving these youngsters at risk.
I think you and your husband are irresponsible, and just plain stupid, for even considering leaving these two kids alone without any supervision. A question like this should never have been posted on this board.
2007-08-06 23:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is your 12 year old allowed to live with her boyfriend? And you're leaving two 12 year olds alone for a weekend? I'd question that if I were in Child Protective Services. And if a therapist is telling you everything a patient has said in a private meeting, there's something wrong there too. What world do you live in?
2007-08-06 23:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by C B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. It all depends on your trust in them. They haven't had sex YET!!! Isn't there someway you could have even one adult be there while you're away. They must be really good kids, and good for them, but they also are human. I'd honestly be inclined to try to have an adult stay w/them if at all possible. I just wouldn't want to push my luck nor would I want them to be tempted to the max! You know them better than anyone else, but you still are asking this question! That therapist is betraying patient confidentiality also. That is not a wise move on their part!
2007-08-06 23:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i cannot believe is YOU.
hasn't this issue been resolved yet? you have asked us a million times if what you're doing is kinda weird and a lot of us said there is a problem here not only with the kids but with you. you are the adult here. i told you before that you should listen to your husband. get a relative to stay with them if you can't be dissuaded from leaving... if something happens, there will be a whole gallery of us singing the I TOLD YOU SO song from Will and Grace.... just kidding... it's just that i am a mom too and i cannot for the life of me understand what's going on inside your head.
2007-08-06 23:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by philosophical beaver 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HMM why would you let your 12 year olds boyfrined live with you and do you let them sleep in the same room? Not good if they are sleeping together dont you think you kinda caused it??
2007-08-06 23:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by Italy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're full of crap.
Your other questions indicate that you ARE the 12 year old.
2007-08-06 23:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
12? and you want them to have sex? are you nuts? what if she got pregnant? or an std? or something? and shes 12? not to mention thats rape if under 16!!!!!! i think social services should come check out your house??
2007-08-06 23:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
your not much of a parent to even have her boyfriend living with you. it almost sounds like your dissappointed that they havent had sex yet, sounds like your daughter is smarter than you appear to be.
2007-08-06 23:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by twinkle2twinkle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋